Posts by dreamofbeingthin

Original Post by shosho420:

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Original Post by dbackerfan:

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Original Post by canadianwoman:

You need to make an attitude change and don't let yourself bomb out of college like you did last time, because than your father may be right. Don't give him that satisfaction.

You have received so many helpful suggestions on here over the last year, but have ignored every single last one. You are in your mid twenties and need to learn that nobody else is responsible for your actions, life or situation but you.

Look at spending the hours per day of moping that you do at a part time job instead.

It's not like i'm sitting around not doing anything with my life. I am in nursing school--i chose this path in hopes that it will grant me some independence and away from this hell. I am so tired of everyone in this forum trying to make it seem as if I am a lazy mooch, when I am trying so hard and desperately to get out of this dyfunction I am in. But its so hard to cope when you have your father, mother, and sibling abusing you in every possible way. My sibling comes over  and she sees me studying and will say "I am so glad I dont have to do that anymore. Nursing is probably so easy". It's TOUGH. dealing with this abuse and constant bullying all the time. It's like they gripe that my life hasn't going anywhere but they are doing every thing in their power to prevent me from achieving any type of success with their belittling comments.

I don't think anyone here is saying you are lazy and mooching, but I will say it sounds to me now with this post you actually are looking for any excuse to drop out prove your parents right and become a lazy mooch.

Again, why study in this house?  Stay at school find the library and study there.  Go to a coffee shop and study there, are there any fellow classmates who would like to form a study group?  Go to their homes and study there with people who are going through the same situation.

The only thing you should have to do at home is fix your meals, shower and sleep.  

Even if your program is a fast track- you still can stay at school to study instead of the negativity in the home.  

One can only say "woe is me" so long before people who are trying to be supportive are going to start ignoring you, seeing you as someone who is attention seeking and looking for sympathy.  After awhile if someone doesn't see you taking action to improve your lot in life then well  guess what I wouldn't waste anymore time with you either.

 

I don't have a car so I have to get a ride to class. If I borrow my parents car they complain so I study at home on the weekend.. I get out of class late at night everyday, so I don't have time to go to a coffee shop to study. Soon as I get home I hit the books and study till 3 or 4 in the morning.

If you only go 5 hours a day why didn't you take the morning classes, why are you getting out late at night? I take it you go to a votech school since you mentioned "accelerated"? Which is also confusing because you mentioned you payed for your own books and those things are typically compt (included in ur tuition package) in an accelerated program. Even junior colleges as well as every school offers fafsa  so money shouldn't be an issue.  Like my psychology book last semester was 150$ from my school but I got it from amazon for like 40$. There is no reason to pay thousands for books.

Evening classes were the only classes that were available. I took what i could get. I did get a small loan for my books but everything was not covered. I had to pay for the remainder of the books I needed.

Original Post by theviewfromhere:

Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:

 

I cannot concentrate at all in RN school.  My father is so critical of me and always putting me down. I barely can focus on my studies because I spend so much time crying all the time. He tells me I am a burden and that my dream of being a nurse is just a pipe dream. He compares me to other people who have good jobs and money by telling me how much they have and how i don't have anything, and that I am an old maid. I dont know what to do. I dont have the energy to do anything with my life right now

He gets angry when I am in my room studying, by calling me crazy. He complains when I am in the front room studying by saying I am a nutcase, and that I am studying 'too much'. Yet the moment he sees another relative with a nice car or job, he is the first to point out why I don't have it...i dont know what to do anymore.

1. your dad is an ****. you're under no obligation to attend to the opinions of ****.
2. i went to grad school with a single mom of five kids who did two degrees back to back while working full-time and supporting her family (her ex was a deadbeat dad). she's now working on her PhD. you don't know what working hard looks like. school is a breeze compared to real life.

My dad doesn't see it that way. He constantly compares me to my sibling (or anybody) who has a good job and money. When she visits he boasts about her, and says "see your sister has done so much with her life while dream (me) is still chasing that pipe dream of being a nurse". I cry and dread everytime my sister visits because my dad does this every single time. I have become very very depressed. He goes on this lecture about how I need to do something with my life, that I haven't accomplished anything, and all I do is sit in my room all day studying while my sibling is making lots of money... He complains that I am in my room too much studying, he'd complain if I went to the coffee shop and studied by saying I am just BSing around with my life. He puts me down in front of my sister and praises her, tells her how much of a **** up I am. I feel suicidal

Original Post by clharr:

There are other options.  There are many healthcare professions that don't require a 4 year degree.  There is a CNA or LVN, both of which would get you jobs much more quickly.  You don't seem to want to consider them.  There is also the navy as I mentioned before.  $5,000 would give you all you need to move out and you would also get $1,000 a month to live on.  Did you look at my first post?  That is as close to what you want as you are going to find.  You could also apply for student loans.  What you are not going to find is a handout.  You want someone to support you while you are in school.  You can find that but you will have to either pay the money back somehow or put up with your family.  Those are your options.  Choose.

Allright, I will look into the navy. I need a way outta here. I'm just falling into such a deep depression that I don't even want to live anymore. I can't even focus on studying with everything that's going on around here.

Original Post by canadianwoman:

You need to make an attitude change and don't let yourself bomb out of college like you did last time, because than your father may be right. Don't give him that satisfaction.

You have received so many helpful suggestions on here over the last year, but have ignored every single last one. You are in your mid twenties and need to learn that nobody else is responsible for your actions, life or situation but you.

Look at spending the hours per day of moping that you do at a part time job instead.

It's not like i'm sitting around not doing anything with my life. I am in nursing school--i chose this path in hopes that it will grant me some independence and away from this hell. I am so tired of everyone in this forum trying to make it seem as if I am a lazy mooch, when I am trying so hard and desperately to get out of this dyfunction I am in. But its so hard to cope when you have your father, mother, and sibling abusing you in every possible way. My sibling comes over  and she sees me studying and will say "I am so glad I dont have to do that anymore. Nursing is probably so easy". It's TOUGH. dealing with this abuse and constant bullying all the time. It's like they gripe that my life hasn't going anywhere but they are doing every thing in their power to prevent me from achieving any type of success with their belittling comments.

My parents are not paying for my education. I saved up the money for books and supplies when I was working before I started the RN program. Dad agreed to just let me do my thing but he has a terrible impulse to downtalk me anytime he gets a chance. Everyday he tells me I am a burden, that if it was up to him he would have kicked me out on the street on my 18 Bday...I dont know what to do or where to go. Somedays I cannot study. If someone gets a new job or a car, he puts me down by saying "look at sue she has a new car and here you are chasing this pipe dream trying to be a nurse" I dont have any motivation to live anymore. I have no life left inside of me

society places a lot of importance on youth in society. i dont want to look old to other people or else i'll lose value

I'm old and I'm dark. I feel like i'm losing value everyday

Original Post by canadianwoman:

It also doesn't last and last time I checked you were broke and trying to go back to school and living at home because for some reason you think your parents should still have to let you live there rent free.

You've screwed up how many years of your life by only being concerned about ridiculous petty things like this?

The only people that I know of that don't age as fast as the rest of the population have a genetic medical condition called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. They have diseased collagen and have really poor wound healing because their skin doesn't regenerate and shed off as much as a normal person. And unfortunately internally they are aging and falling apart much faster than the average person. Their skin does not age as fast.

Now this comes with nasty symptoms like chronic joint pain, easily dislocated joints, compounded daily wear and tear that your body doesn't recover from, plunging blood pressure, heart complications and in my case the need for a kidney transplant. I would cheerfully look two decades older to be free of this damn disease. And at 30 even I can't be mistaken for somebody much younger than 24-25 or so.

I never said I think my parents should let me live at home rent free. I didn't come here for you to throw my situation in my face like that. It's very rude and inconsiderate

Original Post by canadianwoman:

Not more of this crap again, get over yourself and get on with your life instead of being so incredibly superficial and whiny.  You are in your mid 20s, you aren't going to look 18 anymore.

some people still do. i want to be one of them

i mean what is that number in feet and inches