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Health & Support just had an awful talk with my parents. Feb 02 2013
03:04 (UTC)
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It may be that you're not actively trying to lose weight, but it sounds very much like you still want to lose weight, and perhaps you aren't actively trying to prevent it. If the people around you think you're really starting to look underweight, then listen to them. Most of us cannot judge our own bodies objectively, especially those of us with poor body image in the first place. I know you said in your other thread that you do not have an eating disorder, but to me, this thread sounds very much like you are heading in that direction. It's really, really, (reallyreallyreally) common for people with eating disorders, or the beginnings of eating disorders, to feel that they look overweight/flubby even when they're underweight (even seriously, dangerously underweight). That's part of the disorder. And when you're underweight and haven't been eating well, it's also common to have little appetite. Gaining to a healthy weight can mean having to push through that lack of appetite and forcing yourself to eat until your body has started to heal enough to regain some normal digestion and appetite.

If you find yourself questioning whether you want to gain weight, despite your Mom's concerns, then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Talk to your doctor about your concerns, and bring your Mom along so that she can express an objective opinion on how you're doing. Your doctor may be able to refer you to someone who can assess you for an eating disorder and get you some support.

Health & Support cancer survivor Feb 02 2013
02:32 (UTC)
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Hey there. I'm around your age, and I can only imagine what you're going through right now, especially if you're having trouble finding support. It's true a lot of the weight gainers on these forums are recovering from eating disorders. Have you tried searching for chemo-specific support websites or forums? I'm sure there must be some out there. I would try to dig up some for you, but I'm not sure exactly what you're looking for or what you may have come across already. Apart from that, would it be possible to see a dietician? They might be able to help you figure out what kind of nutrition you need and design an eating plan, especially if you can find one who is experienced in working with cancer patients.

My experience is totally different, since I've never had cancer, and when I had to gain weight, it was the result of an eating disorder. However, as a result I do know what it's like to have to force yourself to eat when you're feeling sick or just not hungry. Hopefully some of the things that helped me might be somewhat useful to you, too. Keep in mind that I know nothing about nutrition for cancer patients, so interpret this in the context of any specific nutritional needs you may have. You could try:

- eating by routine; set specific times or time intervals to eat at

- buying lots of tasty foods, things that are easy and (would usually be) pleasurable to eat (This includes junk food. If your body is starving, it's just not important to worry about being a paragon of healthy eating.)

- focus on calorie dense foods that don't fill you up too much (e.g. nuts, avocados, whole dairy, dried fruit, junk food, baked goods)

- eat foods that are gentle on the stomach (I find starchy foods that aren't too high in fiber are good for this. Think bread, rice, potatoes. Dairy and acidic foods may cause upset; if you find that's the case, then avoid those.)

- get calories through liquids like Gatorade or juice (Avoid really acidic juices like orange or grapefruit, as well as any kind of pop or fizzy drink)

- drink nutrition shakes like Ensure or Boost (which you can get at most drug stores), or homemade alternatives (e.g. http://presbyterianrecord.ca/2012/11/08/homem ade-ensure-and-smoothie-recipe/)

I hope that some of that helps. Regardless, I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong. *hug*

Health & Support ED recovery help Feb 02 2013
01:17 (UTC)
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If you can get access to professional support in recovery, then do so, whether at home or in the hospital. I haven't experienced recovery as an inpatient, so I can't tell you much about it, but definitely look into that option. If you're going to go through recovery at home, have your doctor on board to monitor your health, as well a dietitian and therapist experienced in dealing with eating disorders. It's really important that they be experienced/trained in dealing with eating disorders, because if they are not, they may be giving you advice that isn't optimal for recovery, or worse, advice that's counterproductive and/or triggering. Depending on where you live, there are sites out there that can help you to find ED specialists in your area (or inpatient programs). Most can be found easily through Google (I'd find some for you, but I'm not sure where you live.)

In the meantime, check out the weight gain forums. There are lots of people going through the same things you are, and lots of resources to help you out. Here are some good threads to start with:

http://caloriecount.about.com/forums/weight-g ain/aim-gain-guide-weight-whatever-reason

http://caloriecount.about.com/forums/weight-g ain/recovery-weight-gain-information-scientif ic-research

I recovered at home, mostly on my own, and the best advice I can give you is to NOT do the same. Seriously. Recovery is hard enough as it is. My recovery took so much longer than it needed to, and was just that much more stressful than it needed to be, because I had to police my own eating and doubted myself every step of the way. I'm still dealing with the psychological aspects (with the help of therapy), because those are really almost impossible to deal with on your own. Getting help means stacking the odds in your favour, so that you're much more likely to recover and get healthy. Best of luck. We're all here for you. :)

 

Health & Support Weighing Oneself Feb 02 2013
00:36 (UTC)
2

Weight fluctuation is totally normal, for everyone. It depends a lot on factors like the regulation of fluids in your body and the contents of your digestive system. Your body isn't a machine, it's a living system, so it doesn't maintain everything in an exact constant state. Instead, it's always changing and tweaking things as part of the process of maintaining balance.

If you have a history of disordered eating, I'd recommend not weighing yourself at all (even out of curiosity). Throw away or at least hide the scale, if that helps remove the temptation. If you're physically healthy, and don't need to gain anymore, then your exact weight really isn't important. I've been there too. I'm much happier, and have a much healthier relationship with my body, when I don't know my weight at all.

Weight Gain Vegetarian trying to gain weight!!! Jun 01 2011
17:27 (UTC)
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When it comes to weight gain, calories are key. If you don't have surplus calories, you're not going to gain; and even when you think you're adding more, you may not be getting enough to really see results, especially if you're very active. Do you know how much you eat each day? If not, consider setting a daily caloric goal to try to meet each and every day (breaking it down further into smaller per-meal goals to meet, if you like). Make sure to cover any calories you burn exercising, too.

To figure out how much you need to eat to gain, enter your stats and average daily activity in here: http://www.health-calc.com/diet/energy-expend iture-advanced

This will give you the number of calories you burn in a day. To gain 1 pound per week, you then add 500 calories onto that for your daily caloric goal. To gain 2 pounds per week, add 1000 calories. (3500 kcals = 1 pound; 500 x 7 = 3500, 1000 x 7 = 7000)

If you don't see results after a couple of weeks of reliably eating the goal amount, then increase it by increments of 200-500 until you do start gaining. It may seem like a lot of food at first, but it helps if you break it down into several meals a day (ex. breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, snack), and focus on calorie dense foods like nuts, full-fat dairy, oily fish, etc.

Hope that helps, and ask away if you still have questions or need advice. :D

Weight Gain "Full-Fat"? May 31 2011
16:14 (UTC)
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Aw, that's a shame that it's so expensive. I supposed it's because of the distance. :( The flavours are all good, honestly; it's hard to choose a favourite. But I'm quite fond of the blackberry and prune + fig flavours.

Health & Support BMR question? May 31 2011
15:59 (UTC)
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By definition, BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate) cannot include your level of activity, because it's the number of calories you burn each day just staying alive, before any sort of activity. So, basically, the amount of energy you would burn if you were in a coma. If your activity level is being included in the calculations, then the number you're getting is your daily caloric burn (BMR + activity), and does include walking, standing, exercise, and so on.

 

Weight Gain "Full-Fat"? May 30 2011
14:17 (UTC)
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Original Post by heartkilla:

I thought I'd add this since no one else has mentioned it: if you aren't fond of full fat dairy or just want more healthy fats rather than saturated, buy the fat free stuff and add almond butter! It's delicious.

Saturated fats aren't unhealthy in the least; your body needs them for any number of different functions. There's a lot of evidence coming out now that the old studies finding correlations between sat. fats and heart disease were seriously flawed, and that there's really no proven benefit to avoiding them whatsoever. Though adding nut butters to yoghurt is still a tasty, easy way of upping the calories and getting some fats. ;)

To the OP: Where in Canada are you? I live in Ontario, and buy Liberté brand Mediteranée yoghurt. It's produced by a Québec company and is pretty widely available in the eastern provinces (plus it's delicious, and fairly reasonably priced at least where I buy it). Otherwise, Astro produces a 6% balkan style yoghurt (it comes in a red and white tub with a cow on the front) that I think is distributed nationwide, and is generally pretty cheap.

Weight Gain Calories per meal & snack, Recovery May 30 2011
02:03 (UTC)
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If you're over 21, you'll need a minimum of 2500 calories/day sedentary to gain; if you're a teen, you'll need at least 3000. Spread evenly throughout the day that breaks down into 600 for each main meal + 250 for each snack to reach 2500, or 700 for each meal + 300 per snack to reach 3000. I've pre-planned calories by meal and snack from the beginning to spread my intake throughout the day, and it definitely makes it a lot easier to get all the cals in. Hope that helps!

Weight Gain "Full-Fat"? May 29 2011
13:00 (UTC)
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^ Yep yep. If you're still confused at all, typically full-fat milk is 3.25%ish, and whole yoghurt around 6%, although the fat content of yoghurt can vary quite a bit. If you can find higher, go for it. I personally get an 8% yoghurt that I absolutely love.

Health & Support Do I need a slap or is this possible? May 26 2011
22:20 (UTC)
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It's possible. One of my oldest friends is like that... she's been underweight her entire life, and she's perfectly healthy at that weight. Thing is, she doesn't want to be that thin. Shopping for clothes that fit is always a pain, people often mistake her for someone much younger, and so on. She's also very athletic, and her weight actually became something of an impediment at times; I remember when the two of us were taking sailing certification together, the teacher almost didn't give her her certs... not because she hadn't earned them, but because he was concerned that she was too small to handle the boats they use in the next level. So being in that tiny percentage of the population that falls below average BMI isn't all it's cracked up to be.

As Innocenteyes says, I think the real question isn't whether that weight could possibly be healthy for you, but rather what you could possibly gain from being at that BMI. If you stay at a sub-normal BMI, you might be healthy.... but you can never be totally sure if that's really you or the ED talking. Either way, if you're limiting yourself by staying at the lowest weight you think you possibly can, you're still humouring your ED, and as long as you do that, it's impossible to kick it entirely. What harm can it do to gain past the usual healthy weight marker, even if your set-point is lower than average? The higher you gain, the better your chances of not relapsing are supposed to be. If you're truly meant to be lower, your weight will even out somewhere where your body is happy once you are truly 100% no longer restricting. 

Weight Gain needs advice and help for aa single mom! May 26 2011
12:40 (UTC)
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Original Post by loopydingdong:

Definately start eating 4000 today. As for calculating cals in homemade stuff, why not look up some high calorie spaghetti (because it seems you like this! :) ) dishes, ones that include nutritional values, and just follow the exact recipe, i.e weigh out the correct amount of pasta etc

You can also enter the calories for a regular serving size into this site as a custom food item. Then measure the amount you're going to use to cook, and enter that into your log. The site will automatically calculate the calories in your serving size based on the calories you've entered for the standard serving size. :)

jillyjellybeans: Those are symptoms experienced by anorexics, yes, but that's because those are all signs of malnourishment/starvation. Anyone who is significantly underweight or undernourished will experience them, regardless of their mental state.

Health & Support Mycobacterium kansasii and Antibiotics May 26 2011
00:42 (UTC)
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You never want to stop taking antibiotics before you finish the full round of treatment, especially without seeking medical advice beforehand. The problem is that even when you are no longer experiencing symptoms, the bacteria may still be there in reduced numbers. Antibiotic treatments are designed to last long enough to be absolutely sure that all bacteria has been killed off. The problem is that any bacteria that have survived this far are going to be those with genetic mutations that give them greater resistance to the antibiotics. If you stop taking them now, those bacteria will be able to reproduce and recolonize again, and because the remaining bacteria are antibiotic resistant, they will pass that trait on to their offspring. So then you'll suffer the same bacterial infection, but it will be much harder to treat, because the antiobiotics that you're taking now will no longer be as effective.

I strongly advise you to keep taking them. Weigh your priorities. Would you rather lose weight but get sick again, or would you rather guarantee that you're 100% better, and take a little longer to reach you goal? At the very least, consult with your doctor before you do anything.

Health & Support Can somebody please help me with compulsive overeating May 26 2011
00:31 (UTC)
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Original Post by snailrind:

Last time I had an emotional/practical issue that needed dealing with, I went and surfed Amazon for a while, reading customer reviews about books on the subject, and following links and recommendations to related books. Eventually I found a couple of really great books that helped me a lot. This might be a good first step for you if you're not keen on therapists or 12-step programmes.

On the subject of self-help books, I've heard a lot of good things about Geneen Roth -- she's written a number of books on overeating/emotional eating for women. I haven't personally read any of them, but I've flipped through, and her writing seems really insightful. Best of all, her focus isn't on just "fixing" the behaviour, or losing weight... it's about finding the underlying problems so that they can be dealt with properly, and developing a healthier relationship with food so that you can once again enjoy it as you deserve to without all the emotional baggage.

I believe this is her first book, but there are several more that cover similar ground:

http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Hungry-Heart-Ex perience-Compulsive/dp/0452270839/ref=sr_1_9? ie=UTF8&qid=1306369790&sr=8-9

Weight Gain Fibre May 26 2011
00:09 (UTC)
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Original Post by amiewills:

Original Post by emsaurus:

I'm finding that after some meals I'm really uncomfortably full, even despite loading up on fairly dense foods, or I wouldn't bother to ask.

Maybe it's not about the fiber, but rather the quantity or volume of the food you are eating.  NATURAL fiber (think fruit and veggies) is very important for your digestive health, and after having several stomach issues I would NEVER suggest reducing the amount you are eating.

And if the problem is constipation, for me nothing seems to do the trick like running.

I do find that I digest the fibre from fruits and veggies a lot better than other sources. Not sure why. :P They still cause issues if I eat more than a small serving (>1c), but I can tolerate them if I spread them throughout the day. That's where the bulk of my fibre is coming from now, really, since I've pretty much entirely cut out whole grains etc. which were terrible for triggering the bloating and fullness problems. 

 

 

Health & Support Can't seem to loose weight May 25 2011
23:34 (UTC)
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A short, sedentary female needs at least 1200 calories a day just to support basic body functions. 200-600 calories is clinically considered starvation level. Definitely eat more; regardless of weight, you can do your body a lot of damage by undereating, and put yourself at risk for complications like osteopenia/osteoperosis. And, as the poster above mentioned, if you eat at such a large deficit for long enough, your body will recognize that it's starving, and will set off a number of survival mechanisms that slow metabolism and hold on to body fat. Basically, it does everything possible to keep itself from losing any weight, because it doesn't know when starvation will end... so it's trying to prepare to keep you alive through a long famine.

Health & Support good/ bad type of fat intake? May 25 2011
23:14 (UTC)
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Some cream has sugar added to it, but if you're buying regular heavy cream or table cream (as opposed to a product labeled as "whipping cream"), it's usually just cream. Not that sugar is bad for you either; in recovery, your body needs lots of energy wherever it comes from, and sugar is an easily accessible form of it. :) Most the dairy products we buy are pasteurized, also, but that's not necessarily bad: it just means they've been heated to kill off any bacteria that may be present in the raw milk. It keeps us from getting sick in a system in which you have no idea where your milk may have come from!

Anyway, cream is perfectly healthy, and a nice dense source of nutrients. Great for getting your fat-soluble vitamins.  :D

Health & Support Lactose Intolerance needs docter attention?!? May 25 2011
23:09 (UTC)
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If milk makes you wheezy, you might definitely think about checking out the possibility of an allergy. Lactose intolerence is the result of your body not breaking down the lactose in milk properly, which means that the bacteria in your gut has to do it for you, which produces a lot of gas. It shouldn't cause any respiratory etc. symptoms like wheezing, hives, itchy mouth... so if you have any of those when you eat milk or products with milk in them, you could be allergic to some of the proteins in milk (whey and/or casein). 

Weight Gain Fibre May 25 2011
17:10 (UTC)
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It's strange how my topic asking whether I should reduce my fibre intake somehow turned into advice on getting more fibre. xD

Weight Gain Fibre May 25 2011
16:22 (UTC)
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walker68: I take a product called Restoralax, which I believe is similar. I don't take it all the time, because i don't want to become dependant on it, but when the constipation is really bad, it's a life-saver!

 

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