Posts by fallingcrashing

If you allow yourself to think about your ED then no, you won't ever get better. The best way to get rid of it is to pretend it doesn't exist - pretend you're normal. Eat normally, do normal things - whenever ED thoughts enter your mind, PUSH THEM OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

Again - the longer you keep your ED in mind, the longer it'll linger... get off this stupid website and go live your life. 

Chest pain is never normal. Listen to your body - you know you must stop exercising and gain weight, you don't need anyone on the internet to tell you so. If you continue avoiding your body's signals, don't be surprised if you wake up in a hospital one day (or worse - dead).

It's getting really old to see people post the same posts on this site - "I'm know I have a problem, please somebody reassure me that I'm sick! Feed me attention! I'm in recovery except I'm not actually making changes to my life that will promote recovery!" (That's not to say that your post is exactly like this, but seriously - CC will not cure your ED or give you the answers on how to do so. You know what you need to do, so go do it.)

Stop putting so much focus on how you look and what you eat. Forget about all that crap. Go for a freaking walk and forgive yourself for 'bingeing so horribly' (although you really didn't)

Having a life vs being skinny - that's what it comes down to.

Which is more important to you? Being a stick thin nobody without any fat or having a happy, healthy life where you don't think about food and weight 24/7?

Think about it. You know what you need to do in order to get better - it's up to you to decide if you're actually going to do it. I hope you choose life, because believe me when I say the other path leads nowhere. It may seem as though giving into that voice that calls you fat is the only possible route you can take, but it isn't. You have to fight it but it WILL go away - if you want it to.

Okay, first of all, to quit the binge-eating cycle, the first thing you must do is FORGIVE YOURSELF.

Stop beating yourself up. You may not believe me, but when you look in the mirror and think "I'm disgusting! My arms are flabby! I'm fat!", you are pulling yourself into a spiral of negative thought. Even though you want to be skinny, these negative thoughts are what is pushing you to binge (as you have said, being stressed out leads you to binge - stress is also a negative feeling!)

When you think negative thoughts you will, naturally, want to do whatever it takes to make them go away. This will make you turn to your coping mechanism - and for you, this coping mechanism is food. 

See how this works? Negative thoughts (especially those about yourself) --> coping mechanism --> more binge-eating.

So, how do you stop the cycle? Change your thoughts.

Stop thinking so negatively. FORGIVE YOURSELF. You binged, you put on weight - so what? Are 4 measly pounds really the end of the world? Don't get me wrong, gaining weight sucks and I have gained my fair share of binge weight so I know how awful it feels, but it is NOT the end of the world. Take a deep breathe and remind yourself of that. You made a mistake, now get up and move on. Forget about it.

Quitting binge-eating is not easy, but I am telling you again that if you do not change these negative thoughts you have towards yourself, nothing will ever change. Start dealing with your stress in healthier ways - go for walks, do yoga, write in a journal, play some music! Read books! Go to a museum! Do things that DON'T include food!

Step two - stop focussing so much on being skinny. Life is NOT about being skinny. Life is about being healthy and happy - right now you are healthy, so what is stopping you from being happy? Your WEIGHT?! Come on, that's stupid! You only have one life to live, so make every moment count. You don't have to be happy all the time, but why drown yourself in a sea of self-hatred when there's a life out there just waiting to be lived by nobody else but you?

I hope you learn to accept yourself, because at the end of the day you are all you have and no matter what shape or size you are, you deserve to love yourself.

Forum drama... what is this, high school?

Here's the advice;

1. Talk to a doctor/therapist/anybody profesional who isn't a random person on the internet.
2. Distract yourself from food. Start taking more walks, doing some yoga, etc. Try to become more in-tune with your surroundings and your inner self. Ask yourself what you really, truly want in life and go after it. 
3. FORGIVE YOURSELF. You binged, it sucks, move on. If you don't forgive yourself you will continue the cycle.

Okay everyone shut up now.

Yes.

You need to eat more - waaaay more. At 16 you should not be consuming 1200 calories - that is the recommended about for a short, sedentary older adult lady still trying to lose weight.

I suggest you up to around 2000 (or stop counting in general - eat whatever you want, gosh darnit! You're 16, you shouldn't be worrying about this crap. YOLO and all.)

Do more weight training and less cardio, perhaps 30-45 minutes 3-4 times a week. Don't expect to see results right away. Also, stop worrying about your body - you've already lost a ton of weight and being obsessed with your body will lead you nowhere but unsatisfied and depressed, trust me. Learn to love what you have.

Good luck.