Posts by girlabsolut

I'm 5'7" without shoes and that's pretty tall for an Asian, but I have always wished to be 5'10" or heck, 5'11" would be a dream come true!! I've always liked the looks of tall people. When I go out to nice places, I'd wear 3-4 inch shoes, so naturally I'd be tall after that... but oh how I wish I could be naturally 5'11"!

Original Post by Peanutbutterxo:

Also are they good to eat despite the high sugar

Yes. And the sugar is natural "fructose" and the fiber helps to keep you full for a long time + all the added vitamins. 130 calories is NOT crazy. By your definition, it seems that food has to be low calories and low sugar, which you could also get from eating rice cakes but they're not necessarily as nutritious as an apple.

Heck, even the avocado, with all its high fat content and all, is very health-promoting. I don't know about you, but "eating healthy" is not just about calories. Or else people could just be eating Twinkies all day as long as they don't go over their calories budget for the day.

I have never heard anyone ask if eating an apple is good. It has always been good! Am I missing a clue here?  *shakes my head*

Original Post by fade_the_great:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

A busy intersection?  So...people are stopping in a busy, heavily trafficked intersection to mock you?  Seems dangerous, to me.

Still don't believe it.  Why would you continue to do that if you were being assaulted and harassed and threatened in such a manner?  Why would your employer continue to put you on the street like that?  Can't be that high paying of a job, I can't imagine what perks would make it worth it.  Where do you live that this type of behavior is the norm?  And why is it going unreported?

I do think you're exaggerating.  I do.  And that's okay.

I should have clarified. I stand on the traffic median next to a four-way intersection. People harass me while they wait for the light to turn green. 

I do this job because I need the money. I get paid eight dollars an hour, which isn't much, but it's better than minimum wage.  I've been looking for a new job for months but I haven't found anything. I don't have a college degree or a car so my options are pretty limited.

When my boss found out that a homeless guy spit on me, his response was, "She chose this job. She doesn't have to work here if she doesn't want to. We have plenty of other people who are willing to work." I haven't reported anything since then.

I don't report this stuff to the police because I don't want to be "that girl" that floods their inbox every day with complaints. Plus, I suspect there's not much they can do about it. I don't want to waste their time.

Surprisingly, I don't work in the bad part of town. There's a Starbucks directly behind me and several fine dining restaurants next to my intersection. Most of the people I encounter are white collar workers, upper middle class soccer moms, and the usual Starbucks aspiring writer/phographer runoff. But there's also a major interstate about five miles down the road (and a hidden homeless camp), which explains why so many transients come through my area.

Why would I make this stuff up? My boyfriend will vouch for me. So will my sign-holding coworkers. I'm not the only one who gets harassed like this.

I believe you. I worked some odd jobs before in sales & etc that require me to be out there promoting stuff, and yes people can be real cruel. I put on a little bit of make up when I worked even though some days I didn't put on anything my colleagues would definitely tease me for looking "plain" etc. But yeah, all the snarky remarks from total strangers like "Get a real job", "You're a bi-tch" etc does happen! Not too often, maybe 3-5x in a shift but maybe because the average Singaporeans are known to be quite reserved and not "confrontational". But still, those remarks were just nothing but cruel. I don't know why some people would bother to be mean to other people they don't know, but they just do. Thankfully I never came across anyone who would spit at me, though I had money being thrown to my face when some as$hole wasn't too happy about the price of his booze. :/

When you do a job that put you out there for people to criticize and make remarks about you, you gotta be strong and it helps you to build confidence as well once you got over the stupid comments. I used to work at Hooters for nearly a year, so I do know that physical looks do matter especially when you're earning tips etc. It's the society and like you said, it's the JOB. Can't handle it, stay out of the kitchen. I stuck to it for as long as I could until I had enough savings to just say bye-bye to the job. :) Few women actually came up to me to my face before to tell me that I was a **** for her boyfriend kept staring at me and I wasn't even their waitress :/ It shocks me how people can be cruel, but I feel that as long as we're not the cruel ones, we are okay.

I hope that you'd get a better job soon because everyone has a limit to how much crap they can tolerate. Good luck, girl.

Yum, that menu Ponderosa Steakhouse has looks amazing! I think with 700 calories, you can get away with a lot of things/combination. Grilled shrimps, green salad with dressing on the side, a plain baked potato and you can even have a beer/glass of wine to get to 700 calories.

Personally if I have 700 calories there, I would go for the 8 oz Sirloin steak (~430 cals) which is the leanest cut available since I don't see a filet mignon on the menu, some mash or baked potato, and a glass of red! 

I hate it when dinner plans change too, but we gotta be flexible and do what we have to do. :)

Good luck!

Like what others have said, people want to believe in something.

When all they need to do, is just to use the simple old way of calorie in = calorie out. Move more, eat less - that's the basis of any weight loss. I believe in calorie counting and to a certain extent, the type of food we eat do play a part in the satisfaction level of eating... if I try to eat 2,000 calories of candies VS 2,000 calories of meat, I am so much happier with the latter. 

I don't think there's any way to do it for now, I'm afraid. ;( Who knows!

*bump!* 

Original Post by stargazer1:

Up until a few months ago... I was the girl who always volunteered to do projects at my job... then I realized it had got to the point where people were walking all over me and just pushing their work off on me.

I was the pushover, I think it was just my, I want to help so people like me personality...  

 

Ohhhh no. I was once the pushover girl too because I just like to help, but not when I was betrayed and had money being cheated off from me more than twice that I stopped being overly nice :/ We have to stop ourselves from being used by others, really.

*hugs*

Original Post by dotdeangelo:

I am weighing myself everyday first thing in the morning. I am doing this so that I can learn to except the normal fluctuations. I am hoping to remove the emotions that go with both the ups and downs. Then I can really focus on healthy habits. In the past if I only weighted myself once a week, month etc... and that may have been the day that my weight was up or down (due to sodium, female stuff etc) I would equate that to good/bad. I am still not 100% separated from the good/bad syndrome but I feel as if I am going in the right path (for me).

I am with you there! :)

I weigh myself every single day, once. It's easier for me to keep track and so far, it's been going on really well. It gives me the confidence to know the natural fluctuations for my body. When I see the weight going up unlike usual, then I know my period is coming up or something. :D

Original Post by ursula_apples:

Thanks for the reply, and for the advice! I'll have to make sure that I don't become obsessed with counting cals, because I do tend to obsess about things...

Don't buy a food scale then. It could be worse with it. I thought over and over again if I should buy one but I decided not to in the end because I have this obsessive, explosive personality and I might just have to weigh every little thing. BAD. 

I know that it's more "accurate" to have a scale but at the cost of mental obsession, I think I am better off without them! :D

Good luck girl! :D