Posts by ldenning
|Pregnancy & Parenting||Out of Wedlock!||May 21 2008
Gee, I hate to be the stick-in-the mud, but it seems like all anyone ever thinks about is what THEY want. What about the children? Children deserve to born into the world with a mother AND a father. And a wedding ring and marriage certificate are NOT just a piece of paper. They are a commitment to love, honor and obey each other for life. Although my sister was married when she had my nephews, she got divorced, married, divorced, married, divorced, lived with a guy for 5 years and got married again. Sometimes the boys lived with her, sometimes with her. The oldest boy committed suicide at age 23. The youngest is a meth addict and is currently in prison for trafficking in drugs and stealing to support his habit. Don't tell me that their tumultuous childhood did not lead to their problems.
Men who make women pregnant should BE MEN and take care of the lives they create. If your boyfriend won't marry you, think about adoption. There are plenty of loving couples out there who would love to raise your baby. It's not a hopelessly old-fashioned idea, but the most unselfish thing you could do. It doesn't matter what other people think of you, it's a matter of doing the best thing for your child.