Posts by le3

GI Jane's right on it. My best advice is to eat well in the morning--no less than 300 calories, eat the 3 meals with no less than 100 cal snacks 2-3 times a day. Pay attention to your lean protein, carb balance.  Slowly increase your calorie intake by 200 calories per week. Keep exercising.

When you start waking up hungry in the morning with the increased calorie intake, you are on the road to increasing your metabolism. Keep that calorie level for a couple of weeks before trying to decrease the calorie intake. Decrease in smaller amounts. Then return to your new metabolic level.

Make sure your starting point is at 1400 or above.. but if you are below that now just increase gradually till you get there. It is counterintuitive to increase calories to lose weight. Remember you're not just changing the calorie intact, your changing your sugar balances as well--getting more levelled out which has many healthy benefits.  

OK it's been a while, my baby is almost 16. But I gained too much weight for the OB nurse the first trimester. However it was all in my breast since I started as a D cup. So I didn't put too much stock in what she was harrassing me about. I was constantly harranged about the food I ate, yes even rice. I cut down my salt to the point I got sick. When I increased the salt a little it helped tremendously. 

My son was healthy, 2 weeks early and small. Enjoy healthy, well balanced meals and be sensible but not neurotic (I know that is difficult when pregnant). I have a cook book written by a nun which has several quotes. This is my favorite, "'Everything in moderation including moderation' God said that I think."

I liked going to karoke. But how about your own reinactment of the scene in When Harry Met Sally where Meg Ryan does the orgasm imitation.

Sounds like it in reverse. It's supposed to be the amount of sun exposure...but I think for me it is also the amount of allergens.

there are also thigh weights that work well whether you are walking or running. I'd be hesitant for using the wrist weights for anything other than toning exercises, due to the risk of injury.

What a horrible, sucky, messed up place to be in!

Windrinre, what a wonderful answer. 

When you think about it, you are powerless over many things and have no control whatsoever of the outcome. The additional stress of the situation is going to push you and push hard. The question is when and how are you going to push back. You've already decided to push back by helping in the house and being there for her.  Her care is vitally important, but care of yourself is even more important. Before you can take care of anyone else you have to take care of yourself.

Ask her healthcare workers for references for you. You should be able to find others who can give you real life advice.

I have a story called the Parable of Recovery that may help---

The first day, you are walking down the street and fall into a hole. It's deep and you are shocked and pissed. "Who put this here?!!" "It's all their fault I'm in here." You thrash around and throw dirt. Eventually you see a way out and climb out of the hole.

The second day, you are walking down the street and fall into the hole again. "well" you say, "I've been here before and know how to get out".

The third day, you walk down the street and see the hole, yet fall in anyway. "What here again. I tried not fall in."

The fourth day, you walk down the street and very carefully walk around the hole. You congratulate yourself for not falling in.

The fifth day, you walk down a different street.

"Oh that sounds great, but do you know what I've been dreaming of?"  Is a great line. It's great they want to honor you. And taking a "off diet/guilt free" day for that day would be wonderful and in the long run probably keep you staying on your new lifestyle longer.  So what would be ideal? One of my favorites is to go a restaurant and everyone order desserts and do a round robin tasting. That way, I can enjoy it all and not feel over loaded afterwards.

It's your birthday, and 4-0 is big and you are on your way to make your 40's healthy--so enjoy it, give yourself permission and do lots of laughing.

Beate, I've been in your boat and have had a hard time understanding how someone who is active and overweight could have low metabolism. (I'm looking for research on it.) A year ago I went on a diet and didn't lose any weight but I knew going in it was hard for me to lose, so my goal was to increase metabolism.  The diet went from 1200 to 1600 calories. I was comfortable eating at 1200 but had a hard time with the 1600 so I drank alcohol for the difference. :-)  I came off the 1600 level, but felt my metabolism had increased because I was hungry more often.  I continued to concentrate on eating frequently. It is counter intuitive to increase your calorie level to lose weight, sounds like it goes against the "calories in/calories out" rule. However, metabolism is a 3 ton monster that needs to get smacked around to behave.

With CC I've lost an amazing 5 pounds so far, I've had one plateau after losing 4 that dropped the weight loss to 2.8 pounds.  Read the other advice and hang in there.

Original Post by sufferinghearts:

I am the person that always wants to solve things myself when I know sometimes I can't

 Ohhh that is sooo me. However when things are beyond what I can handle or when I notice that besides having a bad bump in the road the road is headed the wrong way, I know I need help. However because I am someone who wants to be self sufficient, I supplement what ever help I get with my own work.  Oh don't get me wrong, I still have plenty of stuff to work on. But taking control and responsibility for my life is healthy so long as I know I can always, always, always get help and I'm not in it by myself.