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The Lounge Pupppyyyy!!!! Aug 28 2013
01:18 (UTC)
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Thank you.

 

Hey Kikt, you're the local vet right? How many hours a day is an almost 8 week old puppy supposed to sleep a day?

The Lounge Pupppyyyy!!!! Aug 27 2013
22:38 (UTC)
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TeMar German Shepherds in Oregon. His sire is currently number one in Canada, Schutzhund 3 and his dam is Schutzund 2.
The Lounge Pupppyyyy!!!! Aug 27 2013
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We are already dealing with se of that. Going to get him obedience training soon.
The Lounge Reasons for putting a dog to sleep Aug 27 2013
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I think it would take an awful lot for me to decide to put down our puppy. We would go in debt if he could be saved. My husband took out loans once to keep his cat alive the year before our son was born. So, yeah...

I don't if want to think about this thread any more :*(

The Lounge Pupppyyyy!!!! Aug 26 2013
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And his call name is "Neutron." I'll post some pics in a minute :) Thanks for all the name suggestions everyone!

 

ETA: For your viewing pleasure I have uploaded several pictures from yesterday and today :) Enjoy.

The Lounge Pupppyyyy!!!! Aug 25 2013
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We decided on Loki for AKC papers. Now to figure out what we are going to call him.
The Lounge The ideal family size Aug 20 2013
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The Lounge The ideal family size Aug 20 2013
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Original Post by cakeysaurus:

When I meet women at school who are mothers and they learn I am married with no kids, they literally stop talking to me. It's the most annoying thing in the world. I have nothing against Mommies and have no issues with being friends with Mommies. These women are younger than me, so I wonder if it's also an age-gap thing. They're usually somewhere around 21-24. I did meet a nice girl who was my age, with 2 super cute kids, but again, she sort of dropped me after she found I didn't have kids. Actually, correction, it's when they ask me if I want to have kids and I tell them no. I had one girl literally freak out on me. She told me that I "shot the baby bird that delivers babies to the nest."

Maybe they're only looking for other Moms... that's cool too, but to ignore me in class from then on? Cold. :(

So Mommies of this thread, what goes through your mind when you meet a married woman who doesn't want children?

I'm hoping this will go away as I get older, but I feel chastised often for not having kids. It sucks. Who knew acquiring a female friend would be so difficult? >.<

I think they are just b's for doing that. I don't have a lot of friends, mommies or not, but I like when a woman knows she doesn't want kids. They are usually super good about birth control and are direct in what they want out of life. That is not to say that they couldn't do those things with children, they just are choosing not to (at least at that point in life). They are also interesting and tend to have way more cool experiences than I have.

BTW, totally anecdotal here, if you couldn't tell. But, I think it's great. And you and I are about the same age cakey.

The Lounge Put some SHINE on it! Aug 20 2013
13:43 (UTC)
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Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by coach_k:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Bank teller

Financial Distribution Officer

Crime scene cleaner

Trauma Aftermath Waste Management Specialist

 

dental hygenist

 

 

Assistant director of Oral health and hygiene

*CNA*

The Lounge The ideal family size Aug 16 2013
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Original Post by pavlovcat:

My hubs and I want 3 or 4, but I don't know how realistic that is both because of finances (I want to be a SAHM if we have 3+) and our age.

The idea of a bustling home appeals to me (the reality probably won't be as lovely) as does the idea that perhaps our children will end up as true friends to each other (I think the more kids you have the more your kids have to learn to share, cooperate, and entertain each other). 

I guess I'm sort of seeing the writing on the wall and realizing it's likely we'll only have two kids, unless we manage twins next time, and trying to come to terms with my own miserable experience of growing up with one sibling.

This can also happen when you only have two, or even when you have one. It is naturally learned, though whether it is enforced by the parent(s) is another story in and of itself.

Also, to add to my last post, my children are four years apart.

The Lounge The ideal family size Aug 16 2013
14:15 (UTC)
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My thoughts are based on my life experiences (as are all people's opinions).

This question is dependent on numerous factors: number of years between each child (from personal experience it seems that if they are within a year to a couple of years apart there are a lot of issues; as well as having a large spread where they are too far apart to bond). My first point is based on my own family experience and my best friend's. Growing up (therefore my 10 year old brother doesn't count in this portion) there were four of us, all girls. I'm the oldest and the youngest is 5 years younger than I. We only really got along in twos, otherwise we did not get along. We are closer now that we are adults and most of us have children. My best friend and her brother are 11 months apart. They got along fairly well, but they also had times where they hated each other, more than most siblings do.

On the other hand, children with too much of an age gap either don't bond well, or they bond in an almost surrogate parent sort of way. Again, anecdotally from my family, my brother is 10 and has always more been like another child to us instead of a little brother. When he was an infant and my daughter was 8 months old, I practically raised him when my dad was at work because his mother is worthless. Now, because said woman is still worthless, my sister directly younger than me is basically co-parenting with our dad because she watches him most of the time when our dad is sleeping or working, which is frequently. Our youngest two sisters also babysit him frequently and again, it's not like a sibling relationship. In fact, because my dad has 3 grandchildren when we are deciding things like "grandkid pics" or whatever, my brother is more often included in those.

 

It think it also depends on whether a person is knowingly going to be single-parenting. I think definitely no more than two at that point. Again, coming from experience being raised by a single-parent. It's hard enough to give two children all the time and attention they each deserve, let alone more than that. And one of the children (usually the oldest, or oldest daughter) will inevitably become a sort of replacement parent. Again, speaking from experience.

For me it was easy. A dad, mom (or any combination of two parents), daughter and son...in that order, based on my best friend's experience. The difference that I wanted my children spaced out by at least three years, but no more than five. At the time, also, I thought I was going to be a single parent, but that had no bearing on my choice of two children. I wanted that ever since I met best friend back when we were 7. I feel any more than two is too many, personal opinion. I feel my dad had too many damn kids, as a child and now...even though I love my siblings.

So, I suppose the long answer is two. My daughter was reading over my shoulder and also told me to say that she thinks two is perfect. I think she might occasionally wish she had a sister, but she and my son get along so well. I don't know how it would be different if he were typically developing, but they are so good together. Also, him being special needs solidified my desire/thinking it best to only have two children. I don't know how parents do it with multiple children, especially ones on the spectrum who often have more than one child on the spectrum after the first ASD child is born. 

The Lounge OMFG You're killing me, here...(long, sorry) Aug 13 2013
03:15 (UTC)
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Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by mercurystar:

This guy is incredibly nerdy. I mean, he reads geology books for fun. He was really excited the other day to show me a map he got of the western United States that included topography. He loves Doctor Who and Fellini (more on that in a minute). He has, erm, interesting social skills (he's often tactless, vaguely-insulting or condescending. He has a tendency to make jokes that are only funny to him and then laugh uproariously. He could not. care. less. what other people think of him - not in a "I am full of false confidence" kind of way, but in a secure, "*shrug* who cares what they think? I like me" kind of way). He's fairly disengaged from the majority of society to the point that he is more an observer than a participant. He is, in short, the perfect candidate for geekdom.

Dudes, he is so not a geek.

Based on others I've known like this, I'd guess he's on the specturm. I would highlight the parts that fit, but pretty much everything you said fits.

I do think that it's funny that he draws such a hard line between fiction and fantasy - in terms of character consistency, etc., I think the rules are the same.

My immediate thought was, "Is he an Aspie, or autist?" LOL. I guess it helps me to notice things like that living with an Aspie (husband) and autistic son.

I don't know why things in Dr. Who can't be real....I wish some were. I have not watched enough to be a "fan" by any means, but I enjoy it. But yes, I would get ticked if an author didn't follow their own internal rules for any given piece. I totally get you....

On the other hand, I totally see where he's coming from that it is "just fiction" and "they can do what they want with it."

The Lounge :( Piercing Migration/Rejection :( Aug 10 2013
00:59 (UTC)
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Original Post by kelrantymus:

I have no idea if this is true but my piercers have always said dermals aren't designed to be permanent. They are really a short term body mod. I'd take 'em out (I had to remove all of mine eventually), let your body settle and either get them redone, get a different mod or piercing done or get a tatt. I was really upset the first time a dermal got rejected but now, eh, it doesn't bother me. I'm looking at taking some of my piercings out now, actually.

Wow, Kel. I never imagined you to be a piercing type person aside from ears :) Funny how we all have different images of what the others are like, huh?

OP, I don't have personal experience, but my sister had a dermal in her cheek that never healed. She had it for months and finally had to take it out. I must say, she looks much better without it. But she cried and cried and probably left it in much longer than she should have before she conceded that it needed to be removed.

The Lounge Serenity in the Lurk Place Aug 05 2013
18:51 (UTC)
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Why is it that Buffy received so much attention and went on to have like a billion seasons (don't know actual number nor do I care to look it up), but Firefly only got one? I know Firefly was way better (though I've only seen some episodes once or twice).

The Lounge Serenity in the Lurk Place Aug 05 2013
18:07 (UTC)
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Original Post by theviewfromhere:

i had slim hope that it was going to be about firefly.


I'm not even that big of a geek and I thought it was going to be about that show as well.

The Lounge Wish me luck...!! Aug 04 2013
18:13 (UTC)
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Best of luck! Take deep breaths and try to relax!

The Lounge The books/movies that captivated and enchanted you as a child Aug 02 2013
04:48 (UTC)
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Original Post by vrykol:

 

I can tell you though that one of my most treasured memories is my Father reading us a Chapter of The Hobbit every night when I was about 6 years old. I will never forget how amazing it was, how much we begged him to read just one more page, but it was always just one chapter a night. 

 

This reminded me of Christmas time as a little girl. One of my uncles would read Twas the Night Before Christmas to us kids (8 of us total: my dad's four and uncle's four) and whoever else was around right before bed on Christmas Eve. I know he read it to his own kids every year, but we didn't always make it up there on Christmas Eve every year. As much as I didn't like (and still don't) this particular uncle, those were some of my best memories- Grandparents, my dad and his brother and wife, all of us cousins...yeah, that was before we all grew up and some of us grew into bad words...LOL. But, It's a great tradition that I wish I had carried on into my own household. I suppose it's not too late.

The Lounge The books/movies that captivated and enchanted you as a child Aug 02 2013
00:18 (UTC)
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GOOD NIGHT MOON! It's a must for babies :) I read it to my daughter nearly every night when she was an infant.

Very Hungry Caterpillar

Anything Dr. Seuss

Cordoroy

Alexander and the Horrible, no good, very bad day

Where the wild things are

Little Princess

Little Women

Sweet Valley twins/High when she's older (although, technically reading it to her now wouldn't be a bad thing...vocabulary and reading are still good reasons to read)

Thomas the train books are good (only know because my son loves Thomas)

I LOVE books. I used to read them like they were going out of style. Some times I can get through a for fun book (which is different than a school book) in two or three days still. My son does not care to read (but I think that has a lot to do with the autism) and my daughter reads like I do.

Goosebumps when she's older (don't want to give her nightmares)

Box Car Children

Call of the Wild

 

The Lounge Interviews Aug 01 2013
17:01 (UTC)
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Thanks everyone! I spoke with an old high school teacher last night about it as well and she gave me a great way to phrase it, incorporating much of what you all have suggested. I do like being able to fit in that they would give me a good reference should they be called.

As I said before, I'd never left a company when the choice wasn't wholly my own so figuring out how to put the best light on it was difficult. I appreciate all the responses.

Cajun, one of the places I'm interviewing for is a skilled nursing/rehabilitation facility that also takes pediatric patients (newborn to age 17) which is where my real passions are. So, in a way, I am hoping I can get that position and that they need an on-call nurse (as that is what they are hiring for) for that area.

The Lounge Interviews Aug 01 2013
03:33 (UTC)
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They did indeed say they would be a reference. So should I say something like,

 "I was let go because the facility did not feel that my time management/organization was where they wanted it to be. I was on-call and didn't work the same cart all the time. At times, when census was low, I would go days and at one point nearly two weeks without working. I was able to successfully and SAFELY take care of 10 patients, but when it got to higher numbers of patients, 11-13, they wanted me to take I had some difficulty. The things I did to try and improve were: come in a few minutes early to review my patients for the day, spoke with more experienced nurses to see what they did differently than I and then attempted to implement some of the suggestions, changed my brain sheet so it flowed a little better and I could see what I needed to do, tried to set aside time when there were periods of "quiet" to chart as I went along. My previous employer will give you a good reference."

Now that it's written out, that sounds pretty good :) LOL Anyway, what do you think? I don't really like the words "time management/organization."

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