Posts by m3lody

Shannon I am sososo sorry that Dave is struggling so much as I am sure you all are. You said there were other things missing. I pray those things dont lead down a dark path. I'm sure it feels as if it couldnt get any darker. I hope the end is in site for you soon so that you may all heal from this nightmare ordeal. You and your family is in my thoughts, always.

I'm a mom of a 22 year old son  with Autism NOS. He was diagnosed in Kindergarten and has received services through out his life. He graduated High School right on time. He is wonderful with Greek Mythology. He has little to no perception of time and money, although he knows he can spend it, cant count it. His biggest struggle has been social. He struggled his whole life trying to figure out the whole interaction stuff. He often would resort to humor that worked until he reached junior high. He is a very compassionate young man. He love young children and the elderly but struggles with his peers. 

He currently hold a job at a convience store stocking coolers. He participate in Self Advocacy and Peer Groups. He absolutely knows what he wants from life but hasnt a clue what to do to get there. He is on medication for anxiety that caused him to put on a bit of weight. Now he's trying to lose it and its a challenge. He thinks if he drinks water then he's doing ok, never mind the snacking and other junk.

Overall my experience with him has been very educational. It led me into a career of Support and Advocacy. In the past I worked with the birth to three program where children were evaluated for learning disabilities. It was the next to the toughest job that I could ever love. I am now starting to work with adults with disabilities in a national program. I took a four year break after the first program thinking I needed it. Now I am ready to get back to the work I love. Helping those who have challenges, help themselves.

I rant on because I want you all to know that this is a blessing not a curse. Our children are our lives. They take us places others couldnt imagine. 

I leave you with a poem that really says it all.....

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland

Original Post by shanfood:

Really quick...I got an email today from People's Court asking us for our address so they can send us a copy of the tape from that day!

It is great to have a couple of good days in a row!

Thanks again for all for your love and prayers!

~Shannon

Shannon - Thank God! I hope and pray its him so if nothing else, you'll atleast know he's ok. I'm so nervous waiting..... {{{{Hugs}}}}

Just wanted to post to say your in my thoughts.

{{{Hugs}}}

Shannon, Please read this ASAP

I'm really hesitant to post this not wanting to get up false hope. But after going to findchris.org and seeing the picutre on the top right of the screen, I HAVE to post.

Yesterday I caught the end of PEOPLES COURT on TV. The camera was outside on the crowd. I saw to the very right the splitting image of Chris. It kind of startled me as the second I saw him I thought Chris. He was wearing a light red/pink thin zip up sweat shirt with a hood (the hood was down). To me he was built exactly like Chris and the style of his clothes looked simular to those in pictures I have seen of him. His hair was the same cut whisping out to the sides just below his ears and very blond. He looked like he was trying to make sure he was in the picture. The look on his face was the same as the one I mentioned on the website above.

I dont know, but if this isnt him, its his twin. I wonder if there is a way that you can contact the Peoples court and get the end clip of the episode to see for yourself.

I apologise in advance if its not, but if you see this clip I am sure you will understand why I had to post. My conscience wouldnt let me do otherwise.

http://peoplescourt.warnerbros.com/

Waiting nervously,

Melody

Shannon I am so sorry that this is still going on. Your in my heart and on my mind always, as is Chris and the rest of your family. I hope you find closure soon.

Men fantasize about women who are addicted to sex and will meet their most extreme sexual fantasies without strings attached and seek them out in porn ( they dont consider this cheating).  For some men this line gets distorted and they cant separate porn from reality.

Really though, it sounds like his problem isnt sex rather sex is affected by a larger problem (childhood history you reported).

How many of you men want a whore in the bed and a virgin in the streets? Maybe thats old school as it appears more and more that men dont mind wearing their wifes sexual appearence as a personal accomplishment.

Original Post by loriklorik:

Obama kinda sounds like Osama.... he must be evil!!!

Loriklorik sounds like dorkdork so must be uninformed.