Posts by mendogurl

I say men with bad attitudes rarely change... 

you either chose to put up with it on the occasions they get upset about nothing,or build up the courage to forget the relationship and move on.

My partner of 3yrs does the same kind of stuff. However its when something really upsets him,or he's under the influence of alcohol. 

I usually ignore it. And when hes drunk i push it aside because one can never take someone seriously when their judgement is impaired. 

He used to get upset about stupid things and say mean things,but I had him start seeing a therapist and he got on a mood stabelizer. Things are way better than before.

hey i'd like to help you with your motivation,and same back. 

for one justin beiber is very young and obviously hasnt hit full puberty,so of course he looks/sounds like a girl. so what, so did nick carter,justin timberlake,and all the other young boy band/singers.

as for jillian, shes not your stereo-typical english blonde hair blue eyes girl, shes probably got some italian or/and german in her, so of course shes going to have different/not so feminine(but you can still tell shes a lady) features.

I think its more attractive for a person to have defined facial features,and a strong build, maybe some curves going on.

Jillian is a role model, not someone to talk down on like this.

i find myself adding the item im trying to log manually with information i gather and search off google about the nutrition facts making sure that im averaging the nutrition correctly. its a pain in the butt, however i save the added food to my favorites/meals/recepies and use it to base off next time i have it.

She needs to realize its not a competition and everyone looses weight differently. Jealousy is totally getting to her, and she should care more about herself that what your doing. She should see that going out for pizza after complaining about her weight isnt a resolution.

if she wants to loose the same amount of weight as you she needs to work harder.

I think you know all this. Maybe your friend needs to hear from more than just you that its not okay to just let herself go and she needs to do something about it now, not in a day,week,month, year. now.

to: carlymariex-- exactly how i feel, totally would over do it on the calories if i was to cheat myself all day.

Original Post by ootek:

1200 is too low unless you're tiny and lying on your back all day, anyway. 

One day at 2271 won't tank you.  Dust yourself off and start again tomorrow at a more sensible calorie target--like 1500--which will both be healthier for you in the long run and help you prevent future over-eating.  (How tall are you, anyway?  If you're 139, unless you're quite petite, you can't possibly have much to lose.)

The weight you gained was almost certainly water weight, not "real" weight.  It's basically not physically possible to eat enough to gain four pounds overnight.  Lose the panicky mindset and learn more about healthy weight-loss.

 

 

 

i am 5'7", i wear a size 9 pants,and my upper is about 34".

i have been trying to up my calories to 1500 but its rather hard for me because i feel im overeating and then i dont have motivation to count what im eating because im eating more anyways. i know thats not a good mind set, and im hoping i can stop that. I find myself eating and munching more if i dont have everything, and i mean everything, pre counted and weighed. I live with my fiance,so of course i cant just sort everything in the fridge out like that, and i dont have the time either. So i look in the fridge, munch of some turkey, or have some cereal when i just feel like it. but i know i havent exceeded my calories for the day, but i shouldnt be eating after 8pm or so depending on what time im working... ive struggles so much with my weight and food, i love food could stuff myself full until i feel like puking, but im trying so hard to keep my weight maintained because i just dont feel comfortable in my own body otherwise. im fitting clothes ive never even thought i could fit into(and without fat bulging).plus my fiance and i both have been overweight a majority of our lives, so when we over eat together we dont say anything like your overeating or your fat kind of stuff. a few points in time we both gained weight together and lost it and gained it back and now we are loosing it again. I let myself go last time because i felt hurt that he wasnt trying as hard as i was and it wasnt fair that he was sitting on his ass all day eating whatever and that i was cooking him whatever he wanted because otherwise he would get pissy at me.

anyways, there ya have it.

thats a good way to look at it. i do feel bloated, which i hate! especially because i can SEE my tummy expanded! i do pay close attention to what im consuming, i mainly have a problem with sugars and alcohol.

If she's really your friend you should be able to approach her and let her know how you feel because what is she going to do if you tell her you care about her and her health and would like to be on the same page about the dieting? Sure she might get defensive, but i think thats just because she's insecure and jealous. eventually i would think she'd get over it.

All i ever do is talk to my friends about nutrition and exercise,and if they dont like it i wont try and convert them to being healthy, and maybe change the conversation, but i definitely dont let anyone else get in the way of how i'm dealing with myself. But it is nice to have a friend there who agrees with what is going on through the dieting and exercise process.

I know its hard not to compare yourself to your friends who have been "better looking" than you for years of your life,but when it comes down to the point here try and let that go. It will get you no where close to having the confidence level you should have. I have always been the fat friend that no one really cared about, and now i am 135 on a regular basis and my friends are jealous. If anyone was to put a plate of food in front of me that was bigger than theirs i'd change that right quick and make my portion smaller. there is nothing wrong with that and if anyone say's otherwise they can **** off. no one can tell you how to eat if your making the right choices and portions.

I think all overweight people(girls) feel like that. I did, and i kinda still do. I know i will never be able to compete look-wise because those girls most likely havent ever been fat. So they dont have weird fatty spots, or saggy skin or stretch marks that would take TONS of working out and body toning to get rid of!

But now that i know what its like to not have a bulge over your pants in the front AND the sides, I dont really care about what those girls look like. People are people, and guys cant just grab those chicks and have them. its just unrealistic.