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| Weight Loss | Difficult Family Members | Sep 09 2011 16:54 (UTC) |
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I am tempted to say "they're just jealous (and they may be), but that sounds like an over simplification. It sounds like they are trying to sabotage your success because they feel they cannot succeed. Or, at least that is how it sounds to me. Whatever they say, please remember, that it's YOUR life, and YOUR body, and nothing that anyone else says or does should affect it. Choose to live your life the way you choose, be healthy for you. Remember that insulting them back will just make it worse, so try not to do that, even though you may want to. Just say that you're proud of your achievements and that you wish they felt the same. And screw them. They obviously are too busy judging you to care about your health or well being with insensitive comments like that. |
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| Foods | NAA (Nutella addicts anonymous) | Aug 25 2011 19:45 (UTC) |
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haha.
This stuff is like a drug. I use it on almost anything ....
I saw it in the store today, and debating on buying it. I decided against it because 1) -- couldn't justify paying $4 for it, and two ... really need to lose the last 30lbs, and nutella won't be helping me with that. Otherwise, nutella ftw. |
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| Weight Loss | Crappiest type of motivation... | Aug 13 2011 03:10 (UTC) |
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^ Hardly think that's the best option, considering the kids involved. But yea. If he knows how you feel about it, and knows those comments aren't welcome, cares about you and wishes to not hurt you, then he shouldn't do it again. |
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| Weight Loss | Crappiest type of motivation... | Aug 12 2011 17:42 (UTC) |
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I cannot say for absolute certain, but from the way you described, it sounds like verbal Abuse, and if it isn't, it's just plain old insensitivity. You don't need to "get skinny" for anyone else but yourself. Do it for yourself, so you can have your own sense of accomplishment. You owe it to yourself to feel good about yourself. Maybe he is feeling insecure about himself, and is projecting it onto you.
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| Motivation | Am I attractive to the male gender? :3 | Aug 10 2011 18:58 (UTC) |
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Not grumpy at all, just an observation. |
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| Fitness | I now know what a pancake butt looks like from the other side | Jul 18 2011 00:49 (UTC) |
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Well, we all compare ourselves to others to feel better about ourselves. But as long as the OP realizes that is what she's doing. |
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| Health & Support | should I worry about white vs whole wheat? | Jul 18 2011 00:47 (UTC) |
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I apologize, that wasn't really initally clear to me in the OP's post. |
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| Fitness | I now know what a pancake butt looks like from the other side | Jul 17 2011 23:39 (UTC) |
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My thoughts exactly. |
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| Fitness | I now know what a pancake butt looks like from the other side | Jul 17 2011 23:18 (UTC) |
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I am now very motivated by your pancake butt story. |
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| Health & Support | should I worry about white vs whole wheat? | Jul 17 2011 23:17 (UTC) |
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Tell her you'd rather not have buns. They should respect your choices to be healthier. |
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| Motivation | Am I attractive to the male gender? :3 | Jul 16 2011 21:56 (UTC) |
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Is it just me, or does this post seem more like a attention-seeking topic than it does it "help" or "motivation" topic?
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| Motivation | Am I attractive to the male gender? :3 | Jul 15 2011 21:56 (UTC) |
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Worry more about how you like yourself, and less about how "attractive" you are to the opposite gender. |
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| Weight Loss | How to deal with rude comments from family members? | Jul 14 2011 18:47 (UTC) |
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I think those comments come from being nosy, and yes, ignorant. Also, watermelon has natural sugar that is grown with it, not the added sugar and saturated fat that a candy bar would have. So usually, saying that to someone under-educated (who thinks they know more than you, unless they, well, actually do) will either make them feel stupid or shut them up, either is fine with me. |
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| Weight Loss | How to deal with rude comments from family members? | Jul 13 2011 06:54 (UTC) |
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Thanks. She doesn't really comment on my weight though, but those are two seperate incidents. I was just wondering if they were just me being overreacting, but it's hard to say from someone else's perspective since they don't know her. But yes, I agree ... I should be more assertive, but that's difficult for me. =[
Thanks for your advice. |
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| Weight Loss | How to deal with rude comments from family members? | Jul 13 2011 02:55 (UTC) |
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Well, I am passive aggressive sometimes ... that's the problem. I want to be less passive and more ... uh ... assertive? I don't know how to do that, i'm not usually assertive. |
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| Weight Loss | How to deal with rude comments from family members? | Jul 12 2011 22:40 (UTC) |
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Eh. I don't know. She very rarely says anything. When we're alone, she doesn't usually comment on what I eat, it's only been in the presence of others. And I never make comments on her eating choices/body/clothes/whatever, so. I find it kind of unfair she gets to imply i'm some sort of uncontrolled "fatty" or whatever she thinks, not sure, she never insults me by using names or that sort. I don't know if she means it in a bad way or not. I don't think she was trying to be purposefully mean. But she says a lot of stuff that annoys me, and I usually just have to take it, because I really don't like arguing. I'm a non-confrontational person. Another comment that kinda left me going "bluh?" was (and it had nothing to do with food), but rather my choice of clothing, a long-sleeved button up shirt and a new bra, that I guess ... accentuated my already quite-large breasts, more than necessary (it was in no way revealing, but I guess the bra just made them look bigger), was when we were taking photos of each other at the resturant that she, her female friend, and I were at. She took a picture of me and went "your boobs are HUGE!" well, yes, they are. That didn't really bother me as much because well, it's true and her friend was female. Then she said (to her friend) "oh, (my name) is used to me saying stuff about her boobs." ... Oh really, I wanted to respond "I'm not "used to it", I just tolerate people making odd comments about me and my body. Maybe she's right though; I grew up around verbally abusive "adults" who would constantly pick me apart about my body/weight/whatevertheywantedtobecausetheywe re/aredouches. Maybe I am used to it, but I don't think she meant it that way. I don't know, does it sound like i'm overreacting? I have been getting, or at least I feel as though I have been getting, more and more paranoid, but I have no idea if that's due to my social anxiety or not. All I know is, my sister usually doesn't make it better. I'll say something if she does it again ... The reason I say nothing is just because it's easier; I am a quiet, introverted person and simply don't have the patience or energy required to get into a lame argument. Not worth it to me, so I take punches I have been doing that most of my life, but I think in my 29 years, it's time for it to come to an end. |
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| Weight Loss | Do you ever think that the damage of weight gain is done? | Jun 30 2011 22:48 (UTC) |
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" I mean I always envisioned that when you lose weight like everyone wanted you to your entire life since you were a kid that everything will be perfect because it’s the only thing that anyone ever complained about, but then you realize that your hair is not going to automatically turn soft and beautiful, and that your skin was not going to be magically flawless, and that in the end you were just going to be the same old frumpy you just 100 pounds smaller. It seems as if this is obvious to anyone who thinks of it from an outside point of view but it wasn’t to me and im sure it isn’t to a lot of us. Did you have expectations about losing weight that you realized were not going to come true and what was your aha moment." That's the huge LIE society and everyone else tells you/lets you believe. It's absolutely not true. Based on my personal experiences, losing weight is difficult -- and full of many other challenges. Contrary to popular belief, losing weight can improve many areas of your life, but it's not the cure-all people want it to be. You don't achieve perfection, because there is no such thing. Too many unrealistic expectations are put on losing weight, and people assume way too much based on it. I'm 29, and I have those clear stretch marks. I don't have any red ones ... but I still have areas of my body that are flabby (even after being a part of this site since 2009 and losing 40lbs.) So, my arms need to lose the hanging fat, my boobs could be more perky, but large boobs usually never are, so. I just try to accept it and change what I can. |
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| Weight Loss | Big lunch, skip dinner? | Jun 26 2011 20:26 (UTC) |
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I usually plan your meals so that I can have balanced meals that fit into my calorie budget and I don't skip any meals. This might not work for everyone, though.
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| Weight Loss | terrified of food | Jun 20 2011 01:01 (UTC) |
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Why be terrified of food? if you have control over your eating habits, there's no need for such fear. Food should be terrified of you. |
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| Weight Loss | *cries* The scale says what?! | Jun 18 2011 01:13 (UTC) |
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Just keep in mind that the scale is not the be-all-end all, and not the only way to measure how much you have lost or gained. It's not always accurate, and at best, depending on what kind you have and at what time you weigh yourself, is a rough estimate. A measuring tape, how your clothes fit, and other ways can help you track your weight just as easily. |
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