Posts by moonbow1

I had my hysterectomy at age 28, but that was 28 yrs ago. I'm sure tests and medical prcedures have changed since then (improved). They left one ovarie after removing cysts off of it. I did great, they had to cut me open since the reason for having the surgery was a 6 lb tumor that they thought was cancer. Everyone was surprised, the doctor even told me the next day he couldn't believe it. It never had any effect on my sex drive, it actually helped since didnt' have to worry about periods and I wasn't sick anymore. It took me 6 weeks to recover because the cuts had to heal. Started exercising 2 weeks after that.

MY DIL had one ovarie removed at age 14 and was suppose to have the other removed later because of cysts. They told her she wouldn't have kids. she had my grand daughter at age 19 but never had any more children in the next 15 yrs.

I wish you a quick and healthy recovery.

I think you son is probably fine. Does he say he isn't? My son is 34, he as a great job, gym and plays football. He has his own house.  He married 3 yrs ago, after one year of hell,(she was nuts, ex-drug addict, and couldn't not sit still) there is more but lets keep it short,  they divorced. It's taken him over a year to recover from her. He said his life is so much calmer,(I'm sure it is)he has a very stressful job and doesn't need it at home. He's just not ready to deal with another person right now. I do hope he meets someone that is more suited to him. He also had a vasctemy because he doesn't want any children , his or someone elses.

Just in time , thanks. I couldn't remember the name of that site. wanted to download the free app to my phone. I've read some pretty mean things on this site that's why I don't post much, just use the weight loss tools.  Remember to duck and cover around here too.

I see nothing has changed here recently so will check back at a later date.

It made me happy to read about the presents you loved most. When I was 9yr. old I had a bad case of chicken pox over the holiday season and my mom was due to have my brother any day. Our neighbor bought over a big old dress box and it had 3 dolls the aprox size of Barbie from when she was a girl in the 1920's. The box was full of clothes for them, they were beautiful. I wish my mom would have kept them , she didnt' save anything and gave them away.   I also, got a Chatty Kathy that year, you pulled a string on her back and she talked. That would have been 1966.

I was 6 yrs. old and I think I found out before my parents. I remember we were at an office (I think it was an insurance person). I was sitting on a sofa watching t.v. and they came on talking about it. I remembered that it was sad from what they were saying . When they showed the pictures it was scary. I don't remember talking to my parents about it or if they came and had heard what had happened. They did show it on t.v. at school, I somewhat remember that, but seems weird since I was only in 1st grade.

Original Post by theviewfromhere:

Original Post by cnichols2000:

Original Post by theviewfromhere:

you're both being jerks about it. we usually get the friends we deserve.

I'm interested to know how the OP is being a jerk about this.

• pouting because she didn't get her way
• not communicating honestly
• not accepting that she helped create the situation by making plans with an unreliable person

wow, are  you an angry person.

1.) I'm not pouting, I just feel of someone says that this is what we are going to do and unless they tell me I don't kown about the changes and have not say. If they know for a week ahead of time they should have told me more then 3 hours before the event. It's a 2 hr driving to get to the place. If you make plans, and someone totally changes them, I'm sure just from your attitude on here you wouldn't be very accepting.  

2. I communicated honestly. Up till 2 hrs before the event we had made plans and arrangements. She changed them.  she could have called me at any time and told me about the the extra tickets and asked if it was okay to ask along other people. It's call being considerate.

3.  The person works in a different grade leve then I do and we just have started being friends. We  have gone to 2 things together in the passed year , how the f am I suppose to know she is unreliable.

You are just trying to be difficult, and I honestly don't give a crap.

Thanks to those of you with USEFUL thoughts on this subject. The event is over and future plans won't be made this this person. I have other more RELIABLE  friend.

Original Post by anewdawn:

I think she should have told you about the free tickets.  I think if this was a good friend you would have been able to discuss your feelings freely with her. 

I would cut your losses at this point, you have already let her know you are no longer coming.  I have work friends too, but I don't hang out with them out of office hours unless they become personal friends do to mutual respect and like. 

I keep a distance the size of the Grand Canyon when it comes to stuff like this.  Work life..................................Persona l Life.  It's just easier and better that way. 

Chaulk it up to a life lesson and carry on wiser and prepared for next time. 

We arent good friends we are co workers.

Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by kevinatthebrook:

Would you all mind terribly having yourselves sterilized?

K'thanks

If only doctor's thought the same as you. :P It's not exactly easy to get sterilized without having had kids first. Also, while many people dislike babies and children, they almost always love their own, as some have even pointed out in this thread (they hate other people's babies/kids, but think theirs are awesome). 

 

I'm actually happy to see so many people here who have come out and said they don't want kids and don't want them. My son got a vasectomy when he was 25 yrs old. He was told he'd have to wait till he was 30 because : 1. one he wasnt married and 2. Didnt' have any children. Well he found a doctor in Nashville that would do it. I didn't find out until 5 years later. He got married at 30 to his girl friend he'd known for 10 yrs . She knew he didnt want children and that he had a vasectomy. After 15 mo. of marriage and getting her through college and taking care of her sick and dying father she decides  some weirld things. She wants kids but the thing is because of medical issues she shouldn't have any. Anyways she went nuts and had an affair and they got divorced. I'm hoping my son meets some nice lady  who doesn't want kids, and they can enjoy life together. He has never wanted kids, and doesn't want to raise someone elses. He likes to travel, is educated , and has a cute little corgi. (do I sound like I'm hunting for someone for him?) lol.

Original Post by cptbunny:

Babies drool, puke, leak boogers, poop and pee. I see nothing glorious about any of those. ;P THEN they grow up into people. Ew.

ETA: And they're freakin' expensive.

I use to think most were cute, there were some that were really ugly. Hopefully the ugly ones grow into better looking adults. I'm a teacher and I use to love them all but, I think old age is catching up and it's getting hard to be around them. I've been puked on, coughed on, etc... and we are only into the second 9 weeks. Not to forget the runs and not making it to the bathroom. I work with 1st and 2nd grade. If another one sneezes snot all over their face and just stands there ,I'm going to puke. I had that happen at school and some kid did it when I was out to dinner the other night. the mom took forever to wipe his face, everyone was grossed out.   I'm not going out to eat anymore. Also, teach your children not to eat their boogers, sometimes, I think that all they get to eat for the day. ; (  Makes them less cute.  Ooops , sorry off topic. No they aren't cute and less so as they get bigger.  Retirement soon.