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The Lounge What's Your Closest "Near Death" Experience? Feb 22 2011
10:59 (UTC)
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The one everyone knows about which happened last June due to ED. Hmm, a month after that (attempted suicide). Several other times throughout my life... I've had three ODs - unintentional. I don't do that kind of thing anymore. Oh and one serious car accident - car was airborne, flipped and totaled; somehow I survived without a scratch, which was pretty creepy/awesome.

The Lounge Turn Off's totally vain thread.. Feb 20 2011
03:57 (UTC)
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Original Post by caloricat:

I have relatively few.

Physical:

  • Hair on women where it shouldn't be or in excessive amounts like moustaches, beards, armpits, legs or excessive amounts on the arms.  If the woman didn't shave her legs at all, I probably wouldn't be able to even eat dinner with her without feeling ill.
  • Obesity
  • Height.  I'm 6 feet tall, I'd be weary going out with a woman taller than me.
  • Age.  I wouldn't want a woman more than 5 or so years older than me.
  • Tattoos/Piercings.  I actually think 1-3 small tatoos can be sexy or cute and even a small nose piercing or belly piercing.  But if it's out of hand and she looks like a half-*** erector set, no thanks.

Personality:

  • Women who excessively swear or use profanity.
  • Women who talk about fighitng (physically) with other women or men.
  • Women who are overly involved in something.  Like a woman who is too political or too religious or loves Survivor a little too much.  Exception, girls who love Star Wars or something I really like as well.
  • Women saving themselves for marriage.  Not a dealbreaker, but higher standards apply if I'm gonna wait.
  • Women who are "too vegetarian".  I don't mind vegetarians, but I'm not one and if that's a problem, it's not gonna change.
  • Women who are divorced, although not a dealbreaker at all, just a warning sign.
  • Women with teenage or grown children.  Little kids are fine, but grown children can be a pain to the dating process.  Not a dealbreaker, just a thing to be careful with.
  • Has no job/career...not important when I was younger, but as I got older it became less "cute".
  • Exotic pets or more than 2-3 cats.  I hate spiders and scorpions, I'm allergic to cats, and I see no value in having a lizard or snake as a "pet".

Dang.  Maybe I do have a lot.  I bet my "fans" would have thought the physical list would have been longer than the personality...

Looks like I'd be out of your radar. About 8 on your list apply to me *Sobs* :D

And yeah, I agree with what pg said @ #9

Weight Gain Still underweight but getting cellulite after weight gain Feb 20 2011
03:52 (UTC)
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Original Post by rosered93:

Cellulite is 100% genetic... sort of.  It's appearance is caused (simplified) by the fat stored on your thighs being caught between the connective tissue.  Some people will have more "length" to their connective tissue, some people's fat will distribute differently.  You could not have cellulite before weight loss, lose, and then regain, and have it.  The why of it, beyond physiology isn't completely understood, we don't know if it's affected by hormones, diet, or exercise.  There's only anecdotes.   That's why I added the "sort of" ;)

But honestly, it's not some type of horrible disfiguration as cellulite cream producers would have us believe, and it's so far from being a reason to be scared of weight gain that it's not even worth contemplating.  You're gaining weight to be healthy, and no one in the world other than you cares about the slightest bit of dimpling that might appear on your legs.  No one.

Very well put. You're such an intelligent girl. Are you studying medicine?

The Lounge Turn Off's totally vain thread.. Feb 20 2011
01:49 (UTC)
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Questionable hygiene is pretty understandable, and I suppose some may lump bad breath/teeth in with that too. My mum certainly does. Some people have a fear of the dentist but still, a rotting set of teeth isn't something I imagine anyone wants to kiss. I'd be worried about their health too.

As for the skin, well yeah, some people really can't help that. I could and would look past it if I connected on other levels. ETA: Actually, I'd look past it regardless of connection.

We all have our preferences, but there are always exceptions to our self-imposed rules, at least in my case. For me I think "deal breakers" relate more to certain personality and behavioural traits. Smelliness and poor hygiene would certainly do it though.

Weight Gain Still underweight but getting cellulite after weight gain Feb 20 2011
01:42 (UTC)
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Genetics. I'm just on "overweight" and I have no cellulite. Weight often has nothing to do with it.

The Lounge Who are you missing? Feb 20 2011
01:05 (UTC)
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Original Post by js49341:

I am missing my dog Bosko. I had to have him put down last March and I still cry. I miss seeing the top of his little head and tail wagging at the back door when I get home from work. His 15th birthday would have been on 2/22. It still catches me off guard not to hear his little nails on the tiles in the kitchen or feeling him rub his spitty tennis ball on my leg. I was with him right to the end. That's the least I could do for my friend for his life-long friendship.

So sweet.. :(

Foods if YOU were a food, what would you be? Feb 18 2011
20:39 (UTC)
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Original Post by annaliese_:

Original Post by ninafish:

It's okay annaliese, it's hard for everyone. I'm sorry you're finding things so difficult right now. I know it wasn't your intention to trigger others - you're right, you are very entrenched at the moment. But I'm really heartened to hear that you are making an effort to recover. I think the very fact that you stay here is evidence of that. Just hang in there. Keep trying. I too never, ever, EVER thought I could recover, I swear. There is a much better life for you, if you keep battling on. I promise.

:) <3

i can't see myself being like this forever nor do i want to, i don't even care about how much i weigh or junk food, it's just a total obsession over food :l

Yes, having to think about it all day everyday is pure torture. I really wanted my ED to kill me because I believed that it would never end. But it did. And it can for you, too.

Health & Support Distortion-need honest feedback Feb 18 2011
19:35 (UTC)
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Original Post by distance13:

Ninafish was being a bit harsh. Seriously, the golden rule comes into play, be nice because you'd want people to be nice to you. 

Truth can be harsh. She wanted honest feedback. I meant no malice. I'm not going to sugar coat things for the ED. They don't get through that way. Her situation is reversible and can only continue to get better as she progresses with recovery.

Health & Support Distortion-need honest feedback Feb 18 2011
17:52 (UTC)
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You know that this shouldn't be about the way you look. If it was, many anorexics would be seemingly okay, when you and I both know that this is certainly not the case. I had people telling me I looked fantastic at a BMI of 14, 13 even.

Truth? You look very thin, yes. I don't think you look great. I think you look prematurely aged due to emaciation. I also think that it's reversible.

If that is you now I can only imagine what you must have looked like 15 lbs lighter. Your friends are telling you that you look great because comparatively, you probably do. Comparatively.

Foods if YOU were a food, what would you be? Feb 18 2011
17:43 (UTC)
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Original Post by annaliese_:

I'm actually crying reading this, part of me was annoyed at first like why don't people leave me alone, it's my life, even though this is no life, but i realised that people actually give a damn even though i'm just another poster on a forum. i do want to get better and i have been in hospital and see a number of different doctors and a meeting for girls my age, i'm just quite entrenched at the moment. i go from good weeks to bad weeks at the moment, i don't see no possibility of recovery in the future, as i know i will get better, just at the moment i'm quite swamped by it all.

 

i'm sorry if any of my posts have been triggering, it's never been my intention at all, and i'm ashamed to think that one of my posts might have created some bad thoughts in anyone, even non-ED posters. I'm gonna make a concious effort now to think what might trigger me if i read it from someone else

It's okay annaliese, it's hard for everyone. I'm sorry you're finding things so difficult right now. I know it wasn't your intention to trigger others - you're right, you are very entrenched at the moment. But I'm really heartened to hear that you are making an effort to recover. I think the very fact that you stay here is evidence of that. Just hang in there. Keep trying. I too never, ever, EVER thought I could recover, I swear. There is a much better life for you, if you keep battling on. I promise.

The Lounge I double dog dare you.. Feb 18 2011
14:22 (UTC)
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I withdraw such melancholia from you and purge much of a muchness, but it hasn't left me low. Just thoughtful, always thoughtful. You always leave me thoughtful.

The Lounge Can you Dance as good as this kid?? Feb 18 2011
14:12 (UTC)
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Original Post by r4eboxer:

the dancing was horrid, but I don't call it child porn. I had a boy who dressed in my clothes when he was young. Heels, stockings and gowns.  I'd say he is the next generation of female impersonators. To me it's not much different than encouraging your kids in sports and videoing it.

I don't know. My little cousin used to dress in drag and we'd put makeup on him. He'd dance around and it was funny and cute. There is something distinctly unwholesome about the way the kid in the video is dancing though; it's suggestive and just really weird.

The Lounge How often do you clean your house? Feb 18 2011
12:49 (UTC)
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My german mother does the cleaning. And then she does it again. And once more after that, for good measure.

I haven't inherited this tendency.

The Lounge Can you Dance as good as this kid?? Feb 18 2011
12:46 (UTC)
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WTF? This is child porn. I'm so disturbed. What the **** are the parents thinking? Seriously, I bet there are freaks out there getting off to this. So horrifying.

The Lounge Videogames! Feb 18 2011
05:47 (UTC)
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Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by ninafish:

Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by ninafish:

I would like to be a gay man elf too. For a short while, anyway. Eh.

My parents are getting me that xbox kinect thingie for my birthday. Yes, I'm a 28 year old infant. Is the kinect better than the other one... I forget its name. And what are good games for it. I'm supposed to tell them which ones I want.

I've got Dance Central and Your Shape for Kinect. I looooooooooooooove Dance Central, it's sooo much fun! Your Shape, I find is boring. It also comes with Kinect Adventures which is like a freakin' workout all by itself. ;D

@vultar - wow thanks for such a comprehensive rundown of it - awesome stuff.

Bunny - do you have wii too? Which do you prefer? Do you think kinect is worth getting?

I have Wii, but I prefer Kinect because I got it for those 2 games I listed. If your plan is family sort of stuff, then Wii is best for sure. Wii is just a weak console, a lot of kiddy games. Nintendo did poorly this console-round. At least Gamecube could keep up with PS2 and Xbox. Wii doesn't even stand a chance next to PS3 and X360 in terms of power.

Depends on how hardcore of a gamer you are. If you're casual, then I recommend Wii, it has the perfect games for casual gamers. Not to say that casual gamers can't play X360 or PS3, it's just not as geared towards them in the same way.

Super Mario Galaxy 1 and 2 is awesome. 8)

Thanks bunny. I'm not a hardcore gamer by any stretch (doesn't mean I couldn't turn into one). I want one where I can do exercises in the comfort of my own home. I hear that kinect is good for this. God, I should really do more research. Maybe into PS3 too. I bought an xbox360 ages ago for my ex but I didn't play it. I'm more into the "active" things - that's what has made me want one.

Weight Gain Talk about reverse psychology..... Feb 18 2011
02:26 (UTC)
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llama - this is not only entirely inappropriate but it is potentially very destructive. Nice woman or not, as your therapist she should not be making such infelicitous comments; it actually makes me quite angry. I don't care how many titles proceed her name - she has no clue how to deal with ED patients. None at all.

I really think you need to find a more qualified therapist. I don't mean to be stalkerish, but I see that you are from Oz too. If you're from the Sydney region, I have a few names I could pm you. I have no association with these people, but they come highly recommended by the inpatient/outpatient program I attended.

Foods if YOU were a food, what would you be? Feb 18 2011
02:12 (UTC)
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Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by ninafish:

I flicked through some of her posts and couldn't find the offenders, but if this is true I'm very concerned.

they are buried among two dozen food surveys, but they are there.

Hmm yes. I just read through some of the survey responses too. I think it's safe to say that the vast majority of people who would respond to that many surveys about food are starving. I feel sorry for her, but this isn't the place for her at the moment.

The Lounge Videogames! Feb 18 2011
01:36 (UTC)
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Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by ninafish:

I would like to be a gay man elf too. For a short while, anyway. Eh.

My parents are getting me that xbox kinect thingie for my birthday. Yes, I'm a 28 year old infant. Is the kinect better than the other one... I forget its name. And what are good games for it. I'm supposed to tell them which ones I want.

I've got Dance Central and Your Shape for Kinect. I looooooooooooooove Dance Central, it's sooo much fun! Your Shape, I find is boring. It also comes with Kinect Adventures which is like a freakin' workout all by itself. ;D

@vultar - wow thanks for such a comprehensive rundown of it - awesome stuff.

Bunny - do you have wii too? Which do you prefer? Do you think kinect is worth getting?

Foods if YOU were a food, what would you be? Feb 17 2011
18:01 (UTC)
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Original Post by muchlinski:

I didn't think artichokes were pro-ana, I know the other posts and threads you've done on CC. You have a full-blown eating disorder and are not trying to stop it or get help. You are underweight, yet still only eat 500cal a day and talk about weight loss. It's just not right, and is pro-ana. That's why I'm upset that you continue to post on CC, even though you are not a good influence.

I flicked through some of her posts and couldn't find the offenders, but if this is true I'm very concerned.

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