Posts by piratekitty

Original Post by deerich2012:

Sweetie, I have heard this story so many times.  The women who wait end up regretting it ten years down the line.  You can't make him change.  Don't waste your time.  You will find someone else to love.  Just keep looking.  There's someone out there who wants the same thing that you want.  This guy doesn't want it, then move on to find someone who does.

Exactly. You can never expect someone to change their mind, sure he might later with someone else, but what if you stay with him and he never does.

I've been there and I stayed in a relationship going nowhere for 5 more years after I got the "I don't want to get married" talk. I too, had made it clear that the commitment of marriage was important to me. I learned the hard way that it had nothing to do with me and there was nothing I could ever do or be that would change his mind.

Please don't waste your time in a situation that won't make you happy.

My monthly grocery bill for 1 person could feed double the people down in the States. The cost of living is definitely higher up here!

I love tea, I drink 2-3 cups a day, but green tea grosses me out. To me it tastes like dirty gym socks smell.

It's like cilantro, I freaking HATE cilantro, makes me gag.

I have just accepted that my cranky taste buds will not abide by these things and I live with it.

I'm not sure if anyone else has said it, but if I may say, every Bigelow brand tea I have tried is simple dreadful.

Definitely go full leaf, and don't under estimate the taste and benefits of black tea:

From About.com

Until recently, tea research has focused on green tea. Green tea is loaded with the compound epigallocatechin gallate (EGCg), a powerful anti-oxidant. Since the fermentation process used to make black tea converts EGCg into other compounds, researchers assumed black tea had less health benefits than green tea. However, recent studies indicate the compounds contained in black tea - theaflavins and thearubigens - do more than contribute to its dark color and distinctive flavor. They also provide health benefits originally attributed solely to green tea.

Ok, so I loooooove cheese. Saying to me "Just put on less cheese" will get you a pair of rolled eyes and a scoff.

That being said, switching to a really good tasty mozzarella will help. For example even Tre Stelle balled mozza has a better, stronger, fuller flavour than say Kraft, so you'll use less for taste reasons. I also like to add a smattering of Feta.

Then it's all about the veggies. None of that silly pizza parlour 3 pieces of pepper per slice, I LOAD it up. Such a nice satisfying crunch when you bite in... yummm!

The volume of veggies means I can only eat like 2 slices and then I'm full therefore I have cut down my cheese and crust intake and the taste is nice and complex from the variety of veg.

If you want to cut some sodium too leave off the sauce and use a couple of fresh tomatoes, peeled and diced instead, then just sprinkle with italian seasoning.

OH man I want pizza for dinner now!!

Oh my...

She really does like to take it to a whole new level eh? I myself am accident prone, though I have never broken a bone *knocks on wood*. Mostly I have a tendency to land on my face.

There seems to be two types of us: the overly cautious, and the under-cautious; I'd say she fall in the under category.

I wish you luck with that one!

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

Exercise does help defeat mild depression - it's scientifically proven.

Know what else helps too? Having lots of hawt sex and laughing your AO (best not one right after the other, unless both parties are laughing).

Western culture suffers from severe Vitamin F deficiency. (Vitamin Fun!) 

It also doesn't help that a lot of people mistake getting blotto on drugs or alcohol for fun. That's actually really sad for them.

Try to remember back to before (similarly damaged) people told you you weren't good enough. Remember what it was like to be enchanted by watching a butterfly's haphazard flight path, or a leaf navigating the eddy and flow of a babbling stream. Remember the giddy delight of twirling and dancing just for the sheer joy of it. That's who we really are. That's who we were the moment we were born. Our authentic selves still know how to experience the joy of being alive. We can still tap into it if we try.

Getting through the obstacles and letting go of the filters that experience has brought to us is simply a process. It's definitely worth it.

*twirls and dances with abandon*

So true! I stay away from negative people for this reason.

Weeeeeeeeee!

I'm an agoraphobic and I found a lot of help from some books on mental disorders. I think because I'm very analytical they helped me organize my thought processes enough that I was able to manage or at least predict and mitigate my triggers.

And I have a hair trigger; something as simple as the wind blowing my hair around or missing a belt loop on my pants was enough to set me off.

I also have a family of disbelievers with a huge history of mental illness on both sides. I managed it all in secret from age 11-28. When I couldn't manage it alone anymore I went to a doctor and got on meds. Lucky for me they are working well enough without major side effects that I can live a (mostly) normal life. My family know now because I talk about it (even if they don't all believe me) it's helpful for me to acknowledge my condition out loud, so I figure screw 'em if they don't like it. It's better they think I'm crazy, than me think I'm crazy.

A few books that helped me (I realized my illness is not the same as yours I think some of the principles of interpreting and managing our thoughts are universal):

Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks

Embracing the Fear

Hang in there and remember there's a whole ton of us out there and we all have a different solution for managing our mental illness (and we're all rooting for you!), you just have to find yours. Try some different things and see. Maybe you need to work some stuff out on your own before you try meds again (there are a ton to try and you can always stop them if they don't work) or see another mental health professional. Maybe what you need is a counselor and not a psychiatrist (have you done any grief therapy?).

Oh I have some weird ones on occasion. Nothing mind blowing, but sometimes I want things like dry cereal with a frosty cream soda or carrots dipped in ice water. I can't drink alcohol anymore but I used to love PEZ candy with beer.

My cubicle at work is pretty private so I just go with it. Haters gonna hate, lol.

Don't know how helpful this is, but my dad quit smoking in January cold turkey. He had previously had a few failed attempts and then resigned himself to being a lifer (he started at 11 and is now 55). We're not sure what spurred him to finally kick the habit, but he's doing amazing.

I liked what he said to me last weekend:

"Do I crave a cigarette, you bet I do! Regularly, in fact, but the urge only usually lasts for a few minutes. Really, a few minutes isn't so bad, I'm an adult, I can control myself for a few minutes."

So basically he's taking it a few minutes at a time, that way he doesn't feel that pressure lingering over him all the time to not smoke. He simply doesn't think about it until a craving hits. It's a lot easier to have small spurts of willpower!

I saved up the first half of this season and watched it all last weekend as the most awesome marathon in the history of TV!

Some of the characters are annoying, but I think that's what makes the show work so well, you have to have the contrast. I'm seriously surprised they haven't left Shane to rot in a field somewhere though, that dude's gone mental!

I am looking forward to Sunday!!!