Posts by planningtomakeit

You cant be recovered fully if youre not physically recovered. It p££$$s me off when people think they can be cured but still have an anorectic body

Wordsmith: Your analogy made me lol (and im in *bucks), but that is exactly what its like. I would never choose anorexia as a friend, but i chosen to choose it as a frenemy-why oh why.

I Know its ok toeat and to eat well and all the theory, but, I dont know whats up with me. I seem to want it....to want.....idk, to not want recovery. I think I am craving attention and minding and safety right now.

Im confuzzled: are we saying what we ate pre-ed or what we would eat pre-ed if we were in the situation we are in now but had the same mindset of eating pre-ed.

I'll do both because i like this thread :)

Pre-ed: I would have eaten like this:

Breakfast: BIG bowl of cereal (usually 'just right' or muesli-whatever was in the house!)

Lunch: A chicken satay wrap or roll or beans on toast or an egg mayo sandwich

Dinner: Curry, homemade with lots of rice or a noodle/fish dish-my family were mad into cooking indian and asian food

Snacks throughout the day: Crackers and butter. Porridge. Flapjacks. Popcorn. Cereal bars.

NOW? If I was in the situat I am in now but had the mindset of pre-ed:

Breakfast: Big bowl of cereal (muesli-mmmmmmmmmmmmmm) with fresh strawberries

Lunch: Brown bread with lots of butter and a homemade soup

Dinner: Takeaway chinese of honey glaze pork ribs and duck lettuce wraps and prawn crackers-mmmmmmmmmmmm :)

Snacks: Scone, Ice cream, Maltesers,

You know you are doing well right? Well then thats what should really matter.

Parents get too emotionally involved with recovery (And we cant blame them but it doesnt help us when they are so emotionally involved)

You probalay understand that your mum just wants whats best for you, she loves you and she just wants you to be well.

You also probably know that she doesnt understand eating disorders (nor can you expect her to)

Your mum wants it all better now, but recovery doesnt work like that. You are building yourself up, you are doing really well, you know if youre are being disordered or not, you know what you can manage, you know what you need to challenge yourself on.

Do recovery for YOU. That is the best and only way. Your mum will see better results if you eat for yourself than if you eat to prove to her that you are eating.

A few things you could do to 'ease' the situation are;

-eat meals WITH your family (and try to have the same stuff

-let your mum have her rants at you but try not to get too emotionally affected by them (this takes practice) engaging in the argument will only escalate the situation and nothing will get slved.

-be strong and know that YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST

-let your mum cook and help her out at times (only at times)

-go out with your friends more and engage in your life activities (that way, your mum might start to see you as a normal young pro active daughter as opposed to her 'daughter with an eating disorder'.

-say to your Mum that you love her and you want to be well and healthy just as much and she wants you to

-remember that your life is YOURS not your mums.

-you dont have to prove anything to anyone but yourself.

I hope Some of this is relevant to you. It comes from many years of family issues and tissues and therapy

:)

Parents-cant live with'em, cant live without'em.

xxxxx

I hope some of this