Posts by rachd

Original Post by purespark:

Original Post by roxysparkles:

Original Post by purespark:

Original Post by rachd:

It's human nature to form a clique when you have a group of people over a certain number. It doesn't make it bad, it's just what happens.

Maybe.  The show "Survivor" would certainly have us think so.

I truly don't see that dynamic here, but I don't need to argue about it. 

omg, sparkie, so funny you mentioned survivor. after all this stuff came up with cliques and claques and whatever, I changed the thinggy that shows up when you hover over my avi. hilarious.

Ha!  I'm reading your miiiind! 

 I think I'm one of the few people on the planet that hasn't seen that show :)

Original Post by roxysparkles:

Original Post by moonikins:

I'm not here to defend Calcat. I'd like to point out that if Calcat insulted several posters as much as they insult him, that he would be ejected from the site.

I do agree with this. I especially found it horrific that someone called him a "Jack @#$#" and wasn't modded.

As usual mooni summed up one of my points with many fewer words than I was able to use :)

Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by rachd:

Original Post by jules817:

 I was the only one in the gay children thread who insulted him? really? I tried answering his question several times, only to be told i wasn't answering honestly because he can't wrap his head around someone not feeling the way he does. That rubs me the wrong way. He posts threads and comments constantly that he KNOWS will cause drama, then cries like a big baby when people call him out on it. If you don't see that, you need to open your eyes.

 If you'd like to report me to the mods for harassing CCat, please feel free. He hasn't seemed to think it necessary.

 Nah...I don't feel the need to report anything, that's CCat's job.

If you're feel attacked I apologize, but your situation and responses in the threads the last couple weeks was just the perfect example of the issues listed in the OP.

 Thanks sooo much for using me as an example! glad to be of service bringing this thread back on track!

 You're welcome.

Original Post by jules817:

 I was the only one in the gay children thread who insulted him? really? I tried answering his question several times, only to be told i wasn't answering honestly because he can't wrap his head around someone not feeling the way he does. That rubs me the wrong way. He posts threads and comments constantly that he KNOWS will cause drama, then cries like a big baby when people call him out on it. If you don't see that, you need to open your eyes.

 If you'd like to report me to the mods for harassing CCat, please feel free. He hasn't seemed to think it necessary.

 Nah...I don't feel the need to report anything, that's CCat's job.

If you're feel attacked I apologize, but your situation and responses in the threads the last couple weeks was just the perfect example of the issues listed in the OP.

Original Post by hksquared:

Original Post by jules817:

speaking of stalking, you seem to know my posting habits pretty well...creepy.

Hmm.. I know Rachd. She's another one that's been here awhile.

Seems to me that if you've been here long enough you get a pretty good idea what at least the regular's different posting habits are.

 yea...I can't believe I've been on here since 2006...I feel old! :)

Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by rachd:

Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by moonikins:

Original Post by caloricat:

One person posted that most of the lounge disagrees with each other all the time, including inside that "group"...I would say I've personally rarely seen that in the 3 years I've been around.  It happens...usually about dumb stuff like shoes or mayonaise...but usually if it there is a "real" disagreement in that particular "group"...it becomes like the weakest of the litter starving to death and that person just leaves the site or Lounge.  Why is that?  I think it goes back to what's already been said about intolerance, moral superiority, needing to be right, etc...

I have had some pretty heated disagreements with various people on CC. A couple of weeks ago Nomo and I were head butting each other. We never did really settle the disagreement. We both kind of gave up on it at the same time.

There are some cliques or groups of people on here who pretty much see eye to eye most of the time. They do tend to defend each other. I don't think it is as strong or as organized as you do though.

 Nobody thinks it's as strong or as organized as he does. Amount of time he's spent talking about it, I expect him to publish a thesis any day now. Lounge Clique Dynamics: Clique or "Clique"?

 Do you have a secret crush on CalCat or something?

Every thread I've gone into the last couple weeks if he posts or someone posts something about him, you immediately jump on to crititize/namecall/or just ridicule him. And that's pretty much all you post in the thread.

Hey...I think he's a bit melodramatic, but this is like internet stalking...or the bully pulling your ponytails cause he secretly likes you.

I know this is a little off topic, but definitely proves some points in the OP.

Yup! you got me! I have a giant crush on CCat. just can't hid it any longer. So glad someone finally called me out so i can admit the truth.

speaking of stalking, you seem to know my posting habits pretty well...creepy.

It's just an observation, I do lurk in the interesting threads. Can't say you yourself interest me enough to stalk though.

Seriously, this is a perfect example of the point the OP was making. I point out a case of someone being "harrassed" or "jumped on" and a couple of regulars come out to defend the other regular.

But what are they defending? Can you seriously not see my example? I'm not making anything up...it's not even a debate, just an example.

I think the specific thread I was thinking of was the one on gay children. You pretty much only commented to insult CCat, then I saw it in this one...a thread he didn't even start.

I'm not defending CCat, he's a big boy and can speak for himself....a bit melodramatic perhaps, but some of his points are being proven as I type. Are some treated different? Obviously! If someone virtually followed me around mocking or insulting my posts, I would be upset and expect the mods to do something about it.

Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by connielicious:

Original Post by cptbunny:

I just wanna say that people are confusing blunt honesty with rudeness. PG has never ever been rude, she's always been straight up honest. None of the sugar-coated junk (think of all the calories!).

People get angry at fidget too and she does the same thing. People just don't like hearing the truth. I appreciate harsh truths even if it upsets me (because it's true).

 I don't think that even PG would make such a statement. And since when does honesty have to be BLUNT.

Blunt -definition-; insensitively frank, showing no delicacy or consideration. What's so great about that?

It may not be great to you, but it's still not rude by definition. I think it's great because it's 100% honest and straight forward.

I think a lot of people misread others as well.

Doesn't PG use the phrase or some version of the phrase "you're an idiot" pretty much all the time? Granted that's usually after she's bluntly made her point a time or two...but that's more than blunt.

I kinda feel for PG in these type of threads, she tends to be called out because she posts so often, but there are many more worse than her.

Original Post by starlitocean:

Original Post by caloricat:

I was looking at some polling data for support of homosexuality in the US.  The numbers will vary greatly (33-74%) depending on who is conducting the survey, but the general mainstream sources seem to point towards 50-55% support for the homosexual lifestyle.

However, that support seemed to fall off significantly (by roughly 80%) when people were asked if that lifestyle was acceptable for them.

right here, rachd.

 

 Hummm...I must be completely missing it. That doesn't say he thinks it's a choice...just the percentage of people who changed their mind.

I'm not a parent, but as most of you my biggest wish for any future children would be for them to be happy. Whether it's a happy homosexual or a happy heterosexual.

However, I do think the OP has a point and as evidenced in roxy's story....being gay is just more difficult. Society has not quite gotten to the point of total acceptance. This is where I would not 'wish' homosexuality on my child. I also would not wish for them to have physical imperfection (also inviting ridicule), or a speech impediment, or a learning disability. All of things are examples of things that can make life harder on a child/adult.

Do I think that being gay is 'bad'? Of course not. But do I think that society's treatment of homosexuality is/can be 'bad'? Yes...one I wouldn't 'wish' on my child.

IMO...In the end it's not about wishing for your child to have a specific sexual orientation, it's about wishing for your child to have the easiest road to happiness.

On another note...

There was this huge discussion bashing the OP for thinking homosexuality was a choice...but I don't see where the OP ever said that? Am I missing it? They even said multiple times that they'd be supportive of their child? Maybe this is something left over from another discussion? Just curious...

This is the usual scenario...

I'm ready to go and ask him "are you ready? let's go!"....he say's "almost, just gotta do xyz". This repeats about 3 times, finally I find something else to do while waiting on him. At exactly the moment I start to do something else he goes into the garage, starts the car, and yells "Why aren't you ready?".

Urgggggg!!!! And he calls me late! 'roll of eyes'