Rachelwert

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The Lounge Gall bladder removal Apr 23 2012
14:53 (UTC)
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Warn him about sneezing and coughing! It hurts SO bad. I have to plug my nose whenever I feel a sneeze coming on because it's excruciating. I also choked on some chicken broth and went into a coughing fit for 30 seconds or so which was also really painful. Oh, and buy a heating pad if you don't have one already. Air can get stuck in your abdominal cavity and press on your diaphragm, giving you this realllyyy bad referred pain in your shoulders.

The Lounge The words "I love you" Apr 23 2012
00:32 (UTC)
13

I don't think there's anything wrong with not having said "I love you" three months into a relationship.

My boyfriend and I said "I love you" pretty early in our relationship, probably only 2 months in or so, but we were very close friends for a little over a year prior to dating. We both had feelings for each other for the majority of our friendship but were either dating other people or had other things going on that prevented us from being more than friends. If we hadn't been close prior to dating, I definitely don't think we would have said "I love you" to each other after only 2 months. We've been together for almost 4 years now so I don't think we were confused when we said it or really just experiencing feelings of lust.

My only other serious boyfriend and I said "I love you" to each other about 6 months into our relationship. And I think we both felt pressured to say it but didn't really mean it.

 

The Lounge Gall bladder removal Apr 23 2012
00:15 (UTC)
5

Thanks for all of the replies! I had a lap chole on Thursday and feel mostly better now.

Health & Support General Anaesthetic Apr 19 2012
22:36 (UTC)
1

Generally you have a surgery consult and then schedule the surgery at the end of that meeting with the doctor. At the surgery consult they explain what's going to happen, how long recovery will be, how you'll manage your pain afterwards, what you can and can't eat, etc. So that's a really good time to explain your fears and ask about them making a few accommodations for you. Just make sure you are serious about it, they're definitely capable of making it comfortable but sometimes it's a tiny bit hard to get doctors to make accommodations. It can be really annoying going through the whole health care system. I just got my gall bladder out and had to go to see my general practitioner, get an ultra sound, go to 2 surgery consults, and finally have surgery. From start to finish it took a month.

Health & Support General Anaesthetic Apr 18 2012
21:30 (UTC)
4

Every time I've had surgery they've started an IV before doing anything else. But if you're really nervous I bet you could request an anti anxiety medication to be prescribed at your surgery consult appointment that you could take before going in to surgery. Or they could give you nitrous oxide prior to starting your IV. Generally health care workers are pretty sympathetic about different anomalies you might have and want to help you overcome them if you talk about it ahead of time. I'd set up a surgery consult and talk to the doctor about your fear and make a plan for what will happen when you go into surgery so you know exactly what to expect and you know that they'll work with you to make you as comfortable as possible.

Weight Loss Thai Food Apr 18 2012
02:54 (UTC)
3

I think that Larb Gai is pretty healthy. It's basically ground white meat chicken with lots of spices, garlic, lime juice, and it's really yummy and flavorful. You scoop it into little cabbage cups and eat it like a taco. I feel like it's healthy...the juice left at the bottom of the plate never has any distinguishable oil in it and the chicken is always white meat at the place I go to.

I also order cashew nut chicken a lot. It's probably not that healthy because I'm sure it's cooked in quite a bit of oil, but it's really yummy with brown rice. Tons of veggies, yummy chicken, and tasty little cashews.

 

Foods is it the killer? Apr 15 2012
22:32 (UTC)
1

I eat ice cream 1-3 times a week and I've lost almost 70 pounds. I weigh it out on a food scale since it's usually only half a cup as a serving size and it can be a bit hard to estimate.  As long as you have room for it in your daily calories it's completely fine!

The Lounge Is there something odd about what I'm doing? Apr 14 2012
22:04 (UTC)
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Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:

Original Post by rachelwert:

Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:

Original Post by armandounc:

Excuse me for saying this, but I think it's your mother who needs a psychiatrist.

She should be ecstatic to have a daughter who is so focused on her education and her future, rather than partying and dating and getting pregnant.

I am sorry you are in that situation.

No, she and my father are very disappointed in me. I got a bit of a late start in life. I will admit to that. But in my mid 20s I got serious about college, did well and recently the hard work paid off. They don't think I am normal at all. It has been a major source of conflict.  They think that I am weird because I would rather study than get a boyfriend, get married and have children. My mother constantly tells me she doesn't understand what i'm doing, and that there are plenty of women who are married and getting their degrees at the same time. She keeps reminding me how she knows a woman who has 4 kids and is going to school fulltime, why can't that be you? My dad says I am wasting my life away.

 I dont know if what I am doing is right or wrong. Or if its really that abnormal. Maybe I should have had a kid right now and went to school at the same time. I feel awful

 

I'm sorry you're going through this...nursing prereqs and nursing school are difficult enough even with a very supportive family. I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but people in my RN program that don't have families yet do substantially better than the vast majority of people that already are married with kids. The women that already have kids frequently talk about their husbands getting mad at them for not being home enough and how much they miss out on seeing their kids growing up because they're mainly only home in the evenings and on the weekends (and studying like crazy even then.)

I think you've made the right choice by waiting to start a family, and obviously you do, too. It doesn't really matter what your parents think, but obviously since you live with them and they're not exactly polite about expressing their point of view it's not the most pleasant situation. Have you ever said anything like "You know, mom, I'm proud of myself, I've worked really hard to get here. I wish you were proud of me, too." Or "Mom, I'm not going to make my life any harder than it already is right now just to please you. I'll get married and have kids when I'm ready to. Do you really want me to go off searching for a husband and try to get pregnant immediately just because to make you think that I'm 'normal'?"

If I were you I'd stay in my room, too! Geez. I can't believe she just wants you to be bare foot and pregnant and not be a strong, successful woman. And nursing school is a lot different than just getting a normal degree at college...it's incredibly time consuming and demanding physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. It is possible to be successful in nursing school with a family, but you absolutely should not start a family just because your mother would like you to. You'll be able to devote the time that your future family will deserve after you finish school.

You'll be done with nursing school by the time you're 28 or 29. That's not too late to date, get married, and have kids (if that's what you want.) Many women don't have kids until their late 30's or even early 40's.

Once again, I'm really sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve it at all, you deserve to have a supportive family that will congratulate you when they see how hard you're working. Don't do anything to make someone else happy, keep working hard and make yourself happy.


Thank you for understanding. My parents accuse me of lying when I say how demanding nursing school is. They didn't go to college and they wonder why I just wont go work in a factory to make a living (like my dad did). It's not my dream and its not what I want to do.

My nursing school had a bit of an intro/orientation before we got started. They told us about the program and then at the end our families all came and the teachers explained how demanding nursing school is, how it's much different than any other type of degree you go get, and that we're not exaggerating when we say we don't have time to do anything but study. Maybe your school has something like that so your parents can hear from another persons mouth that you're not lying or exaggerating or making nursing school sound harder than it really is.

The Lounge Is there something odd about what I'm doing? Apr 14 2012
22:03 (UTC)
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Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:

Original Post by moonbow1:

Heck no, I say you have your priorities (sp?) straight.  I think your mother is the one who needs a psychiatrist. Why the hell are you the considered a black sheep because you don't have a relationship and kids? If that is a black sheep they would have a field day in my family,many have choosen not to have kids. why do they think you need to be married or have a boyfriend? DO they want to your move out? seems like there has to be another reason here. Can you move into an apt. with a roommate or dorm?     your parents  sound crazy to me.

In my family many of the women start having children at an early age--teenage years--I have cousins who are my age with a 10/11 year old kid. i'm the only one who doesn't have kids yet(well that i know of). But they are also single moms though and don't live in the best neighborhoods. I'm trying to make a better life for  myself and my parents are giving me a hard time. Sometimes my mom will be supportive but then other times she'll make comments like "what's wrong with living life the way your cousins do?" they are single moms who work minimum wage jobs. she makes it seem as if I'm trying to be uppity by wanting a good paying job and not wanting to work in a factory for the rest of my life to support myself

Is it possible that your mom is jealous? Did she also have kids very young and is your family having some financial trouble? Maybe she sees how well you're doing and wishes that she would have waited to have kids and went and worked hard to get a great career.

I don't think there's anything wrong with saying "I don't want the life that my cousins have. I want to be able to be a strong, financially stable, independent woman. I want to be able to help my kids pay for college, put them in any activities that they want to do, live in a nice neighborhood, and be able to spend time with them. If I work 3 minimum wage paying jobs I wont even see my kids, so what would be the point in having them?"

Foods Almond Milk Apr 14 2012
21:44 (UTC)
6

I use it in my coffee sometimes (the rest of the time I use vanilla soy milk), in cereal, and in smoothies. And sometimes in recipes that call for milk if it wont make a big difference. If I want to drink a glass of milk, I'll drink cow's milk because I'm not a huge fan of the taste of almond milk when it's not combined with anything.

Health & Support Battling insomnia Apr 14 2012
21:40 (UTC)
2

I'm not sure which of things you've already tried, so here are a few suggestions:

-Don't drink any caffeine after 2 pm (maybe even earlier, it depends on the person.) And don't eat chocolate after that, either.

-Only use your bed for sleeping. Don't watch TV in bed or read in bed.

-Lay down to 20 minutes and try to sleep, if you can't fall asleep, and up and occupy yourself until you feel tired enough.

-Get up at the same time every day (even if you were up half the night not being able to sleep.)

-Keep your room dark and at a comfortable temperature and wear ear plugs if you get disturbed easily by noises or live in a noisy house.

-You can try taking melatonin, it's relatively cheap at the drug store, I usually take it 30 minutes before going to bed.

-You can try Valerian root capsules or Valerian root tea before bed.

-Get plenty of exercise during the day but not right before bed.

-Do relaxing things before trying to fall asleep like reading a boring book, watching a cooking show...nothing that's too exciting.

-Put your phone and computer away 1-2 hours before you plan on going to bed since they can be too stimulating and make it hard to wind down and sleep.

-You can try taking Diphenhydramine to sleep, but I don't know how great it is to take every night. It's the active ingredient in Tylenol PM that makes you tired and also just generic Benadryl.

-If none of these things work, go to the Dr. You might need a prescription sleep aid or you might need to have a sleep study done.

Weight Loss weight watchers? Apr 14 2012
21:32 (UTC)
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It just depends on what's easier for you. Weight watchers is basically just fancy calorie counting (and nutrition watching I suppose) that you pay for. But I think it's easier for a lot of people. Both have the same concept-eat mostly healthy, eat unhealthy things in moderation, once you've reached your limit for the day stop eating. You can lose weight either way, I'd just suggest choosing whichever is easier for you since that's what you'll be most likely to stick with.

Motivation How to say 'NO' Apr 14 2012
21:27 (UTC)
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Can you prepare a healthy dinner at your house for your friends? Or can you choose the place you go out to eat and decide on a restaurant that has lots of healthy options and nutritional facts online ahead of time? Can you compensate for eating more calories by working out extra the days you go out? You can go out to eat and lose weight, it just can't happen 4 times a week unless you're really careful about the choices you make. But going out once a week wont prevent you from losing weight as long as you're careful the rest of the time.

Just explain to your friends that you're trying to lose weight and it's just easier to eat healthy foods at home. And then make other suggestions of things you can do to get together. Work out together. Go on a walk. Have them over. Go shopping. Go do an activity.

Young Calorie Counters 5'8" girls looking to lose weight? share Apr 14 2012
21:20 (UTC)
4

My starting weight was 225 pounds and my current weight is 155. My goal weight is 135. I work out almost every morning before class at the gym on campus, usually going 45-65 minutes of cardio and 30-45 minutes of weights depending on the day. I usually eat 2,000-2,200 calories, sometimes more if I get extra exercise and sometimes only 1,700 when I'm lazy and skip the gym.

The Lounge Is there something odd about what I'm doing? Apr 14 2012
21:15 (UTC)
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Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:

Original Post by armandounc:

Excuse me for saying this, but I think it's your mother who needs a psychiatrist.

She should be ecstatic to have a daughter who is so focused on her education and her future, rather than partying and dating and getting pregnant.

I am sorry you are in that situation.

No, she and my father are very disappointed in me. I got a bit of a late start in life. I will admit to that. But in my mid 20s I got serious about college, did well and recently the hard work paid off. They don't think I am normal at all. It has been a major source of conflict.  They think that I am weird because I would rather study than get a boyfriend, get married and have children. My mother constantly tells me she doesn't understand what i'm doing, and that there are plenty of women who are married and getting their degrees at the same time. She keeps reminding me how she knows a woman who has 4 kids and is going to school fulltime, why can't that be you? My dad says I am wasting my life away.

 I dont know if what I am doing is right or wrong. Or if its really that abnormal. Maybe I should have had a kid right now and went to school at the same time. I feel awful

 

I'm sorry you're going through this...nursing prereqs and nursing school are difficult enough even with a very supportive family. I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but people in my RN program that don't have families yet do substantially better than the vast majority of people that already are married with kids. The women that already have kids frequently talk about their husbands getting mad at them for not being home enough and how much they miss out on seeing their kids growing up because they're mainly only home in the evenings and on the weekends (and studying like crazy even then.)

I think you've made the right choice by waiting to start a family, and obviously you do, too. It doesn't really matter what your parents think, but obviously since you live with them and they're not exactly polite about expressing their point of view it's not the most pleasant situation. Have you ever said anything like "You know, mom, I'm proud of myself, I've worked really hard to get here. I wish you were proud of me, too." Or "Mom, I'm not going to make my life any harder than it already is right now just to please you. I'll get married and have kids when I'm ready to. Do you really want me to go off searching for a husband and try to get pregnant immediately just because to make you think that I'm 'normal'?"

If I were you I'd stay in my room, too! Geez. I can't believe she just wants you to be bare foot and pregnant and not be a strong, successful woman. And nursing school is a lot different than just getting a normal degree at college...it's incredibly time consuming and demanding physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. It is possible to be successful in nursing school with a family, but you absolutely should not start a family just because your mother would like you to. You'll be able to devote the time that your future family will deserve after you finish school.

You'll be done with nursing school by the time you're 28 or 29. That's not too late to date, get married, and have kids (if that's what you want.) Many women don't have kids until their late 30's or even early 40's.

Once again, I'm really sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve it at all, you deserve to have a supportive family that will congratulate you when they see how hard you're working. Don't do anything to make someone else happy, keep working hard and make yourself happy.

Motivation Before & After pics- 105 lbs lost Apr 14 2012
20:54 (UTC)
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You look great!!! Congrats on all of your hard work! And thanks for posting, before and after pictures are great motivation.

Recipes Artichoke hearts Apr 14 2012
20:53 (UTC)
2

They go well in pasta. With some kalamata olives, sun dried tomatoes, feta cheese, pine nuts, olive oil, and chicken.

Health & Support tall and overweight / boyfriend not attracted anymore. Apr 13 2012
03:14 (UTC)
6

I was in a similar but not identical situation. My boyfriend is tall but he's pretty skinny (he's about 6'1" and 165 pounds) and I was 5'8" and 225 pounds. I was about 170 pounds when we started dating and I packed on 55 pounds over the course of 3 years. I know our sex life suffered and I felt insecure. I know he still loved me when I weighed 225 pounds, but I also know he was a lot less attracted to me even though he never came out and said that. I would get angry and sad whenever he mentioned my weight, but looking back I understand...I would probably be less attracted to him if he went from only a few pounds overweight to being moderately overweight like I did. And I also know he was worried about my health because I'd get really winded doing the slightest bit of exercise and my entire life revolved around eating.

Ultimately, no ones opinion of you will make you lose weight until you're ready to do it. It has to be something that you want, not just something you want to do to make someone else happy. And you can definitely do it. Now I weigh 155 pounds and I'm at a healthy BMI and I'm just working on losing some vanity pounds. My boyfriend is much more attracted to me and says it all the time, but most importantly I feel more comfortable in my own skin. I hope this helps. It sounds like you've got some good motivation already. You can add me on here and/or message me if you want any tips or someone to talk to about losing weight. Oh yeah, and we have the same name!

Foods Diet coke Apr 12 2012
12:52 (UTC)
3
Original Post by bleuatre:

Original Post by rachelwert:

Original Post by armandounc:

Wait a second are you actually arguing against the already proven science behind how artificial sweeteners trick your brain into making you want to consume more calories?

I haven't read a study that says that or searched for one.

And you don't care enough about a person's health and well-being to tell them that they could possibly get a load of cardiovascular diseases among many other risks simply because you would tell them only what they want to hear? Do you have a soul? "Oh no! No worries, you won't gain any wait. But you might die of a variety of heart diseases, it's cool though! Bye." <--- This is what I see with what you're saying.

Once again, you cannot trust one study that's been performed to produce solid facts about the effects of diet drinks. Numerous studies need to be conducted and produce the same results. If it was a definitive fact that diet coke caused cardiovascular disease, it would be common knowledge. Just like it's common knowledge that cigarettes cause cancer. It wouldn't be a "fact" that's listed in one study, the only study ever conducted that produced those results, that someone would need to search scholarly journals for. Also, the study you quoted even stated that it was inconclusive and basically that further studies need to be done since many questions are still unanswered before the results of the study are actually proven.

I'm done responding on this thread, it appears that you're getting irritated at everyone that replies with a different point of view, now. I'm sorry if I was rude in my original post and got you too worked up, you have the right to your own opinion and the right to tell that opinion to others, I just don't agree with it.

Foods Diet coke Apr 12 2012
04:21 (UTC)
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Original Post by armandounc:

Wait a second are you actually arguing against the already proven science behind how artificial sweeteners trick your brain into making you want to consume more calories?

I haven't read a study that says that or searched for one. Perhaps there is one, I don't know. All I originally did was tell the poster that she can still lose weight and drink a diet drink if she doesn't consume more calories in addition to that. Obviously if she drinks a diet drink and this gives her cravings for more processed sugar and gives in to these cravings then she isn't going to lose weight if she doesn't have a calorie deficit. I said that perhaps some people have cravings for sweets when they drink diet drinks, but I'm SURE this doesn't apply to everyone as plenty of people on this site mention drinking diet drinks and losing weight, I've personally done it, and I personally know plenty of people that have lost weight while drinking diet drinks. Cravings alone don't cause weight gain if there is no increase in calorie consumption.

I'm arguing against statements that essentially say that the diet soda fairy magically adds pounds of fat to your ass whenever you drink a diet coke. If you drink a diet drink everyday but have a calorie deficit, YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT.

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