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The Lounge	I need a book recommendation.	Nov 23 2011 15:36 (UTC)	11
Original Post by thehappyfish: Original Post by randomv3: http://www.amazon.com/Night-Angel-Trilogy-Bre nt-Weeks/dp/0316085146/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_5 I think Brent weeks is an amazing writer. He is fairly new, but man...this trilogy was great. It's very dark and not very happy most of the time. Great fight scenes, great characterizations, exciting, unpredictable(imo) and creative. I actually need to reread it because i dont really remember how it ends exactly. I may have recommended it to you before because I recommend it to everyone, haha. Excellent, I will check it out. I know what's going to happen, though. I'm going to check out recommendations, think "Man, that sounds good," because I have a weak spot for Fantasy in general, and then I'm going to want to read them all myself. So...does it make me a bad person to buy the book I most want to read so that I can borrow it from him? :D How about getting two copies and reading it together? I LOVED doing that with my ex. We made sure we went at the same pace so we could talk about things as we went. This is a great series for that because there's so much mystery throughout to speculate on.
The Lounge	I need a book recommendation.	Nov 23 2011 15:18 (UTC)	13
http://www.amazon.com/Night-Angel-Trilogy-Bre nt-Weeks/dp/0316085146/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_5 I think Brent weeks is an amazing writer. He is fairly new, but man...this trilogy was great. It's very dark and not very happy most of the time. Great fight scenes, great characterizations, exciting, unpredictable(imo) and creative. I actually need to reread it because i dont really remember how it ends exactly. I may have recommended it to you before because I recommend it to everyone, haha.
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 23 2011 15:14 (UTC)	3
We talked about it last night. She isn't going to dump me, but she just doesn't know what to do with him anymore. He says she can't talk to me about their relationship but honestly, I'm her only outlet right now. She is trying desperately to salvage their marriage and I've done nothing but support her so I'm not sure where he is coming from on that front. I think he gets embarrassed about the way he treats her sometimes and would prefer to just keep it hidden. She thinks it's also due to jealousy. She said she's never had as good of a friend as me (d'awe) and he has never had to share so much of her time and closeness. Hopefully he will learn to adjust and grow the f up already. It's just exhausting. I've decided that I'm not going to care anymore though. She promised she wouldn't dump me so I'm not going to even pay attention to his hissy fits anymore. Thanks for all the opinions, it really helped me wrap my head around this!
The Lounge	I cheated on my deployed fiance when drunk...it is absolutely devastating.	Nov 23 2011 15:08 (UTC)	43
Original Post by pgeorgian: Original Post by peebeegee: Next. PG. Saying you regret absolutely no one in your sexual encounters is like saying you never ever made a mistake. Assuming you're human, chances are you did. I'm human. I'll admit, there are a few I regret. All of which I was under 18, I was young and stupid. Nothing bad ever came from it, I did learn more about myself, but the mistakes were made. I'm not perfect, no one is, and no one should pretend to be. first, i didn't say i didn't regret any sexual encounters; i said i've never cried after one. second, why do i have to regret my mistakes to learn from them? that's contradictory. if i regret them, that's saying i wish i'd never made them, but if i'd never made them, i wouldn't have learned what i learned from them. i've made plenty of mistakes and i don't pretend to be perfect. but regret is a waste of energy. I'm trying to work on this. Right now, I'd say I regret 3 sexual encounters. One because it sucked, one because the guy turned out to be a jerk and he didn't deserve it, and the third because she hits on eeeverybody and it grosses me out to think about how many partners she has probably had. I'll think about them more and try to figure out what I've learned from them...
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 22 2011 20:10 (UTC)	14
Original Post by nicepumpkins: Original Post by ignayshus: Devil's Advocate inquires: What if the best friend is a member of the opposite sex? Answers still the same? I'm uncomfortable with close opposite gender friends in general, so my opinion might be a little...unfair. And unpopular. It's so weird. When I was younger, all my friends were men. It's only been recently that I've steered away from befriending men, especially if they are married or seeing someone. I have lots of couple friends, but I do my best to stick to getting close with the women. It's just so much less complicated that way.
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 22 2011 20:05 (UTC)	16
Original Post by nicepumpkins: Oh Random, I'm sorry. I've been there. It feels awful. It sucks when you care about someone and know what your intentions are, but someone else is accusing you of having bad intentions or trying to cause harm. I doubt very seriously that you are in any way a bad influence. He sounds like he's really insecure. And is attempting to control her to some degree. He's not comfortable with the changes she's made and rather than confront the reality that maybe she just isn't the same person anymore and has grown, he's trying to put the blame on you. Hugs. I hope she makes the right decision. The thing that kills me is that the really bad things she actually has done were in no way related to me at all. You are right though, it is sooo much easier for him to blame me than to accept the fact that she is not perfect, made some mistakes, and is a different person than he thought. When she and I go out without him, I am the one holding her back from doing stupid stuff. I've convinced her a multitude of times not to leave him and have played marriage counselor more than once. I've taken his side plenty of times, but he forgets all that as soon as anything at all makes him feel bad.
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 22 2011 19:58 (UTC)	17
Original Post by kathygator: I have no regard for a man that is that insecure. Good luck to you, honey. I think you are right about him being insecure. He sort of has reason to be, though. There marriage has been close to breaking ever since she started changing some. I actually can't really be mad about how he is acting. He is terrified of her leaving and the more she changes, the less reasons she will have for staying with him. But trying to cage her will only cause more damage. By now he should really know that about her so I don't know what he is thinking.
The Lounge	How would an estate agent describe you?	Nov 22 2011 19:37 (UTC)	18
I don't think I'm doing this right, but when I went house shopping, the Realtor thought I was a mole...someone the company sent to check up on how he was doing. I had been wondering why he was giving us the star treatment. Apparently it had to do with my 'professional' appearance and the way I was holding my purse(he thought there was a camera in there, hahaha). When we came back to buy, he was completely shocked.
The Lounge	Worst Favors You've Ever Received From a Wedding.	Nov 22 2011 19:34 (UTC)	19
Original Post by raven21: What's the point of these favours really?? Most people either throw them away. We opted to save everyone that hassle and didn't bother with them. tradition, a small token of appreciation, memorabilia Can't say i've seen a bad favor before. Even if lots of people throw them away, I'd bet someone appreciates it.
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 22 2011 19:26 (UTC)	23
Thanks for all the responses, I'm trying my best not to be bitter about this whole thing. The different perspectives are helpful and I feel like I may need to reevaluate some things. Here's my thoughts on my situation so far though... I'm the friend about to get dumped. My best friend has been acting very differently for the last 2 years or so, before she and I were really, really close. He blames me for these changes, even though like I just said...they started before we were friends. She tells me everything and I do encourage her to be more independent and to do what she wants/be herself as long as she isn't hurting anyone. She has done things I have discouraged or never done myself so I really feel like all I've done is let her be who she is, not try to change her. He wants her to force herself back into her old self, which I (and she) think(s) is impossible. One week he will hate me, the next he loves me. He often gives her ultimatums and makes demands only later to change his mind. This time seems more serious though as I didn't do anything to instigate this current hate cycle and he is telling that she needs to stop being friends with me. It's exhausting, but so far, she has been worth it to me because she is the best friend I've ever had. Ultimately, the decision is hers. I will be incredibly hurt if she decides to dump me, but I understand what she is going through. It just sucks :(
The Lounge	If your spouse hated your best friend...	Nov 22 2011 17:40 (UTC)	33
Original Post by jules817: Original Post by randomv3: and demanded that you dump them because they are a 'bad' influence on you, would you do it? I suppose it would all depend on whether or not my spouse was right and the friend was a bad influence. assume that you think your husband is wrong but you have gone through some changes, just not necessarily bad.
The Lounge	DWTS	Nov 22 2011 17:26 (UTC)	13
Don't wake the spiders?
The Lounge	I wasn't looking...	Nov 22 2011 17:24 (UTC)	2
I visited there this summer and plan on moving there in 5-10 years. Denver is one of the few places I have solid job security so it should work out perfectly. I wish I could fast forward to then!
The Lounge	DWTS	Nov 22 2011 17:23 (UTC)	15
i dont follow any of this? too many acronyms.
The Lounge	Relationship money rant..	Nov 22 2011 16:30 (UTC)	21
Original Post by jules817: Original Post by vyperman7: You see, this is what drives me insane about this girl. On Facebook she is a fantastic girl. This is when she lets her inner beauty come out. On her page she writes this about the break up - "the pain is knowing u're right for each other... just not right now and knowing u can't do anything about it but let it be, no matter how much u don't want to.." You see, this is the girl that I wanted. If she had put herself out there like this in person and shown me that she cared about me, things would have probably gone so different. But how can a girl that cares so much about me in one medium, treat me so horribly in person? I'm on fb. I love facebook. But sweet merciful crap my man, you are in your 30's. Perhaps it's time to start conducting your relationships in real life and not through freakin facebook messages.... I mean... ........ wait...wait...he is in his 30s?? I thought he was fresh outta high school to be honest. Oh my. I text my bf like crazy but it's just supplementary to in person interaction and talking on the phone. It SHOULD NOT be the other way around, especially if you live in the same place.
The Lounge	Hair stripping	Nov 22 2011 16:28 (UTC)	10
Cut it off and start fresh?
The Lounge	Relationship money rant..	Nov 22 2011 16:19 (UTC)	27
Original Post by nicepumpkins: Hers is more like this: "I wOkE up THIS moRning and had to THANK the sweET Lord JeSuS 4 all the GIFTS he has given. Could my life BE any more PeRfEcT? PeRfEcT kids, PeRfEcT man, perfect LIFE!" Yes, she does the nonsensical captilization of letters. And she's also the girl that got fired a few years back for failing a drug test. And that perfect man? Not too long ago, he went MIA for a week...and was with another woman. And the perfect kids? One of them isn't his! Haha, perfect. Gag. She also posted for about a week that she was just so "terrified" and "scared" and "worried sick" because her son might.................................need glasses. Right, end of world. O.o unfriend.
The Lounge	Relationship money rant..	Nov 22 2011 15:34 (UTC)	33
Original Post by lilsammi23: Original Post by nicepumpkins: I'm on the verge of deleting one "friend" as it is. Her life is just too "glorious" for regular folk like me to stomach. Ha, I had to hide a high school friend's status recently because she likes to play all of her relationships out on facebook. Seriously, every other status is like this: I <3 ______ SO MUCH! Comment 1: Awww, I <3 u 2 babe, can't wait 2 c u later! Comment 2: I knowwwww! So excited! The clock needs to go fasterrrrr! Seriously? You people are 30, do you really think all of your friends need to know that? Send texts or something! actually, I've found that when people do that, it's usually super fake and their relationship is actually strained and difficult right then.
The Lounge	Why are the twilight series' films so bad??	Nov 22 2011 15:18 (UTC)	14
I've only seen the first and second one and I actually kinda liked the second one, especially the sound track.
The Lounge	Relationship money rant..	Nov 22 2011 15:14 (UTC)	39
Original Post by nicepumpkins: I feel myself growing out of facebook, too. And I'm definitely way past the posting about a relationship problem or break up on there. It serves no purpose. Oh, well, it gets attention, but outside of that, it serves no purpose. I like to post my photos and cute animal videos i find. I also enjoy reading my friend's updates who like to post news articles and their opinions. I have been slowly dropping people that like to post drama. I'm just not interested. Got enough of my own, thanks.

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