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Health & Support I'm a mess Aug 27 2014
20:40 (UTC)
Original Post by misspastafanatic:

You need more testing.


Also out of curiosity I looked at your meals and you say you had an eating disorder? Are you sure it's not related to that? You eat diet food. WHY are you eating egg whites? Do you have any clue how hard those are to digest. I ate egg whites to lose weight and had to stop because of the stomach pain, cramping, and constipation associated with eating egg whites.

If you are struggling to eat enough, why are you eating low calorie egg whites, FAT FREE yogurt, and light dressing? A breakfast under 100 calories when you could easily eat 2 tbsp of peanut butter or a fruit smoothie is an eating disordered choice. Why aren't you eating real food instead of the fat free low calorie options? Ask yourself that. It is clear by what your eating that your stomach issues are secondary to your eating disorder and most likely play a key role. 

Also, is dark chocolate pretzel bars gluten free?

Again, I know this probably will anger you a LOT, but please try to listen to my words and really think deeply. You come across like someone who is deeply in denial of their eating disorder and so many people with eating disorders have digestive issues simply from not eating enough, or being underweight. Of course, I do NOT know everything about you but this is just what I see from an outside perspective and I hope you take what I said into consideration and really think about if you are in denial and still engaging in a lot of restrictive habits. It might be your eating disorder that caused all of these issues. Have you ever considered going away to treatment? Doctors would be surrounding you 24/7 able to monitor your progress and actually diagnose your stomach issues if there is something dire going on.

Thought this too.

Health & Support Feeling mentally broken and alone. Aug 25 2014
18:01 (UTC)

I don't have any advice I'm just a mom sending hugs.

Health & Support Am i eating too few? Aug 19 2014
15:46 (UTC)
Original Post by amethystgirl:

3000 calories. Maybe more.


Health & Support Am i eating too few? Aug 18 2014
13:18 (UTC)
Original Post by amethystgirl:

Start eating like a teenage boy instead of a sedentary elderly lady.


This reminded me of my mother in her late 80's.  She was about 5 feet tall less than 110 lbs and she would lose weight on 1200 calories!

As a growing teenage boy you need A LOT more calories.

Weight Loss No weight loss, Team I need you. Aug 15 2014
12:44 (UTC)

I do think you need more fats in your meal plan.  Don't think it has anything with your weight loss, though.  Why not add some peanut butter, olive oil or mayo to increase your intake?

Motivation Does anyone know of methods that could help me stop binge eating? Aug 11 2014
21:36 (UTC)
Original Post by kate777:

....  I eat lean proteins, fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans. oatmeal---my weakness is peanut butter.  Once I start, I can't seem to stop eating it.  ....

Peanut butter cravings may be your body's way of telling you that you're not eating  enough fats. (Along with overall too low calories.) 

Health & Support Always hungry! Aug 05 2014
17:00 (UTC)
Original Post by nickdateking:

....... should I just eat and eat till satisfied even if that means 4-5000 calories?


Health & Support This isn't about food, but I trust your opinions... Please help. Jul 25 2014
21:36 (UTC)

You are NOT a terrible person.  OCD is a disorder and with proper treatment and hard work you can manage it.  Everyone has weird, strange or frightening thoughts from time to time.  For some reason a person predisposed to OCD (probably genetic) will feel greater anxiety and begin to obsess on the thoughts.

 Speak out to those who love you and ask for help in finding the right therapist.  Silence will not make it go away.

PS. I think you are very strong and brave to speak up and ask for help.

Health & Support This isn't about food, but I trust your opinions... Please help. Jul 25 2014
13:04 (UTC)
Original Post by krayolablue91:

It sound like it could be OCD. Particularly "Harm OCD" Here is a link that talks about it.  It is a type of OCD "theme".

Either way, going to see a professional would be best to get help for this.


It makes one afraid that they are a terrible person seeing or thinking of such things, but it really isn't within our control. I've had intrusive thoughts of doing terrible things or just repetitively seeing terrible things, or being afraid terrible thing will happen.  I have read up on most OCD themes though, so when  new theme pops up or make me anxious, and if it feels like OCD, it is OCD, so I know for the most part how to handle it. If you catch them early and deal with it, it is much easier to get a handle on newer obsession and compulsions than ones that become ingrained.


I find Mark Freeman's videos very helpful, on everybodyhasabrain. Here is a video he said particularly around Harm OCD.

Agree.  Please seek help sooner rather than later.  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is preferred over analysis or talk therapy.

Motivation Can I share something that just made me smile? Jul 21 2014
16:07 (UTC)

Hooray for you!

Health & Support Irrational fears in eating disorders (possible TW for anyone troubled with these thoughts) Jul 16 2014
14:32 (UTC)

My son had horrible OCD and many of his obsessions didn't even seem related to the compulsion.  As soon as I read your opening post I thought ocd. 


Motivation how to know when to stop trying to loose Jul 14 2014
13:51 (UTC)
Original Post by jenagirl86:

.. I just want to have more energy to be patient with my 3 yr old. So maybe I should try and have less of a calorie deficient?..

Yes.  What's more important - to be a few pounds lighter or your child's emotional well being?

The Lounge What you don't know about penises Jun 20 2014
23:44 (UTC)

When I heard someone say they have a goldendoodle I thought "Is that what they're calling it now?!"

Weight Loss I've reached my goal weight, but I still "feel" big? Advice? Jun 19 2014
14:44 (UTC)

Here is some of your own advice:  

"Don't reduce yourself to appearances, you have so much more to offer the world. Oh, and 147 is perfectly healthy :-) If you're feeling insecure, you probably just need more tone... exercise is good!" 

(italics are mine.)


The Lounge Vent: Life not what you planned and frustrated? Jun 16 2014
18:24 (UTC)
Original Post by clharr:

Many people would be happy to just have a house...

This.   PLUS your children, your husband and you are healthy.

Weight Loss Juice Plus, fantastic results Jun 16 2014
00:39 (UTC)
2 l

The Lounge monday laugh Jun 03 2014
23:20 (UTC)

Two things come to mind:  1.  the baby looks like she's accidentally there, as if shes some sort of "toilet paper tail" and 2.  does baby get dragged along on the honeymoon?


The Lounge Do I look old in this picture? Oct 04 2012
15:01 (UTC)

Reminds me of a phrase I once heard, "She used to be a golden goddess, now she's just an alligator handbag."

Weight Loss Aaaaaaaand I'm back Sep 13 2012
21:14 (UTC)

Lost 38, gained 43, lost 12 and still losing.  I am nervous about being able to maintain when I reach my goal again.

Weight Loss Weight loss and food choices while staying with family? Aug 23 2012
12:06 (UTC)

My husband's grandmother would be highly insulted if you lost weight while staying at her house.  Be nice to Grandma!