Secret_SquirrelLiving life with less chaos. And less jiggle!
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| The Lounge | Wedding Cost | Jul 09 2007 20:41 (UTC) |
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Who cares what the "average" cost is or what anyone else does? Your marraige is about you and your love. Committing yourself is not very expensive. It's a license, a judge/minister. A promise. Everything else is icing. What we have in America is an INDUSTRY that has begun convincing people that you can't take your vows without the right centerpieces or caterer. If you know this is the person you want to commit to, you are old enough, mature enough, etc., why would you want to wait until 2009? Marry your sweetheart when you want to - that's romance! Saturday, I went to the most beautiful wedding. It was simple, in a lovely community center. Self-catered. Beautiful cake. A table full of beautiful framed photos of the bride and groom and their parents' wedding photos. No centerpieces. No ushers. But I didn't even notice because the bride and groom looked so amazingly, adoringly in love. There wasn't anything to distract from how much they were obvioulsy in love with each other. They weren't a poor or young couple. But the bride explained that they wanted to keep it simple, keep it about family. That's what a wedding ceremony should be about - not stress, debt, and save-the-date cards. |
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| The Lounge | Warning! Controvercial Subject | Jul 04 2007 01:03 (UTC) |
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Unless you are 100% Native American, you are an immigrant. Well, in all honesty, the Native American's probably immigrated across the Bering Land Bridge. Most likely in waves. Most likely later migrants displaced earlier migrants... We're all migrants if we go back far enough. The relevant thing is what to do about *now*. My plan would be amnesty, coupled with an additional non-compliant immigration income tax on amnesty recipients. And disincentivise: 1) As long as there are jobs for illegals, illegals will come to fill them. Slap hefty, burdensome fines on employers who hire illegal workers. Have the employers pay deportation costs, as well as a "relocation"/severance fee to the undocumented worker. 2) Increase the guest worker program. 3) Promote reform of Mexican corruption. When Mexico's economy improves, its citizens won't have to go through hell to sneak into our country. If we can attempt to put a squeeze on North Korea and Iran to discontinue their nuclear program, why can't we wield our influence to prevent Mexico from their de-facto citizen-relocation program? Heck, it's a greater assault to our national soverignty than Iraq ever was. And rife with human rights abuses. The excuses for our immigration policy make no sense. We say we want to stop it, but really, I don't believe it. If we wanted to reduce illegal immigration, we'd do it. Money is being made by keeping the workers undocumented. |
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| The Lounge | Scary without makeup | Jun 20 2007 18:27 (UTC) |
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I wish I could get away without wearing foundation. But I have thin, pale skin. I have broken capillaries in places that are red and splotchy. I have mild rosacea. Makeup makes me look "normal."
I can leave the house without it. But unless it's a quick trip, I prefer not to. |
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| The Lounge | Does anyone here but me think Nicole Richie has a good body? | May 23 2007 19:54 (UTC) |
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Oh the irony!
Saw this on MSN. Keira Knightly wishes her body was more curvaceous, like Monica Bellucic's : http://entertainment.msn.com/movies/hotgossip /5-21-07_5?GT1=7701 The grass is always greener! |
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| The Lounge | headboard ideas, HELP! | May 21 2007 21:41 (UTC) |
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Google for fabric headboard diy and you'll get a step-by-step guide to making your own no-sew headboard with some fabric, plywood and a staple gun. Depending on the material you choose, it can look modern or classic.
I've seen pictures where people have used fencing material (picket or iron) for headboards, too. |
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| The Lounge | Consolidate debts or not, any advice, prefferably from rich people... | May 18 2007 00:38 (UTC) |
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The speaker's advice is effective and the most cautious. His goal is not to make payments on the current debt lower short-term, it is to get rid of the debt permanently through teaching behavior modification techniques.
The problem is that most people stuck in debt got that way because of bad habits and a quick consolidation does not enable them to learn new habits. So they get right back into credit card debt again - now they've got cc debt and the equity loan and they're worse off than before. And if you default on your credit cards, you don't lose your house unlike if you default on a second mortgage. It can cause a world of hurt. Following the debt payoff snowball technique is a longer process - but it builds discipline and healthy new habits. It really is a lot like weight loss. If you incurred debt because of a few incidents you lacked savings to cover and you don't have a behavior pattern of using credit on impulse or to buy things that you don't truly need, an equity consolidation loan might be right for you. But be careful, because a debt consolidation can backfire on you just like a crash diet. |
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| The Lounge | Does anyone here but me think Nicole Richie has a good body? | May 16 2007 19:45 (UTC) |
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Quote Ahsa5392: A lot of naturally skinny women with no curves and small boobs are very beautiful whether men like them or not. We should not insult them. ITA with this. Thin or curvy, there is a lot more that makes a woman beautiful than her size. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Women and men can both be naturally thin and enjoy good health and a great quality of life. Problems happen when you try to force your body to conform to a standard that is unnatural for *you*. If you are resorting to eating habits which deprive your body of nutrients, exercise obsessively and living in fear of food - your body is not naturally stick thin. By trying to force your body to be something it is not, you are hurting it, damaging your health and ruining your quality of life. Don't make your body something it isn't - because you'll break it if you push it hard enough. And you'll be miserable and no fun to be around. But you can still have an awesome body - just aim for the best body it is designed to be. If you want a role model, look for women with a body type like yours to aspire for. |
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| The Lounge | Does anyone here but me think Nicole Richie has a good body? | May 15 2007 21:32 (UTC) |
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Nicole Richie's body does not look attractive to me, at all.
She's bones and skin, none of the sensual curves that make a woman sexy. No curve of a muscle than indicates a sense of strength. She has the body of a pre-teen girl, and to me, that is ick. And she just looks tired all the time. |
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| Weight Loss | Prom dress hell. | May 07 2007 18:51 (UTC) |
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Either wear a corset/girdle/body slimmer or, if that is still not enough, get it altered. If a seamstress can't let it out, have her add a corset back. Then you will be able to control the tightness through the laces. If you don't want to show skin through the laces, the seamsetress can add a "modesty panel" underneath.
Hopefully, this will work with the style of your dress. A corset back can be beautiful as well as practical and shouldn't cost a lot of money (much less than a new dress!). And learn your lesson: NO MORE STARVATION DIETS. You will regain the lost weight plus some! Good luck! |
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| The Lounge | Tipping at restaurants...... | May 07 2007 18:42 (UTC) |
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WA state servers get minimum wage - $7.93/hr. plus tips.
I always try to tip well. When in doubt, I round up because why squabble over a few bucks? I have been both a hostess and a server. I've worked big parties that monopolize my entire shift - one guy even wanted me to cut his chicken breast and mix it into the pasta for him - which I did - and the group left me barely 10%. But bad tippers, while frustrating, are a natural part of the job. At the end of the night, it balances out - or why else would anyone keep doing it? As a server, you are a bit more independent contractor than straight employee and bad tips are a cost of doing business. Hour for hour, I made better money hourly as a server than I make currently. |
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| The Lounge | Do you think LEVI jeans run small? girls and guys? + seven jeans? | May 02 2007 20:30 (UTC) |
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| The Lounge | must-watch movie!! | Apr 29 2007 18:38 (UTC) |
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Requiem for a Dream is rated R for, among other things, scenes of graphic sexual exploitation.
Some people love it, some think it crossed the line and went too far. Be forwarned if you are a sensitive-type. A friend of mine (who was not prudish nor conservative) absolutely HATED this movie. |
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| Health & Support | Anyone else with ADD??? Did you have trouble getting diagnosed? | Apr 24 2007 00:15 (UTC) |
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Educate yourself! These are great books to start with: http://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Reco gnizing-Attention-Childhood/dp/0684801280/ref =pd_bbs_sr_2/103-3140495-1663029?ie=UTF8& s=books&qid=1177369609&sr=8-2 http://www.amazon.com/Women-Attention-Deficit -Disorder-Differences/dp/1887424970/ref=pd_bb s_1/103-3140495-1663029?ie=UTF8&s=books&a mp;qid=1177369671&sr=8-1 You will be so glad you read them. I saw a psych for a diagnosis as an adult. I don't currently take medication, but I might start again because I've heard great things about Concerta. Meds are a tool in learning to work with your brain, but they're not a magic pill. Understaning how you can structure your life and behavior in a way that maximizes your skills is most important. Check out the website for Children and Adults with ADD, too: http://www.chadd.org/AM/CustomPages/home/CHAD D_Home.htm?CFID=3253635&CFTOKEN=78995647& amp;jsessionid=f2303173111177370508000 |
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| The Lounge | Date Change - Calling all C-Cers in WA and maybe northern OR - Seattle Meetup!! | Apr 23 2007 23:55 (UTC) |
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I'm confugled.
Is it Saturday, May 5th or Sunday, May 6th? |
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| The Lounge | The word of god...changes? | Apr 23 2007 21:37 (UTC) |
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Easy answer: Limbo was never in the Bible.
Human understanding is always a work in progress. |
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| The Lounge | God | Apr 11 2007 19:17 (UTC) |
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*pokes head in on page 18 to see what is up in this thead* I won't weigh in on other people's opinons. But this is a peculiar question: etymologically speaking, do you find any surprise that "good" and "god" are only one letter away from each other, and sound so much alike? Etymologically speaking, I find no correlation because the the two words have quite different origins in english/germanic languanges ("God" is commonly thought to have derived from the Proto-Indo-European "ghut" meaning "invoke"). They share no perfunctory similarity in others. For example, in French, the words are "bon" and "dieu" - no similarity, and also no correlation with the state of french goodness, evil, or god/goddesses. |
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| The Lounge | Worst Job Interview Question | Mar 28 2007 21:39 (UTC) |
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I usually slam dunk interviews. But I have just had two that I bombed in the same organization. One I thought was a fluke, now I realize it's their process. They sit you in a room, introduce themselves by name and then say nothing about the job you are interviewing for. No context, no "here's what the job is about", squat. Then they ask you 9 short, vague open-ended questions with no feedback. Such as: "describe your relationships with the people you work with." The interviews were less than 20 minutes (and another candidate was already waiting outside). No questions about strengths/weaknesses/describe how you handled a challenging situation, etc. I've never had an interview where there was so little interest expressed in the candidate or the job. I surmise it may be their way of avoiding litigation. My greatest weakness is being over-attentive to detail. I'm also working on being more concise when I speak. |
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| The Lounge | Date Change - Calling all C-Cers in WA and maybe northern OR - Seattle Meetup!! | Mar 26 2007 20:11 (UTC) |
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| I would love to be there and I think it stands at a 50-50 chance that I will actually be able to attend. We may be helping my MIL move that Saturday and I'm still not firm about how Sunday is shaping up. But I hope to be there! | |||
| The Lounge | Moms of Calorie-Count Help! my 5 yr old.... | Mar 23 2007 17:55 (UTC) |
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Oh my. I don't think I can advise you. This is entirely your call. If you don't want boys calling the house at that age or you don't want your daughter calling boys, it's up to you. I have two boys and I get ansy when I see little girls trying to cozy up to them. We treated boys and girls the same at that age and I remember a couple little girls sneaking up to my guy and smelling his hair - they walked close up behind him and inhaled deeply, closed their eyes and sighed. I did not like that, lol. If it were my child, I wouldn't make a big deal of anything, but I probably not have them chat on the phone without a reason (scheduling a playdate, etc.); I'd rather time at home be focused on family-time. Kids grow up so fast and before you know it, you won't be able to keep Riley off that phone! |
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| The Lounge | Long hair | Mar 19 2007 20:52 (UTC) |
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It really just depends on the person.
I knew a woman in her 40s with long hair. The hair wasn't particularly pretty, just long, and she looked severe and tired. One day she showed up and it was cut shoulder-length. Her hair had bounce and she looked at least 10 years younger. I work with another woman in her 40s who also has long hair. But she looks youthful and beautiful. So it just depends. Jane Seymour has lovely features that compliment her beautiful long hair. But for some women, a good cut works wonders. |
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