Posts by shoe1200

If you have been lazy about logging your food, this will probably help you get back on track. Plateaus happen and it's sure frustrating!

I actually like Slim Fast. (Had one this morning because I was rushed to get to work.) It may be just me, but if I have one at 8 a.m., I am content till lunch at 2 p.m. I force myself to have some grapes or carrots at noon because I know that 8 to 2 is a long time to go and not eat if I want my metabolism to keep working. My normal breakfast is Cheerios, skim milk and a banana, and that keeps me just as full as the Slim Fast.

Are you also exercising?

You are here so you have taken a huge first step. Use the tools here to figure out how many calories you should be eating. Why not start out just with that and then try to add some exercise gradually. I like walking, too. Is there any way you could manage a walk daily on a lunch break?

Although everyone has mentioned not co-signing, and I'll probably sound like the devil's advocate here, but is there anything wrong with public transportation until she has earned enough to buy her own car? Why do we feel that teenagers, who have not had the chance to achieve car ownership on their own deserve to have a car provided?

Is this teenager going to take advantage of having an apartment to herself? Is she really ready for managing a household on her own?

I'm assuming you know her parents are either unfit or unreasonable, otherwise, you have just heard one side of the story. How do her parents feel about you providing for this girl who has left home because she feels she knows better than they do what is best for her? Have you talked with them? Are they on board with this fresh start?

I'm only pointing this out because I remember what I was like at 17. I thought I knew EVERYTHING! I also thought my mom wasn't able to manage me or my siblings. Now as an adult I look back and see that she was a woman alone raising 5 kids, with no financial assistance and sometimes working 3 jobs at a time. And only one of those kids wasn't giving her problems and that one wasn't me.

If she can't get along with her parents, if their demands are so unreasonable that no sensible person could live under the same roof, if she's got what it takes to live alone and go to school, that's just what she should do. Is she working now? Saving money?

Good on you if it all works out, but just go into it with your eyes wide open. Funny, but asking on a public forum is probably a great way to get some unvarnished feedback.

Don't forget Aliens, that was a great sequel!  Thanks also for mentioning Big Trouble in Little China. It's not THAT old, but Independence Day is one movie I never get tired of watching. Some others:

Tombstone
Long Riders
Conan
Princess Bride
Indy 3 (Last Crusade)
Enter the Dragon
Romancing the Stone

Bad ones? Clash of the Titans-agreed!

It's really striking how your face has emerged! Keep it up with the pics because it really shows your progress!

No personal experience, but here's a great book if you want the point of view of someone with Aspergers:

http://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Aspergers-e book/dp/B000W91562/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1?ie=UTF8 &m=AG56TWVU5XWC2

I think many of the posters here have stressed that your boyfriend has problems, and while that is true, you also have a problem. You want to have him come home with you every night. Why? Can't he stay out on his own and get a ride home from one fo the friends he's partying with?

And why do you feel you need to be with him at a bar every night? It just sounds like your whole social life revolves around him.

It's perfectly acceptable to just say, "Hey, I'll go out with you on Friday night (because I don't have to work the next day.) But you'll have to fend for yourself Monday through Thursday." And then go on and find some fun for yourself. Like to stay at home? Like to see movie? Like to have dinner with your friends? Do it! Have some fun. If he really was interested in making you happy, he WOULD make you happy.

You don't have to leave him, but as someone else here said, you can find out who you are and make yourself happy, do what you want to do and see if he fits in. If he stops going out every night because you're not there, well, that would certainly imply that he's willing to put you above the booze, at least for a couple nights a week.

Here's a question for the group at large: I don't drink at all. Never have, and likely never will. Why do some people feel like skirt's boyfriend that they just won't have any fun unless they drink? Is it like I sometimes feel I won't have as good a time at the movies unless I have popcorn?

Current weight: 196 (still hovering, but staying well under 200 and that's good for me.)

Hi Joyful! I'll join in. I'm 54, female, 5'6" and, like you, my goal is 145 lbs. Right now I'm at 196.(That's 14 lbs down since first of June.)

I also have a cruise planned for either January or February of next year! Realistically, I won't be at my goal by then, but I have some trips planned before that so I'm using those as interim motivations.

I've done this two times before this. Each time I lost weight, but around Thanksgiving, I slacked off and gained the weight again. I want to really be on track before the holidays, building up so much momentum that I don't lose my motivation.

My goals are:

1. lose 16 lbs by the my trip to Atlanta (end of September)

2. lose another 10 lbs by early November for trip to Las Vegas

3. lose another 10 lbs by late January (when I think we'll be cruising)

4. lost last 14 lbs by July 2011 for a trip to San Diego

Thanks for the invite. I hope a weigh in will help me stay accountable.

What a sad state we have come to! The ubiquitous cellphone means that we can't ever have a moment's peace. Maybe the reason he's not begging you to take him back is that he's just SO relieved that he doesn't have to pick up his phone at your every whim. That's harsh, I know, but imagine you're out with your girlfriends for dinner. Do you want him calling you? What if you're at a wedding for a family member? Do you pick up your phone because "something came up" and run off to his side? (Someone better have died!) I think you should cool your heels and just let the poor guy have some peace.