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Motivation Psychological challenges in reaching goal weight! Jul 11 2013
14:17 (UTC)
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Great question and great reply, catherineltaylor. I think I struggle with this as well, and I'm not sure how to get past it. I'm 27. At my top weight I weighed 287 - 7 years ago. I lost 80ish pounds, and for the past 4-5 years I have been roughly between 200-210. I've lost some pounds and gotten under 200 several times, then relapsed. This is likely a result of being obese my entire life, even throughout childhood. (I'm smaller now than I was in high school - pretty much since middle school.)

So, I don't know how to deal with the idea of being normal weight. I don't consciously feel afraid of it, but after I reached a certain point and feel pretty much comfortable in my body (still obese, but I feel OK with myself) I'm not sure how to conceptualize myself otherwise. I can't visualize myself smaller because that version of me has never existed. So maybe this is the underlying reason I have not been able to get past that threshold and lose the last 30-40-50 pounds that I should.

I don't have a solution for you because I don't have one for myself, but I do understand. One thing I know is that living the healthy life feels a lot better when you're focusing on mental and physical wellbeing every day and not just an end goal. Find exercises that make you feel happy (for me, yoga and hooping). Looking forward to more ideas on this.

Calorie Count The New & Improved Calorie Count Dashboard Mar 08 2012
00:06 (UTC)
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I preferred the green bars showing the amount of your calorie deficit and the red bars showing overage, rather than showing red if you're over your target. I can eat over my target and still have a deficit for the day, just not as much of one, and I consider that a success. I liked seeing all those greens, it was encouraging. Not every day is perfect but you're still going to lose weight if you eat less than you expend, and the previous graph showed that. This graph makes it look like you're a failure if you went over your target, even when you still ate less than you burned.

Calorie Count Official Calorie Camp Updates Jan 13 2012
02:17 (UTC)
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I am happy with the Calorie Camp, but I do think the rewards are poor. The achievements - accomplishing your first week, etc. - are honestly more exciting than the earned rewards, because the "gift cards" and such are actually just coupons that force you to spend money to get the discount. It's just promoting their products and asking me to buy something I normally wouldn't. If there are going to be actual prizes, I'd rather them be something trivial that doesn't cost me money. Let's say, a Calorie Count pin that you send me in the mail, or a bumper sticker.

Calorie Count Official Calorie Camp Updates Dec 19 2011
03:03 (UTC)
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I just wanted to congratulate CC on the new venture of Calorie Camp! Nice job capitalizing on the social media popularity and translating it into something really motivating for CCers. Also, I like the achievements, taking the lead from online video games. Nice work. I've been using Calorie Count for 5 years, and recently I was looking for something new to motivate me again. I was pleasantly surprised to find this when I logged into CC. Thank you for keeping the site fresh with new features, and best of luck with continuing to update it.

Motivation What time of year motivates you to lose weight? Oct 19 2009
02:04 (UTC)
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Good question. I was feeling a lot more motivated in the summer, and swimsuit season definitely had to do with it. Now that's it's fall and things are getting so busy for me, counting calories and exercising are falling to the bottom of my priorities.

It's always in the back of my mind, but I haven't been good since September started - and I'm not even in school! But I'm working two jobs, and the second job has just picked up lately. Plus, now that it's practically winter already (it snowed in New England today, ick!) my instinct is to climb into bed!

Motivation Has anyone here lost 50 lbs? I need some motivation! Sep 02 2009
23:32 (UTC)
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I've lost 70 pounds so far and hope to lose 45 more. I have pics in my profile. I've been working at it since the end of 2006, when I weighed 286, and I'm down to 216 now. My goal is 170.

As for how? Every day is its own challenge. I maintained for an entire year when a new job took over my life, and managed not to gain any weight back, even though I stopped losing. Now I'm back on track again and working toward my goal. Lately I'm going to the gym at least 4 times a week, and my calorie goal is 1700.

I've found it very important to log my calories, even if they're bad for the day; otherwise you chock it up to "it's been a bad week" and lose your motivation. Even though I have gained a lot of skill in estimating calories, when I don't actually log them, I can't keep myself accountable and will ultimately have a late-night ice cream snack, etc.

Pregnancy & Parenting Paraguard IUD vs. Mirena IUS Aug 11 2009
21:26 (UTC)
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I got the ParaGard because I didn't want to use hormonal birth control anymore; it was making me depressed and causing mood swings. It cramped for a month or so, maybe, but I've had it for over 3 years now and it's been fine. I would definitely recommend it. As far as periods, they are fairly heavy, but I don't think it has anything to do with the ParaGard after all this time.

Pregnancy & Parenting Baby cravings? Jul 06 2009
03:40 (UTC)
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Yup. I'm 23, been married for going on 2 years, and I've had baby fever since before we got married - but as time goes on, it tends to be more and more. It's partially hormonal, and every month before my period it spikes. Every month I as TTOM approaches, I think that maybe it won't come, maybe I'm pregnant.

My husband is not ready yet, which I understand. He wants a baby, but doesn't feel ready. And I want him to be ready, so he can deal with the stress and the responsibility of a baby, so I'm trying to be patient for another year or more (but hopefully not more.) It's very hard.

The only way I can find to deal with it is to focus on other exciting changes - career goals, new hobbies. Easier said than done, though, because I find it hard to resist checking pregnancy forums and reading up on baby equipment nearly every day. It's not easy, but it will be much better for everyone involved if we're both ready for the challenge.

Pregnancy & Parenting Handling comments about appearance May 17 2009
16:07 (UTC)
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Congrats!! That is fantastic and she more than deserved to be told off!! A lot of people just can't see things from someone's else shoes. I hope she keeps her mouth shut from now on.

Pregnancy & Parenting Bad dreams! May 28 2008
13:54 (UTC)
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My mom told me about a dream she had while pregnant: She had her new baby (me), and was carrying it around and taking care of it, but it was smaller than the palm of your hand - probably the size I was in real life at the time.

Pregnancy & Parenting My Little Sis on a Diet??? May 20 2008
13:55 (UTC)
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But she never really seems that sad, she's good in school and usually happy except for the typical (i think) teenage angst where she hates us all and just cries in her room.  Now that i think about it, IS that typical?


I'd say it is, yes. I cried all the time in 7th and 8th grade about every little fight I got into with my friends or family. Kids are figuring each other out at this age, figuring out who they are and how they're supposed to get along with other people, and it's really hard.


If it were me, I wouldn't worry about her weight unless she is already upset about it. To mention it to her would be telling her there's something wrong with her, and that's the last thing you need in middle school.

Pregnancy & Parenting tell the WORLD Apr 03 2008
15:49 (UTC)
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Congratulations! How exciting! I know exactly what you mean - when I become pregnant I'm sure I'll do the same thing. :-)

Vegetarian Is it just me... Mar 21 2008
17:39 (UTC)
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I think the problem here is that the "vegan" and "vegetarian" labels come in two forms.

1. It's what you eat.

or

2. It's who you are.

I eat a vegetarian diet, yes. But I don't walk up to people and say "Hi I'm Shoe, and I'm a vegetarian." I think people take offense to inaccurately using the label "I'm a vegan" because to the people who identify with that label, it's a way of life, a way of thinking, perhaps a religion (as someone as this thread pointed out).

But why would anyone take offense to "I eat a mostly vegan diet, except fish"? It's describing the DIET, not the person's identity.

As for people who are saying the OP is an omnivore, that's just not practical. If Someone placed a typical omnivore dinner in front of her, she would not eat it. If someone placed a veggie lasagna covered in cheese in front of her, she would not eat it. But a vegan meal would hit the spot.

"Pescetarian" doesn't even work, because that implies vegetarian+fish. But since vegetarian doesn't exclude milk/eggs, something pescetarian-friendly is not necessary Emmilie-friendly. But a vegan meal would be. Therefore as a matter of practicality, "vegan" works best.

Just don't ask for a vegan dish and then put fish on top of it. That's the only way this could be confusing. :-)

The Lounge Calling all you beautiful size 18 ladies Mar 18 2008
19:32 (UTC)
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I weigh 232 now, starting fitting into 18's (Old Navy style) at about 238 pounds. I'm 5'7''.

Pregnancy & Parenting Do you think this has to do with me being pregnant? Work issue Mar 18 2008
18:05 (UTC)
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Tough situation, I feel awful for you. I hate knowing things that I'm not supposed to know, because I'm terrible at keeping secrets.

My guess would be yes, they're biased because you're pregnant. Maybe they're afraid you'll decide not to come back after you have the baby (lots of women end up not coming back, it seems) so they don't want to "waste" their money on giving you a bonus. Or because you'll be leaving your current position to be a consultant instead, they didn't feel like giving you the bonus. In any case, what's done is done. The question is, what to do now?

If it were me, I wouldn't leave. I'd suck it up and stay, at least for now, and I wouldn't say anything to anyone. Being pregnant doesn't seem like a good time to be changing jobs, even if the company hurt your feelings. You need to focus on being healthy and sane right now, and changing jobs is usually really stressful and difficult.

But, if you really can't function until the issue is off your chest, I'd suggest talking to your boss and saying "I am aware that some people received bonuses, and I did not. Why wasn't I chosen?" Don't tell her that you're aware EVERYONE got a bonus except you - just mention that you know some people did. And just say you won't name names.

Best of luck, and try not to get too stressed about it! As I've been told, "There's no place for emotions in business."

Pregnancy & Parenting TTC - no luck yet Mar 18 2008
15:34 (UTC)
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I have heard that you don't need to go to a doctor until you've been TTC with no luck for a year. If you did go, I'm guessing they would just give you advice, not prescribe anything. But if you are just looking for advice, you might as well go in for a consultation if you want to.

Have you read much advice online? There are a lot of tips I have seen around, as well as info on charting your cycles. Do you do that already?

Here's a link with some advice: http://www.babycenter.com/getting-pregnant?in tcmp=Nav_Global_Precon_v3

Weight Loss No, I'm not Fat. I just have a lot of fat on me! Mar 17 2008
16:50 (UTC)
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Original Post by artiparte:
But having said that, my image does not define who I am, it just describes the package.

Well, that's a good attitude to have, but that's exactly my point - I believe most fat people don't have that. Or hell, most people, period - the way you look has an inseparable effect on your self-esteem.

When we are called Fat, it feels more like a label of being pathetic, disgusting, unworthy, etc. It's not just the obvious description of the body size and composition.

Motivation Long Haul Motivation Mar 14 2008
20:02 (UTC)
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I'm with sroscoe. I already had my wedding, and I lost about 35 pounds before I got there, but I sure wasn't skinny. So I think forward to when I'll have kids, and about how I want to be cute and pregnant, not just fat and bulbous in the tummy.

And more short-term events, like "maybe this summer, I'll be able to wear shorts for once." I picture myself hanging out on the beach or by the pool, like any regular person does in the summer.

It's tough in the long haul. It really is. I'm coming up on one year of CC, and I'm disappointed that I haven't lost more. But I have to try to remember that I've lost weight at all, and I've learned a ton, and completely changed my outlook. That's the important thing. I'm taking it slowly, but I feel confident that by this time next year, I'll be at the size I want. 

You're absolutely right to recognize that the flame will diminish, and it may go out a few times. The key to success is recognizing setbacks as temporary, and getting back on the wagon, as many times as it takes. Over and over again. 

Pregnancy & Parenting Working out While chronically tired Mar 14 2008
15:31 (UTC)
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No problem, I'm glad I could help!

Yeah, I know eating right is REALLY hard when you're exhausted, because you just want anything in sight. But if you can find a way to get more fruits and veggies, it might actually help your energy level because you'll have good nutrients in there. :-)

Weight Loss How do you eat less?? Mar 14 2008
14:34 (UTC)
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Start small. You'll adjust gradually. Especially to the second poster, tally-ho - There's no way you can be expected to jump from 4,000 to 1,300 instantly! I'd work on keeping it under 2,000, and when that becomes easier, you can get it lower.

The easiest way to reduce calories at first are to buy substitutions of everything possible. Most foods come in a lower-calorie version, and by logging your calories, you start to learn what things are calorie-loaded and completely unnecessary.

For example:

-Never get mayonnaise on sandwiches. It can add 100 useless calories!
-Use one slice of cheese instead of two, on grilled cheese or other sandwiches
-Get skim milk
-Get Light N' Healthy orange juice instead of regular - only 50 cals/cup
-Low-fat versions of dairy are also lower-calorie, such as cheese, cottage cheese, milk, yogurt, etc. Read labels at the grocery and pick your lowest option. Dannon Light N' Fit yogurt is only 60 cals per container.
-Choose a low-cal bread. Just read the labels, many types are labeled "Light". They may be smaller, but you don't need a giant piece of bread. Slices can range from 45 calories/slice to 150 or more per slice. Big difference!
-Watch how much cream you put in your coffee. Switch to milk if you can.
-Use Splenda instead of sugar whenever possible.
-Don't waste calories on soda, juice, and alcohol. Drink water whenever possible. I make an exception for coffee and tea, but I still count the calories used in the milk/cream I add to it.

I hope this list gives you some ideas. If you read the labels when you're at the grocery store, you can almost always find a lower-calorie version of whatever it is.

Also, something very important - always eat the serving size! This is a huge, and hugely important, lesson. Learn how much you a 'normal' serving is, and eat that. You'll quickly get used to the idea that a serving of cereal does not mean filling the bowl to the brim. Feel free to message me if I could help with anything!

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