Posts by sizz_leteen

Original Post by zombie_zest1334:

First off, like everyone is saying you really can't force someone to change. But you should attempt either way because you're talking about your mom's life here! First of all you need to talk to her about it, show her that you're worried and throw in some facts about mortality rates and such of obese people. Also don't leave out the huuuugggee amount of benefits! Live longer, more endorphins (aka happy chemical in your brain) more energy, better sleep, more alert and other things.

I personally have changed the way my mom eats when she's at home. The sure fire way of doing this is making the meals yourself and planning them yourself. Tired lazy people LOOOOVVVEE when you make dinner. And potatoes aren't too unhealthy depending on how you make them ;D

And let me tell you it's very hard to have only healthy food around if there's someone that isn't overweight in the house (You're grandma if I remember correctly). By lots of fruit,veggies, berries and whole grain bread. Find out what kinds of fruits your mom likes and have her snack on them when she's at work, buy 100 percent fruit juice etc.

You're grandma might be obese on the inside, her arteries probably clogged with cholesterol, so maybe if you talk her into it too everyone can start eating healthy.

 

Also you can take everyone on a walk together, bring grandma too, if she cant walk bring her in a wheelchair to get some fresh air.

 

I wish you luck, it might be difficult but good food and a few walks a week can add years onto your life.

I've offered to prepare healthier meals for her before I leave for work, but she just laughs at me: "Oh yeah sure, like YOU'RE going to cook!" (I can! And I'd be willing to learn more!). Unfortunately, my grandmother's digestive system is so shot from eating poorly her entire life, that the only things her body can handle are refined carbohydrates, no fruit/veggies, and everything boiled to within an inch of its life. She's a stubborn old lady, and there's no arguing with her. Whenever she goes shopping with us, and my mom tells her that we don't need so many sweets in the house, my grandmother guilt trips my mom, so my mom buys her pies and cookies and pastries to shut her up. 

But my aunt, who's MORBIDLY obese, had a small heart attack recently, and I can see that my mom is slowly headed down the same path if she doesn't make some changes in her life. The funny thing is that my mom is very quick to talk about how my aunt needs to lose weight, but can't see how overweight she is, herself.

Whenever my mom and I talk about weight loss, the discussion turns into an argument about me and my issues with food. She's convinced that I want to be 90 pounds again, which isn't true. In her mind, you're either chubby or anorexic. There's no middle ground.

Since the birth of my nephew though, I haven't discussed my mom's lifestyle with her. Maybe bringing him up, as well as my aunt's heart attack, can encourage my mom to make changes. I've never asked her WHY she's so opposed to weight loss. Maybe she's afraid she can't do it. She can't possibly think that she's at a healthy weight.     

Thanks for the suggestions! I did 30 minutes of weights this afternoon, and already feel great. :)

Thing was that during the month of September, I was doing weight training, and was stagnant at 130 for the whole month...a few months before, during which I wasn't really doing any weight stuff, I was 125. But in September, I was doing pretty strenuous half-hour sessions 5 days a week...which is too often.

But I'm going to take a swing at putting weights back. I have no clue where I am now weight wise, though I'm pretty sure that it's not pretty. The first half of this month was pretty chaotic...new baby in the family + Thanksgiving (for us Canadians) = a whole lotta big dinners.  

Same thing happened when I was eating more, though. :( It was suggested in previous replies that maybe I've got a slower metabolism, and should try eating less (which I HATE, especially because I've struggled with BED for 5+ years, and I'm scared of depriving myself too much and then bingeing), so I did. I started tougher muscle training this month (5-6 days a week, 1/2 hour, alternating body parts, obviously), and finally realized that that's part of the problem. For now, I want to see the numbers go down, and once I reach my goal more or less, to start toning. But based on other posts about muscle training, users here either put on weight or don't see the numbers go down. I thought of cutting down sessions to maybe 2-3 a week for 20 minutes, and focus more on cardio.

ps. I sort of have a red fox obsession, and I therefore love your display picture!

FRIGG! Week 3, and I'm STILL at 130. I don't understand this. I even spent the week eating fewer calories (between 1290-1350), was exercising 40-60 minutes every day, and living on chick peas, fruit, and no-fat yogurt. I'm doing the exact same thing I was doing that got me to 125 in the first place (and only 2 and a half months ago), so I don't see why I can't get there again. I'm starting to think that the scale's blitzed.  

1275?...That seems mighty low for someone who does nearly an hour of cardio, each day. 1200 is the bare minimum for someone who's totally sedentary. I'm not being condescending or anything, but that seems too low.

Original Post by chiquita26:

Can everyone kinda keep updates about where they're at?  And what you're doing and how?  That would be cool

I had a question for you guys..do you plan your days ahead?  Like what and when you'll have for a snack, or lunch, dinner, etc?  Because I find that very stressful..I would like to eventually not count but until I get to the weight or look I want I need to count.  I'd like to eat something and then write it down and at the end of the day put it into here to see the calories/protein and all that.  The problem with that is I may over or undereat...

So how do you do it?

I definitely plan my days ahead. Some people find that crazy and obsessive, but as a recovering binge eater, I find I have to. Unless I know what I'm going to eat down to the last calorie, I WILL overeat, and end up eating calorie-laden stuff. I have a notebook in which, each evening, I write down what I'll eat the following day, or following two days. I don't find it stressful at all. I don't give myself too much to choose from, otherwise figuring out what to eat would be overwhelming. I stick to stuff I that's healthy and satisfying. I couldn't do it the other way (eat, and write it down right after). 

Today I'm down to 128 from 130, last week. I've been aiming for about 1300-1330 each day (even got in a little cup of pudding on Wednesday!), with 40 minutes of cardio, generally. I did an extra 10 minutes on Wednesday and Friday, since I felt I had the energy. Ultimate goal is 110, but my short term goal is to get back to 125, which is where I was the week before Christmas. If I watch what I eat, it looks like I can get to just above 120 by Easter Sunday. And from 120 it's only 10 more pounds! After reaching 110, I may chop off an extra 3 to be at 107. But 3 pounds is a cinch from there. 110 is my magic number, right now.  

Looks like we've got quite the debate going. 

Some people who are Team No-Cheat Day claim that by not allowing any indulgences, they're eating "the way thin people eat". Seriously? You think that thin people never indulge in anything? Ever? 

I think that you have to make occasional allowances if you want to live normally. Being totally strict ALL THE TIME isn't normal, either. What happens at Christmas, or when you're on vacation, or when you're out with friends for a birthday dinner? Are you going to say no to your wedding cake, as well? 

As soon as you say, "these foods are bad," you're setting yourself up for disaster. That's how I developed BED when I was 18. One week in NY on vacation, and I ate blintzes, cheesecake, chocolate--all "bad food". When I came back to Toronto, I couldn't stop beating myself up for it. I was so "bad". I started using "bad food" to punish myself for having been so "bad", and not eating like a "good, thin person". Instead of saying, "I was on vacation. It happens. Now it's time to leave out the junk food for a while," I became addicted to it.

And that's why I'm on this site! 

If you say, "These foods can be enjoyed, but only in moderation," you're setting yourself up for a much healthier, normal relationship with food. Thin people can have a Big Mac, too! But the difference between a thin person who has a Big Mac, and an obese person who had a Big Mac is in how they think about it.   

LOVE me some sweet potatoes!

I like them baked with some pumpkin pie spice on top, and then either some no-fat cottage cheese, or vanilla yogurt. 

Original Post by kia07:

Thanks everyone...well my workout plan right now is three days of cardio for a hour. I'm usually jogging and sometimes powerwalking for about 30 min. I also do the bike for 15 min and the stairs for another 15 min. Four days of the week I work on my muscles, abs,etc. My diet plan consists of me eating 1200-1500 calories a day. It is working but I just really need some inspiration and more tips because my 21st is comming up at the end of March and I'm not for sure if I am going to reach my gw by my bday:(  

Well, if what you're doing is working for you, and it makes you feel good, then I don't think you need any ADDITIONAL inspiration. You've still got a little over a month. You can definitely make some good progress. Don't be too hard on yourself. MAYBE you won't completely reach your goal by your birthday. So what, though? You'll still look beautiful. You can reach it by the summer, then.   

That's what I thought! Because there's a big difference between being totally sedentary, and doing 40 minutes of cardio daily. And CC's telling me that I need only 60 calories more than someone who doesn't do any exercise at all, when I'm burning 200 calories doing it? Didn't seem right to me.