Posts by starbright222

Thanks a lot!

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the advice. I mainly want to quit coffee because I use too much splenda and milk in it. I want to stop using splenda. I also find at 3-4 coffees a day, all that milk adds up. I tried drinking my coffee black....but I just can't do it. I'd rather have tea.

Thanks so much for your reply. You're right, I probably could do it on my own. The only thing that I have difficulty with though is knowing how much weight I should be lifting and how many sets/reps. Any pointers?

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Original Post by moreadventurous:

The numbers here on CC do factor in your weight as long as you have your weight filled out in the appropriate box under account settings.

Thanks! I had no idea! :)

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Are you eating enough so that your deficit isn't too high?

Are you incorporating any weight training?

 Hello,

Yes I am eating more than usual on those days. I am also weight training on my non-cardio days.

Hi flightotc,

After reading your post, I thought to myself wow, I've been through that. I've felt that exact same way. I'm a lot better now, but sometimes I still have major downs. The important thing is that I am getting better. And so will you.

I'm not a psychologist nor a therapist, but to answer your question, what you're going through does seem to be depression. I had many of the same symptoms as you. I was very often sad and worried. I had no self-esteem and confidence and felt like I was never good enough. I would compare myself to others who I thought were better than me. On some weeks I would get no sleep despite the fact that I was exhausted, and on other weeks I would just sleep ALL the time. I would cry and cry on some days, sometimes I couldn't even explain why I was feeling the way I felt. I just felt it. And it consumed me. I lacked a lot of energy. I often turned to food to help me cope with my feelings. I would binge on bread, croissants, peanut butter, cereal, cheese, pasta, cakes, cookies....anything fattening and/or carb filled and sugary. And I felt sick afterwards. I too knew I would feel gross and disgusting after bingeing and that I'd feel extremely guilty, but I just felt like I couldn't stop myself. I felt sad and angry and took it out on the people around me. I became distant. I was just so sensitive to everything and everyone. I too didn't go to work sometimes because I couldn't get out of bed or because I had a panic attack during the night and didn't get any sleep. I also stopped studying because I just couldn't focus.

I went to see a doctor and explained everything I was feeling and going through. I was then diagnosed with depression and severe anxiety. I felt like everything was going downhill for me and that I wouldn't get better, only worse. The doctor suggested I see a therapist. I did. At first, I didn't feel like it helped much. She told me it would be a long process and I would have to work hard to feel better.

I visited the therapist on a weekly basis for several months. I did start to feel better and I began to view things differently, more positively.

I still have my ups and downs and I still have a long way to go before I'm 100% ok. But I'm feeling much better and I've managed to build up my confidence, something I never thought I could do. I sleep better and I'm bingeing A LOT less. (However, I also upped my calories and started allowing myself to have a treat whenever I want...so I'm sure that helped as well).

I definitely think you should bring this up to your counsellor. Your mental health is very important and you should take care of it. So many people go through this and it's very normal. I also think you should go see a doctor especially since you've been lacking energy. You never know, you may even have a nutritional deficiency which sometimes may cause people to feel depressed.

Keep your head up, you will feel better!

Original Post by antibinge:

Are you binging because you just have a bit of trouble with self control, or are you actually binging out of control? Because if you're really binging, then you probably shouldnt try to lose any weight. Binging can be caused by eating too little. Especially if you've already been dieting before or have lost weight before.

But to answer your question, I'm 5'3 and 125-130ish and would burn 1800 calories if i did nothing but lie in bed and sit around all day. Assuming you both burn more calories than that (walking around, etc), 1800 would be a good goal for weight loss. That way, your body wont be deprived of much, and your calorie deficiet will come from extra activities rather than not enough food.

Hope this helps ^^

 I have a problem with self control AND I binge out of control :S

Some examples of when I binge:

-When I'm stressed

-When I'm tired

-On weekends, after eating healthy during the week.

I tend to binge on any junk I can get my hands on! I just don't have the energy to prepare healthy meals and watch what I eat...I'm just so fed up after a long week of preparing meals, counting cals, watching portions etc...I wake up at 5:30 am for work 5 days a week, get home at 4:30 pm and have to study, prepare my meals, work out, have dinner shower etc...I barely have the time to relax...This is why on the weekend I tend to let go...

Also, I hate going out for breakfast or dinner with my friends. It sucks having to eat egg whites and fruit while your friends are having fried eggs bacon waffles with english cream and breakfast potatoes...or having to eat chicken breast and veggies while your friends are having burgers and fries :(

- After dinner, on weekdays...

Sometimes after dinner I get cravings and I'll eat large amounts of bread, cereal and milk, peanut butter, ice cream, cakes if there are any in the house (I live with my parents and brother so I can't really control what they buy...)...etc...despite the fact that I eat clean during the day, making sure I get an adequate amount of protein, carbs and healthy fats. I don't know, maybe I wasn't getting enough calories?

I was taking in about 1500 calories before...I think 1800 cals sounds like a better number for me. At the moment, I am not really counting calories and I'm kind ''off'' dieting. This has helped me to stop binging.

Thanks so much for the advice! :)

Original Post by bnjionrek:

xylitol & stevia! that's all i have to say about that.

 I found stevia tasted a little funny when I tried it...I guess I have to get used to it...

This is SO not my type of eating plan. I prefer having six mini meals or 3 meals and 3 snacks. I wouldn't be able to survive with no snacking in between! :P