Posts by sunnybra

I'm 30, loved it, read the trilogy in 2 weeks.

Was told that some books by Sylvia......... Day or something like that were similar, tried one, wont bother with anymore, hers (for me at least) were too vulger and crude.  I thought 50 shades was -ok, not very intelligent, no brain power requried - but not badly written, and pretty exciting.  Nice book for women written by a woman.

I resisted all of the cakes in my office on Friday.

And got up early on Sunday morning for Zumba!

Hi 4c4p,

I hope that you are doing ok.  Thanks for your reply, I guess this is not a very common subject on here, its actually not a very common subject in the world it seems.

You are right about the mental disorder being the reason for the eating disorder, that is my situation right now.  I am pleased that I have had such a good diet week last week, have eaten healthily and exercised, but I know how easy it will be, particularly in these very early stages to fall off the wagon in a big way if there is anything just a little too emotional in my day.

Haha Funny!

I'm sorry that you're upset by it but he is an adult, and sex on your parent bed is horny - would have been worse if you'd caught him in the kitchen - or the garden - or the car - oh so many ideas! ;O)

I employed a florist to do the table decorations because of time constraints and I didn't want to use silks.  I am amking tomorrow the top table, 3 bridesmaids bouquets and my shower bouquet from Calla Lillies, Roses and Lisanthus.

I'd definitely hold off on the wedding, you'll know when you're ready, him asking you will be the most exciting thing that has ever happened, everything in your relationship will lead up to that moment and when he asks it will be like a room full of sunshine and complete happiness like nothing else exists for those few moments before you say yes and run into his arms knowing that it's the place that you are going to stay forever. 

This is my romantic perception anyway, and the way I remember being proposed to. 

If you were to get married in 5 months time you'd be living together with a piece of paper saying that you were in a committed relationship that you plan to stay in and work on for the rest of your life.  So get your house, work on your relationship, plan to be in it for the rest of your life, just don't worry about the piece of paper yet.

People WANT to be married, no one NEEDS to be married.  your relationship, your boyfriend, your actions, your commitments, your mentality should be no different in your relationship with "The One" married or not, and if he feels differently then you need to question why.

Good luck. x

I'm getting married in 45 days!

My upcoming nuptuals actually stopped my dietting and constant fretting over my weight.  I'm not fat, not skinny either.  Curvy 5'6, 150lbs and eat sensibly 80% of the time and enjoy homemade cakes, biscuits and breads the other 20% of the time.  I used to force myself to go to the gym, now I spend time with H2B instead and really enjoy our life eating ice creams in the sun.  :o)

I monitor my weight, and if I hit 154lbs then I cut down a litte or walk a bit more, but he didn't propose because i'd lost 10lbs, or had goals to fit into a size 10, I'll never be that girl and would he love me if I was......?  He proposed because I'm me, and because the person that I am now is who he wants to spend his life with.  I'm so happy with that!!

I agree with your married friends too to a point, it is normal for the lovey dovey can't get enough of each other feeling to go when you live together, but you have only been together 2 years.  I don't seem particualrly happy with the lack of sex life, and although I respect you for staying faithful in this relationship you have to ask yourself the question - would you be happy with this exact situation for the next 5...........10...........20 years?

Everyone's sex life is different, what every person wants out of a relationship is different, but if this isn't what you want then you need to move on, my best friend treats me well, is good to me and takes care of me when I need it, I have plenty of things to talk to her about and hope that she will be in my life for the next however many years.  We don't have sex either, I'm not attracted to her and we're not that intimate, that's what my financee is for.  The feelings and connections are completely different.  Do you see where I'm heading here........?

I may regret commenting but when is anything that cuts off your air supply a good thing?!

I think it varies between people, my OH moved in 3 years ago, we found it quite difficult, I'd been living alone for 3 years, he's been living alone for 2, neither of us had lived with a partner before.  but we argued, and made up, and worked through it. 

He taught me to be more relaxed, that it didn't really matter if the playstation remotes aren't put away straight away or if the milk bottle tops are left on the side.  I taught him to be better with money, that we could still be happy even if we didn't have much to spend.

A really good book that helped us through the rougher periods was "Seven principles of making marriage work" or something like that, it was some really good concepts and teaches you how to argue productively, how not to critise and how to build up your partners self esteem  even when you are frustrated.

There will be plenty of challenges ahead but nothing that you can't over come together if you want to.  Good luck.