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The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
16:08 (UTC)
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Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

advice time is over. 

Sorry, wasn't trying to tick you off even more. Just worried is all. (((fiesty)))

I'm just very over whelmed right now. It's sort of a constant state of being for me, and it always weighs on me that it's going to take the better part of 10 years to dig myself out of the hole I'm in.  

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
16:05 (UTC)
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advice time is over. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
16:01 (UTC)
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Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by dancingtowardsmyself:

Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

I'd love to, but right now I have two months left until I can file for all that stuff in TN. I really do not want to file in Indiana and then have to go up there all the time for court hearings and not have a local lawyer. 

Ahh gotcha. Makes sense to me. Keep an eye out, though. He could file in IN to try to make you come back...

And from everything you've said about him, I can totally see him doing that.  :P

Do you have a lawyer lined up?

If I was in your position I would have visited the lawyer and set everything up so that that paperwork was filed as soon as court opened on the first day that you are able to.

I have not found one here yet. I've been so focused on finding a job so that I can be like"look, im a productive member of society and not a mooch!" to the judge. 

You really need to protect yourself.

I'm aware of that. 

I just meant that not talking to the lawyer so you can look productive to the judge might do more harm than good. You've got plenty of proof of his manipulativeness and all around bad person which will outweigh the lack of a job IF you don't find one before going to court.

The other thing is, it takes MONTHS to see the judge if there's no grounds for an emergency hearing (and the burden of proof to get one is such that you likely won't based on what you've said to date). If you have the paperwork ready to go prior to the 6 month point, at least you can get moving right away.

I have already had a consultation...way back in May. I know where i'm at but just have not been in touch with anyone here in Tn. 

I need a job to pay for the lawyer. My parents can't foot the bill for everything. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:56 (UTC)
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Original Post by starlitocean:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by starlitocean:

how's the job hunt going, fiesty?

oooh, and the deputy?

dismal and dismal. We hardly talk anymore. I'm not in the best of places right now and I don't think he is either. 

oh :(

sorry to hear...and extra annoying that R is being a douche when you're going through this stuff.  :(

He's been a douche for the last year, not like i'm super surprised by it anymore. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:52 (UTC)
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Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by dancingtowardsmyself:

Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

I'd love to, but right now I have two months left until I can file for all that stuff in TN. I really do not want to file in Indiana and then have to go up there all the time for court hearings and not have a local lawyer. 

Ahh gotcha. Makes sense to me. Keep an eye out, though. He could file in IN to try to make you come back...

And from everything you've said about him, I can totally see him doing that.  :P

Do you have a lawyer lined up?

If I was in your position I would have visited the lawyer and set everything up so that that paperwork was filed as soon as court opened on the first day that you are able to.

I have not found one here yet. I've been so focused on finding a job so that I can be like"look, im a productive member of society and not a mooch!" to the judge. 

You really need to protect yourself.

I'm aware of that. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:49 (UTC)
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Original Post by starlitocean:

how's the job hunt going, fiesty?

oooh, and the deputy?

dismal and dismal. We hardly talk anymore. I'm not in the best of places right now and I don't think he is either. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:42 (UTC)
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Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by dancingtowardsmyself:

Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

I'd love to, but right now I have two months left until I can file for all that stuff in TN. I really do not want to file in Indiana and then have to go up there all the time for court hearings and not have a local lawyer. 

Ahh gotcha. Makes sense to me. Keep an eye out, though. He could file in IN to try to make you come back...

And from everything you've said about him, I can totally see him doing that.  :P

Do you have a lawyer lined up?

If I was in your position I would have visited the lawyer and set everything up so that that paperwork was filed as soon as court opened on the first day that you are able to.

I have not found one here yet. I've been so focused on finding a job so that I can be like"look, im a productive member of society and not a mooch!" to the judge. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:39 (UTC)
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Original Post by dancingtowardsmyself:

Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

I'd love to, but right now I have two months left until I can file for all that stuff in TN. I really do not want to file in Indiana and then have to go up there all the time for court hearings and not have a local lawyer. 

Ahh gotcha. Makes sense to me. Keep an eye out, though. He could file in IN to try to make you come back...

And from everything you've said about him, I can totally see him doing that.  :P

Its the ONLY reason I am still being so damn nice to him. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:35 (UTC)
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Original Post by chu:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Growl

 

so annoyed at R. 

What did he do this time?

He finally switched his phone over to his own contract and thinks that somehow that means he doesn't have to help pay for the last month we were on it together. *eye roll*

 

So now if I want to go home for the holiday weekend and see my family I have to borrow money from my parents to do so. Because all the money I had set aside for it now has to pay for OUR phone bill. 

I'll be honest fiesty, I think you're still being way too nice to him. He's proven over and over again he's a jerk and sets a horrible example for your son. I know you've talked to a lawyer, but I'd be working towards getting the strictest arrangement possible. My two cents.

(((fiesty)))

I'd love to, but right now I have two months left until I can file for all that stuff in TN. I really do not want to file in Indiana and then have to go up there all the time for court hearings and not have a local lawyer. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:34 (UTC)
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Original Post by shepard2826:

*sigh* we leave tomorrow to fly back to phoenix to then take a bus to San Diego Friday. It's a work reward trip for G but I am really not happy about it. He told me we had to fly into Phoenix and take the bus with the team but that the trip wouldn't be as booze focused as the last one.

False. The bus is actually a party bus and "everyone will be required to do one shot before getting on!!!! The beer bong will be passed around so make sure you bring beer and booze to share!!!" and the bus was optional. Many people are flying directly to San Diego. And the rest of the itinerary is booze-centric including the minimum drink order on the deep see fishing charter and the wine tasting during the horse back riding. I do not want to go on this trip. 

 

*flops to the ground, flails*

feign morning sickness? 

 

I really think it is unfair of him to expect you to go. You JUST started a new job, and not to mention you can't even drink. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:32 (UTC)
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Original Post by runesplendor:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Growl

 

so annoyed at R. 


sky is blue, water is wet, r is annoying... ;p

f'reals

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:30 (UTC)
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Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Growl

 

so annoyed at R. 

What did he do this time?

He finally switched his phone over to his own contract and thinks that somehow that means he doesn't have to help pay for the last month we were on it together. *eye roll*

 

So now if I want to go home for the holiday weekend and see my family I have to borrow money from my parents to do so. Because all the money I had set aside for it now has to pay for OUR phone bill. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:23 (UTC)
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Growl

 

so annoyed at R. 

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:16 (UTC)
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Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by runesplendor:

Original Post by shepard2826:

Original Post by runesplendor:

Original Post by dnrothx:

I've always found it amusing to be the sober one amongst the lushes.


We noticed.  :D

We should have just dumped the jerk.

*gigglesnort*

We should have left him to pay for the beer :D

So let it be written, so let it be done

The Lounge Get the CHAT. Get the CHAT Shoe Shine. Aug 27 2014
15:08 (UTC)
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morning friendsies!

The Lounge All Hell Can't Stop CHAT Now! Aug 25 2014
16:04 (UTC)
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Original Post by trh:

Original Post by kevinatthebrook:

Original Post by purespark:

Yep, no damage whatsoever at home.  Pictures are askew, that's all.  Earthquakes are so directional - if you have cabinets oriented a certain way, everything will fall out and break, but if they face a different direction, you'll have no issues.  We got lucky.

I like my earth like i like my women,.....

wait, nvm.

Fertile?

HA!

The Lounge All Hell Can't Stop CHAT Now! Aug 25 2014
16:03 (UTC)
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Original Post by shepard2826:

Original Post by purespark:

Good morning guys.

In case you were wondering, minimal damage in my office.  I had a framed map fall, the glass in which broke, and my water bottle fell over, and the wooden front of my wine box fell off.

I was thinking of you guys! I didn't want to text and add to what I'm sure was a bombardment! Glad you're ok!

this is exactly why I did not text you sparky. I was thinking about you though! 

The Lounge All Hell Can't Stop CHAT Now! Aug 25 2014
15:37 (UTC)
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Original Post by shepard2826:

Original Post by lily42:

who is this melkor you are speaking of? ;-p

He's like the mythical unicorn!

If unicorns liked lifting things up and putting them down...

The Lounge All Hell Can't Stop CHAT Now! Aug 25 2014
14:18 (UTC)
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Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by cajunrider:

Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Original Post by cajunrider:

Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Anyone know anything about car stereo equipment? I'm having an issue with my amp and I'm trying to figure out whether the problem is stereo, speakers or just that the amp is old and crochetty.

What is it doing?

 

The safety on the amp is cutting out the sound ever since I connected up the new stereo. The stereo is still playing. The red safety alert comes on on the amp.

I tuned the gain over the weekend and adjusted what I could and got all the way to work this morning before it cut out just as I pulled into my parking spot.

From the little bit I know about stereo, I'm sure you already know that your amp went into protection mode. If your amp & speakers set up worked fine before you connected the new stereo, it's possible that the output of the new stereo is too high for the gain in your amp. 

Alternatively you might have a low impedance problem. The source of the low impedance could be a bunch of things. If it's a new system all together then I would have checked the impedance of the speakers vs what the amp is rated. However it's an old system so the likely problem is the possibility of a short somewhere or failure(s) of the output transistors.


Thanks Cajun. It's a new stereo with an old amp. Since it didn't cut out with the old stereo I'm thinking it's a power output problem, but DS did mess with the front speakers so I might have to open them up and check the wiring.

Anticipates another 3 hours out in 95% humidity and 100F heat.

bleh Texas. 

The Lounge All Hell Can't Stop CHAT Now! Aug 25 2014
14:09 (UTC)
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Original Post by deborahamorgan:

Morning Fiesty.

Any job news?

Nothing. I haven't been able to get anything done with the boy around for the last three weeks. Ugh. 

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