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The Lounge She's Chat it Yeah, baby, she's chat it I'm your Venus, I'm your fire, Your desire Nov 21 2014
19:11 (UTC)
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yep. lol

The Lounge She's Chat it Yeah, baby, she's chat it I'm your Venus, I'm your fire, Your desire Nov 21 2014
19:06 (UTC)
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Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Already home from work. Boy is napping...

 

 

trying to figure out what the heck to get him for Christmas, any ideas?

So far I decided to get him a little coin jar that counts the change as you put it in, an outdoor toy of some sort (a slide or a toddler sized basketball goal), and maybe a couple of books. 

 

Oh wait I just answered my own question. 

I've got this and this on Tess' list.  L might like those.

cute! My parents already got him a tool set that's hidden in the closet for Christmas. He might like those vehicle magnets though! 

 

I can't decide between the digital coin jar or this one. I like that this one is more than just a coin bank, even if he isn't old enough to use it for it's intended purpose yet, he will be by next year. 

I vote for the Moonjar.  I made Tess a set using medium sized canning jars, those black "chalkboard" labels and a the pen that works on them, and some cool vintage lids I found at an estate sale (but I think they also make coin slot lids for them too).  It was probably just as expensive but I was feeling crafty.  :)

I think L would break mason jars, the Moonjar seems safer lol

The Lounge She's Chat it Yeah, baby, she's chat it I'm your Venus, I'm your fire, Your desire Nov 21 2014
19:00 (UTC)
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Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Already home from work. Boy is napping...

 

 

trying to figure out what the heck to get him for Christmas, any ideas?

So far I decided to get him a little coin jar that counts the change as you put it in, an outdoor toy of some sort (a slide or a toddler sized basketball goal), and maybe a couple of books. 

 

Oh wait I just answered my own question. 

I've got this and this on Tess' list.  L might like those.

cute! My parents already got him a tool set that's hidden in the closet for Christmas. He might like those vehicle magnets though! 

 

I can't decide between the digital coin jar or this one. I like that this one is more than just a coin bank, even if he isn't old enough to use it for it's intended purpose yet, he will be by next year. 

The Lounge She's Chat it Yeah, baby, she's chat it I'm your Venus, I'm your fire, Your desire Nov 21 2014
18:24 (UTC)
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Already home from work. Boy is napping...

 

 

trying to figure out what the heck to get him for Christmas, any ideas?

So far I decided to get him a little coin jar that counts the change as you put it in, an outdoor toy of some sort (a slide or a toddler sized basketball goal), and maybe a couple of books. 

 

Oh wait I just answered my own question. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
21:39 (UTC)
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Original Post by purespark:

Original Post by starlitocean:

I'm not certain the size of my pots, but I definitely make over a gallon most times when I make soup.  I tend to cook for way more than two...sometimes very accidentally.

I mean, it happens.  Y'know?  "Oh, this is pretty good but it'd be even better if I added this... But now it needs to be balanced with this quart of stock... Oh and I have this onion and these other vegetables that need to be used up..."

end result:  Enough food for ten.

So true

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
20:31 (UTC)
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The little lord just stood on one of his toys, pointed at Lucy, and very demanding told her... "puppy, sit!"

Lucy looked at me like....wtf is he saying? So I told her to sit and then he told her, "good girl"

 

These two....

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
17:02 (UTC)
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*giggle*

 

I cut up vegetables for Thanksgiving dinner with a tactical knife because someone doesn't have regular cutlery. Silly man. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
16:21 (UTC)
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Original Post by chu:

Original Post by jules817:

Pav, he's not sitting up quite yet, but we're getting there!

Lily!! Those first smiles and laughs are the best. Then they keep coming and it's even more awesome. Baby giggles are like crack :)

If you tickle A under her arms she giggles till she snorts.

Omg thats cute. Lol

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
15:42 (UTC)
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Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Valid points. 

 

I think I resist so much because every time R helped me he made me feel guilty for it and held it over my head. He still says things like, "this is what I get for taking care of you for three years...etc etc" and the like. Im quick to remind him I took care of myself without his help for the first year and a half and also bailed him out a few times when he wasn't working by buying him groceries and things like that (before we lived together). And for a couple of months I paid our rent with my school loan money because he wasn't working too. But he conveniently forgets about all of that...

Do you think part of your discomfort with accepting help is anxiety about trusting and depending on someone again after experiencing such a major betrayal?

Definitely. I never realized how much that relationship shaped and changed my behaviors and the way I relate to other people. 

Makes total sense. 

Just keep in mind that you were strong enough to break off the relationship before the relationship broke you.  You had insight, strength of character, and strength of will.  Those things will be there in any new relationship you engage in and will continue to protect you, so there's no need to fear making yourself vulnerable again.  I imagine you've learned many valuable lessons from the experience and will take things slow, be quicker to identify and respond to any red flags, and be more mindful about protecting your independence if you decide to make any kind of emotional or practical commitment.

In others words, you've got it covered.  :)

Compared to other relationships im taking this one so slow its in neutral. I don't feel bad about it though. It feels good knowing that if I wanted to walk away for any reason I wouldn't be devastated and hurt because I let myself care too much too fast. I feel more capable of making sound decisions actually. 

 

But hey, so far so good. ;)

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
15:22 (UTC)
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Original Post by runesplendor:

e-hugs are pretty awesome, all things considered.

((((Runey))))

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
15:18 (UTC)
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Original Post by pavlovcat:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Valid points. 

 

I think I resist so much because every time R helped me he made me feel guilty for it and held it over my head. He still says things like, "this is what I get for taking care of you for three years...etc etc" and the like. Im quick to remind him I took care of myself without his help for the first year and a half and also bailed him out a few times when he wasn't working by buying him groceries and things like that (before we lived together). And for a couple of months I paid our rent with my school loan money because he wasn't working too. But he conveniently forgets about all of that...

Do you think part of your discomfort with accepting help is anxiety about trusting and depending on someone again after experiencing such a major betrayal?

Definitely. I never realized how much that relationship shaped and changed my behaviors and the way I relate to other people. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
15:09 (UTC)
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Original Post by kevinatthebrook:

Original Post by kathygator:

T speaks true. For future, check with your auto insurance and see if they offer a cheap adder for roadside assistance. GEICO does and it's been consistently useful.

I had it without even realizing it. I've since made it clear to all drivers in our family!

 

eta!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I totally forgot to check that!! 

 

*digs for insurance card* 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
15:07 (UTC)
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Valid points. 

 

I think I resist so much because every time R helped me he made me feel guilty for it and held it over my head. He still says things like, "this is what I get for taking care of you for three years...etc etc" and the like. Im quick to remind him I took care of myself without his help for the first year and a half and also bailed him out a few times when he wasn't working by buying him groceries and things like that (before we lived together). And for a couple of months I paid our rent with my school loan money because he wasn't working too. But he conveniently forgets about all of that...

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:57 (UTC)
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But I don't want to be someone he has to take care of, he takes care of other people when he's working...I don't want to be more "work" for him. If that makes any sense...

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:44 (UTC)
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I think I hate the feeling that I might be inconviniencing someone else. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:40 (UTC)
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I think im mostly annoyed that I feel like im being rescued. And I don't know why that annoys me so much but it does. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:33 (UTC)
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Just a little shaken up, he held my hand for the rest of the drive and kept reassuring me that we would figure it out. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:30 (UTC)
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Original Post by jules817:

Holy crap! I'm glad you and the car seem to be ok!

Thank you. I thought I was going to be able to steer my way out of it but then I hit another slick spot and I couldn't do anything more.

 

At least no one behind me hit me and there wasn't anyone in the other lane so I didn't hit anyone. 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
14:21 (UTC)
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Alright I need help deciding what to do...even though I think I know what I should do but maybe ththere's something I haven't thought of. 

 

My car slid off the road and down an embankment this morning. I was leaving the cop's house and going to R's to pick up Lucas. I'm fine, the car seems fine, it started right back up after I turned it off, the airbags didn't go off or anything and we checked over what we could see and didn't see any damage. Luckily the cop was right in front of me so he just got me out of the car and dropped me off at R's. 

I can't afford to pay a tow truck and I don't have AAA, I also haven't been able to get in touch with anyone i know who has 4WD that can pull my car out. 

My other option is to wait until the cop gets off work. He said he can get someone to pull me out. That means I have to drive back to TN tonight and go back to work tomorrow morning at. This is the most feasible option right now.

 

The Lounge It's just your Chat talkin', You're telling me lies Nov 17 2014
13:53 (UTC)
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Original Post by amwick:

Original Post by fiestyphoenix:

Today is not starting out very well

:( 

Hope you have a great day tomorrow.. Somebody's birthday!! 

Me too. We'll see. I have to make it back to Tn first. 

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