Posts by vonapathy

As the saying goes, 'black don't crack!'. I have to wonder if there is some truth to that colloquialism, or if my parents just blessed me with ridiculously awesome genes. Regardless, at 28 I have no wrinkles, and I've never had an acne breakout my entire life. When I was 24 I started paying attention to skin care, so my regime is wash my face in the shower with hot water and soap, apply regular old Ponds Cold Cream, apply Aveeno Positively Ageless Sunblock, makeup (usually foundation, powder, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, plus eyeshadow if I'm feeling fancy-I don't neeeed to wear make up, but I like to so I can be taken seriously at my job).

My mom is 63 and is generally mistaken for someone in her late 40's/early 50's. Of course, she's Afro-Caribbean, 5'2",120lbs, extremely healthy, and dresses rather stylishly. I hope hope hope that I take after her. Even though shes Afro-Caribbean and can "tolerate" the sun, shes always been studious about applying sunscreen and keeping her face in the shade.

My father is an 88 year old Italian man, who has been slathering himself in olive oil (literally olive oil) his entire life, so his face is rather supply and he can pass for someone in his 70's. 

OH! random tangent-advice: don't just apply sunscreen to your face, make sure to apply it to the back of your hands as well!!

Original Post by bethanyj20:

I've been trying different workouts for over 2years... Only lost 30lbs, perhaps a tad more. I work out 5 times a week for about an hour.

I have a sneaking suspicion you lost those 30lbs from under-eating and endless cardio. Now you weigh a healthy 137lbs, but are flabby as s*** because you destroyed your metabolism and atrophied your muscles by 'doing it wrong' for 2 years. 

There is an easy fix for all of this (i.e. eat food and lift weights), but it requires you to actual care about your health rather than arbitrary thinness. 

Original Post by stoplickingmyhand:

Original Post by vonapathy:

Hm, out of all the VS models, I like her the least. I dunno...shes so....blah to me. Her hair is the same color as her skin, her proportion are exaggerated  to the point of being alien, I dunno, shes just another skinny white girl to me. 

Now Joan Smalls on the other hand, THAT'S a Vs model I could admire (which is silly concept but whatever). Ms. Smalls seems a bit more...lively and realistic to me. 

If I were to be completely honest, I have a bias against tall thin generic blondes (like we need any more of those?) whereas Ms. Smalls shares the same Caribbean heritage as me, so its like shes a pop of flavor to the bland toast bikini parade (aka the vs fashion show).

This might be just a difference in taste (which is fine) but I don't think that all blonde, white women are necessarily boring.  I've heard that a lot and it always seems like such a hostile way of putting it.  There are definitely some who are, but I've seen plenty of unremarkable women from all ethnicities.  I'm a brunette of Russian-Jewish heritage and I'm far more generic and unremarkable than Candace or any of those ladies.  I do agree Joan Smalls is gorgeous, and I agree there are a disproportionate number of blondes in the VS fashion show (before, there seemed to be a little more diversity, with Tyra Banks and Selina Ebanks, etc) but I still think they're all objectively beautiful.  I can't think of any man who'd recoil at them just because they weren't exotic enough.

eh, I don't mean to be hostile towards tall thin blondes, its just that I was surrounded by that particular demographic when I was growing up. Full disclosure, I'm Afro-Caribbean and Italian, but I grew up in a far western suburb of Chicago that was originally founded by Swedish and German people. Suffice to say, I stuck out like a sore thumb, and all my friends were--you guessed it--tall thin and blonde.

In a way, that particular look doesn't do anything  for me, since I feel its so... pedestrian. Its like, I can go home and run into 5 girls like Candice at the mall you know? (well not literally, they certainly don't look as good as her).

Btw whatever happened to all the Brazilian models that were supposed to take over? did that putter out or something? I kinda pay attention to the fashion world and it seems like all the runways and editorials comprise of lanky 14 year old Eastern Europeans...or underweight androgynous men. *shrugs*

Original Post by shosho420:

Original Post by watergirl:

Original Post by shosho420:

Here is the thing. Growing up my parents had money, they weren't at bars every weekend or on drugs. They were actually spending time and doing things with their children, camping,fishing, Disneyland, traveling. I had an amazing childhood because I was lucky enough to actually have someone at home to raise me. Instead of having parents who were bar flies or pot heads that let seedy individuals around their kids and then wonder "hmm how did my kid turn out this way".

You know how girls are, they get drunk and they tell you their whole life stories. So when I said that those are how my friends were raped that is because they told me that themselves.  It was always a family friend or a family member and it was always because of absentee parents, who would of rather been having fun then watching their children.

And look how well you turned out.

ETA: I didnt even see your post CW. LMAO

I did turn out great. Thank you

And I'm the queen of Botswana!!

psst insider tip: just cause you say something, doesn't mean its true. The fact that you're trolling a rape thread on a weight loss website....miiiiiight just indicate that you've made some poor choices in life, and you'd do best to re-examine what went so utterly wrong.

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I blame your mother

Well its good to know that its actually MY PARENT'S FAULT that I was molested by the neighbor when I went to retrieve a ball from his yard. I mean gosh, they should have just magically divined&nb sp;that our next door neighbor was a pedophile (regardless of the fact that he was a popular and well respect member of the community with a family of his own), and promptly sold our house and move us out to the middle of nowhere. 

And jeez what was I thinking, sauntering into his yard while my mom was tending to the garden, my 6 year old self shoulda known better, shoulda had a rape whistle on me, shoulda been taught to trust no one (ESPECIALLY authoritative adults)!& nbsp;

shosho, just...stop. The more you type, the more you reveal yourself to be ignorant, callous, and plain stupid. 

Original Post by shosho420:

I personally am sick of this tumblr crap. I am sick of seeing naked girls with signs saying "I have morals".  RIGHT? Because obviously something that needs that must justification cannot be wrong?

 

I believe in self responsibility, I partied everyday as a teenager, got drunk, went to bed at 5am hung over at school, you know how many times I was raped? ZERO. WHY? I didn't put myself in those situations. I didn't go to strangers parties and get **** faced and pass out on couches of guys I "dont' know and then wonder how did this happen to me (maybe it was the 15 beers)?!!! Eventually you have to take some responsibility for your own actions. Now I cannot speak for other countries, I know they are having their issues right now and I cannot speak on those. I also cant speak on wives that are abused and raped. All I am talking about is teenage girls who seem to purposely put themselves in these situations and then go "derp derp how did this happen". Take responsibility for your own body and the situations you put it in.  Now I am also not talking about 3am wal mart parking lot attacks either, some things are random like that.

 

Also this is very,very,very mellowed down from what my real much harsher opinion is

All of this can be taken down by the Fallacy of a Just World hypothesis. 

let me guess, you're harsher opinion is that "those sluts deserved, amirite"?

a bmi of 15.9 means you are close to death, and you need to be medically supervised in a hospital. You are in extreme danger of dying from a low resting heart rate in your sleep, or sudden myocardial infarction, or even a sudden electrolyte/potassium imbalance causing you to slip into a coma and eventual death (if you're lucky, some people just end up in a vegetative state like Terri Schiavo)

People have died from anorexia at a higher bmi. 

Statistically, the mortality rate for those under 18.5 bmi, and those at a bmi of 30 and above are generally the same (i.e. not good).

Denial isn't going to change the fact that you are in a very bad shape, and need medical attention ASAP.

Off the top of my head, fat assists with the absorption of fat soluble vitamins. Additionally, fat gives our hair its glossiness and our skin its vibrancy. And I think our brains are made up of 60% of fat (don't quote me on that), and fats are the building blocks for the myelin sheath (the protective insulation around nerve fibers; without the myelin sheath you end up with things like multiple sclerosis, various autoimmune disorders, live damage, etc)

"low fat diet" is probably one of the worst dietary fads unleashed upon this world. 

Oh god, all these arbitrary food rules....effing nonsense. 

if you're hungry at 1am that means you're burning fat in your sleep? yeah, that has no basis in science. 

I understand where these "no eating past ---o'clock" rules came from; a means to help people curb their after dinner snacking, and/or mitigate heartburn. However there is no metabolic/fat burning benefit to these rules. 

I think its much, much, MUCH more important/beneficial to eat your calorie allotment for the day, regardless of time, rather than under eat cause its --o'clock and you told yourself you can't eat past that time. 

Original Post by healthychina:

whats with people treating this like a stupid question? 

its a valid question, and i for one haven't met many ladys with biiig stretch marks but a girl showed me hers once and i still dated the hell out of her lol

 

i guess if your attractive, stretch marks are low on the list of things we care about.

 

yes i am superficial, as are most men.

....because it is a stupid question. 

What heterosexual man has looked at a naked woman he was about to/wanted to sleep with and thought, "NOPE! I see some stretch marks there on her thighs, gonna have to pass on this".

 ಠ_ಠ

Yeah that's never happened, ever. And if stretchmarks were a turn off to men, we wouldn't have survived as a species.