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Purge Negative Symbols


By +Carolyn Richardson on Jan 27, 2011 10:00 AM in Dieting & You

By Carolyn Richardson

Toni Raiten-D’Antonio, author of Ugly as Sin, The Truth About How We Look and Finding Freedom from Self-Hatred sets some sobering evidence of American women’s problems with eating.  She says, “Experts at the University of North Carolina have found that three-quarters of women have disordered feelings, thoughts and behaviors related to eating.”

While extreme forms of purging, including the use of laxatives and vomiting after eating, do not cure  irrational thoughts related to losing weight, some forms of purging are beneficial and that is what we will talk about today.  As you purge, you will gain better control over your environment and move forward with a new confidence.  By letting go of irrational connections to food and weight loss, you will become a better person overall. 

Purge People

Certain people were instrumental in making your weight a bigger issue than was necessary.  Whether it was a sibling who teased you, a mother who constantly brought up weight, or a boyfriend who talked about how beautiful you’d be thinner, don’t let their approval become your motivation.  Simply put: purge the people-pleaser in you.  Place their comments out of mind.  Make your forthcoming success your own inside joke.  Your new weight may open the door for a healing conversation with the very people that hurt you and that alone will be gratifying.

Purge Pictures

There are symbols all around you that hold negative emotional attachments.  Get rid of them.  Stop revisiting those dark places.  Tell your family that you are taking down pictures that make you feel less than beautiful.  You can keep them stashed away in a box for your future before-and-after party, but keep them out of sight while you’re trying to build yourself up.  You can also put up pictures or representations of the body you’d like to be, but do whatever it takes to surround yourself with positive thoughts. You need to feel full emotionally as much as possible to avoid resorting back to bad habits. 

Purge Clothes

Many people have a story about losing weight and buying a new pair of jeans.  (Remember Oprah in the 80s?)  But, some of those same people also have stories about needing their old “fat” jeans months later.  Don’t allow that to be your story.  As soon as a piece of clothing truly doesn’t fit, throw it away. Whether you give it to a girlfriend, a thrift store, or a homeless shelter, let it go.  Sure it’s worth hundreds of dollars, but you cannot afford not to let it go.  If you are midway to your weight loss goal, consider buying clothes from a thrift store to bridge the wardrobe gap.  The hardest part of your weight loss journey will be the first 6 to 12 months after you reach your weight loss goal.    Not having clothes to wear if you gain 10 pounds back is a great way to keep you in the gym and away from your old habits.  You need to know that you cannot turn back after all the hard work you put in.


Your thoughts....

Have you purged your life?



Comments


Comparing a symptom of a serious illness to the rather more mundane types of 'purging' described here is crass and trivializing, and I am shocked that Calorie Count has allowed this.

Remember that some of your readers will be trying to gain weight as part of a recovery from an eating disorder.

Not to mention that adopting this sort of adversarial and all-or-nothing approach is likely to lead to self-incrimination and further weight gain in at least some people if they should gain a few extra pounds.



Don't be so sensitive.  She wasn't using "purge" in that sense.  Political correctness should not allow the author not to make an excellent point, and what other word could she have used?  She clearly explained what she meant.  The article makes very sound points.  These "mundane" types of issues are exactly what leads to the serious illness of which you speak.  I have purged.  I also have now found a more healthy relationship with food and exercise and food and have stopped.  The type of purging mentioned above has helped me to meet healthy goals.



I totally agree with this article.  I have a group of friends from church and we have taken up getting into shape after having kids.  Our clothes go from friend to friend and our closets are only filled with what size we currently wear, or a size we are waiting to give away.  Once we give that size away we work really hard to keep it off, otherwise we have to go searching around for a bigger size in our friend's closets and who wants to do that?  It is an amazing success.  We even started a running group (Life Runners) and we run a marathon or a half marathon twice a year.  The training keeps us in amazing shape and our husbands LOVE it!  Most of us had never run a mile, but with some hard work and great friends and lot's of prayer we have all made it through and most of us are below pre-pregnancy weight!   



Yeaaah... I have to agree with the first commenter. Using the word "purge" at a weight control website? How many people will read the title and not the article? And how many of those will think it's about the times it's okay the puke??? Hell, I kneeeew this was gonna be some play on words and part of me was still hoping it would be giving me permission to purge after a bad binge.

That was seriously irresponsible, CC.


As someone who has suffered from an ED in the past, I would like to tell you that the language of this article is INCREDIBLY triggering, especially the title. I cannot even believe something like this would be allowed on a website like this.  While it may seem like a cute play on words to some, it's disrespectful and potentially harmful to others. This has made me question my membership to CC, and I will be removing myself from the email list. This definitely was not something I expected when I signed up. 



I also agree with the first comment. I'm attempting to recover from bulimia and when I read the title of the email, I thought it really was going to be talking about bulimic purging. Purging negative people and I'll fitting clothes isn't any use to me.


Original Post by: lauraave

As someone who has suffered from an ED in the past, I would like to tell you that the language of this article is INCREDIBLY triggering, especially the title. I cannot even believe something like this would be allowed on a website like this.  While it may seem like a cute play on words to some, it's disrespectful and potentially harmful to others. This has made me question my membership to CC, and I will be removing myself from the email list. This definitely was not something I expected when I signed up. 


I absolutely agree- it is completely irresponsible to post this on a website where there are already a higher amount of disordered eaters. Bad idea, caloriecount. 



Purge was a word before bulimia existed Is cc not allowed to use the word thin anymore because it may trigger someone? Get over it. It's a word, it's going to show up anywhere I'm bulimic, I think the idea behind this article is great


Yeah.... I don't even have an ED, and I found the title triggering.  It was really difficult to read the 'advice' here and not just be able to get over the title.

There are plenty of other words the author could have used besides that one.  'eliminate', 'pare down', 'throw away','focus', 'shed', some form of 'efficient', 'streamline'.   These are all words that came to my mind at 8 am before I've even had my coffee, I'm sure there are plenty of others.

The last thing I'd want someone with ED to do is find a 'good' way to use that term- it shouldn't even be in the vocabulary.  What if someone who is underweight decided to get rid of all their 'fat clothes'? What if someone with an ED decided to delete people who are actually trying to help them from their contact list? 



I've never been a person with an eating disorder in the way that is described in some of these comments, so I cannot comment on that.  My eating disorder was the way of 75% of America, overeating.   And in that way, I can relate to the article.  I did purge my old clothing as I began losing weight, and I continued to so that I don't have anything over a large now, and it is an inspiration not to gain weight back because I wouldn't fit anything that I own if I did.   After reading the article, I can also relate to purging photos.  I had not thought of it before, but everytime that I see a photo of the old me, I cringe and 'fear' that I will go back there.  In one way it is a negative inspiration not to eat, but in another way if there are enough photos like that sitting around the house, I see myself that way -- the way that I used to be -- and I tend to think that it's okay to eat those things that I used to eat, or I just get so depressed thinking that I might go back there that I want to eat, or I don't want to stoop over because I didn't use to be able to.   Then I can relate to 'purging people', which I have also already done much of.  I would not blame anyone for my overeating, but there are those who just eat all of the time and make it seem normal, or those who would encourage me to eat constantly, and then joke about my size.  Those people I have purged from my life.

So I can relate to the article from the point of view of someone who was on the top side of the weight scale and has come down.   I'm going to follow the advice in the article start doing something about the photos.



Wow... as an RN, this article is psychologically confusing. This could seriously trigger an ED patient into an episode, thinking that you are encouraging their ED patterns for positive life goals... this should definitely be removed from this site. I honestly don't even understand if you were trying to make some paralells, how they even make sense....



Look, if you stop at the title, then that's your fault. It's very obvious in the article that they are talking about something else entirely. The word purge is used for effect, and obviously it worked.

I agree with the article! I don't call it purging but I do call it "emotional housekeeping" - getting rid of negative people, negative things, and in this instance - fat clothes. Last year I lost 46 lbs, and then because of the heat of summer, the goodies of summer, and later a surgery that set me back, in 6 months I gained back 20 lbs. Back into fat jeans... If I hadn't had those clothes to go back to, I'd have found a way to work harder to stay in my new clothes.

Same with the photos, the people, and just anything else negative. It should be purged (synonyms; cleansed, gotten rid of, eliminated, removed, flushed out)! Weightloss is tough and you need to surround yourself with support and rid yourself of the things that support bad habits.



You know what, at second glance, there's nothing wrong with the title either! It tells you specifically that the article is about purging negative symbols, not purging after binge eating!



As someone who works with eating disorders I found the article to be right on. Even in recovery "purging" the horrific feelings, people and behaviors is part of recovery. I truly do not think that this was meant to trigger anyone and in life there will always be triggers. If this really did trigger you or you were looking for permission I want to encourage you to look inside and see if you are truly in full recovery. I sit with these ladies and they use these words all the time and it brings up feelings to the others in group however they have a chance to work through them so eventaully they are not so strong. Be strong Be Healthy in Body and Mind



I think it was the titile of the E-MAIL that is offensive- NOT the artical itself. As stated above, the word "purge" doesn't mean "eating disorder." I think it was the title of the e-mail that triggered all this controversy, as that is what we saw initially and got us all on the eating disorder train of thought. The article has some really good points, and doesn't refer to eating disorders.

SO... bad marketing/catch phrase in the e-mail. Good title and information in the actual article itself.

Breath people, just breathe :)



I agree with annanurse7:  this article is psychologically confusing!  Purge is not the best word to use on a site such as this.  When I was younger, I wished I could learn to purge in the ED way, but couldn't quite go that route, so I settled for yo-yo dieting.  That business about getting rid of larger clothes didn't work for me either, because I just ended up buying more at a later date.  Really, the whole "diet" scene is a matter of setting your mind in order.  When I can get a clear view of my goal, whether it be hour by hour or day by day, I can control what goes into my mouth.  I would opt for a more "diet friendly" word than purge in this article. Oh yes, by the way, has this author ever had to lose more than 10 pounds?



The title is soo offensive. Yes we ll must rid ourselves of thsoe negatives in our lives, but using the word "purge" is inappropriate. I would hope that Calorie Count would review their article more closely inthe future. For the people who think those of us offended are being too sensitive, then perhaps you shoudl eb more sensitive. As for me, I am unsubscribing. Have enough issues without thinking of this again.



I have a slightly different take on this article and the teaser that brought us to it.  Obsession about size is a component of many eating disorders, and this article plays right in to that obsession by emphasizing throwing away all of your old clothes to force yourself to stay at a certain size.  Focusing obsessively on size sounds like anorexic thinking to me. 

In my view, a healthy lifestyle focuses on nutritious food choice, portion control (making sure to understand the psychology behind food obsessions and find alternative means of satisfaction) and healthy exercise.  It does not focus on rapidly getting to and keeping at a certain size or weight to satisfy some culturally-enforced norm of beauty.  Getting to a truly healthy weight and size *for you* (not your obsessive girlfriends or significant others), where you feel great and have abundant energy and vitality, should be the goal, *regardless what other people think*.  Feeling beautiful just as you are, but focusing on getting to a healthy weight and well-conditioned pain-free body, seems like a more psychologically-sound goal. 

For sure, people pleasing should *not* be a component of a weight loss plan.  So getting rid of negative influences is a great idea.  But I would question any authority that focuses on size as a major indicator of health, beauty or self-worth.



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Part of our problem is that we don't let it go, whatever it is that makes us strugle, we refuse to let it go.  If you were chained all the time, wouldn't you want to breake it? That's exactly what this article is talking about, to get rid of useless stuff that gets in our way, be it material (clothing) mental (toughts), or emotions (self pitty) that don't make us reach our goals.

I have to loose over 30 pounds and just now with the help of an amazing MD. that is not putting blame on me, I can see. She says whatever happened, is in the past, now we have 30 pounds that I would like you to loose. It is important for your health specially if you want to have children, can we work on loosing the 30 lbs? Now we are working on getting rid of bad eating habits and on setting short term goals so that i don't get discouraged.

If you read this article and trigger an emotion, forgive yourself for feeling like that and instead think: That was a thing of the past, it is NOT me anymore.

When we let go of our junk, then we can move forward.



Hmmm.. I understand why the name of the article may "trigger" emotions in some. But I agree with fluffydragon; it's just a word. In fact, using the word as such may be useful for people to REFRAME the word. If you begin to think of "purging" as "getting rid of negative people, excuses, etc. in your life," then it's taken you one step in the right direction.

Hiding from the word is NOT going to solve your problems! 



The title and the article are fine.  ED did not originate and does not own the word "purge."  Anyone who triggers from this was looking for an excuse to do so before s/he saw it, and needs far more help than a calorie-counting website can provide.  Actually, s/he probably shouldn't be on a calorie-counting website at all, since so much of this is about weight loss.  If someone who is at risk is reading this, what other, far more harmful, material are they reading online?

I spent my adolescence getting teased because I was/am unattractive, but I'm not going to collapse and go into a tailspin because I saw the words "ugly as sin". 



Original Post by: rachel8660

Hmmm.. I understand why the name of the article may "trigger" emotions in some. But I agree with fluffydragon; it's just a word. In fact, using the word as such may be useful for people to REFRAME the word. If you begin to think of "purging" as "getting rid of negative people, excuses, etc. in your life," then it's taken you one step in the right direction.

Hiding from the word is NOT going to solve your problems! 


I meant to say I agree with amgrant, oops!



So true Carolynn, we have the power to control what thoughts we think whether good or bad defeat or victory we choose its a choice to live the way we do. But the bigger picture here is most people dont understand the concept behind how there body works. Our bodies are all different and function a little different , our bodies arent meant to be able to process the excessive amounts of food we take in, in some cases excessive amounts of food is the cause of many diseases we may be experiencing. Over eating not only forces ur body to function abnormally but builds up toxins which inturn determines poor moods, laziness ect... The proper way to feed the body is at a rate our bodies can successfully process it without always having a reservoir left over which gets stored as fat cause the body doesnt know what else to do with it. My suggestion is feed ur body every 2 hours with a healthy amount of calories no more sitting and gorging you'll not only feel better,but your body will be able to process correctly.

I was 290 , 2 1/2 years ago, i'm currently 174 i run half marathons and am training for a full, up until last year i have never even thought about running a whole mile, let alone a half, im 35 years old been fat all my life, i wish i would of made better decisions sooner would of saved me alot thoughts that simple arent true. I eat 95% all natural no presevatives AKA toxins i feed my body when it tells me to and ive never felt better. Hope this helps.



Most of these comments are examples of the very negativity we would do well to purge from our lives.  It is obvious that the article has good intentions.  Can't we take its main purpose and run with it?!  We are turning into a society of attackers, complainers, pickers (as in "pick, pick, pick"), and whiners.  Now that is what I'd like to purge!



And dont be discouraged about the negative comment, they didnt even share a photo , that alone should tell you they are un educated fully and they need a chill pill dam!! lol


This article masquerades as empowering, but after reading it, I feel distressed. In my opinion, the article is garbage. I too reacted negatively to it. Those who do not understand should not accuse those who have these strong reactions of being overly sensitive or demanding political correctness. Some of us, like me, feel the reaction inside in a place over which the mind has no control. The irresponsible wording is at fault in this case.

 

That said, I do not believe it fitting to withdraw the article from the website as it is the American First Amendment which protects all citizen’s right to say or write whatever he or she believes. Just as we all have a right to post how we feel about the article here.

 



Well said Imarshal


See , when u view writings that have no emotion in it , u choose to read it positively or negatively, before you jump the gun read it both ways its obvious if ur reading it negatively ur already in a poor mood.


Like many people, I think the article does have good intentions and good advices. I did not suffer from any ED, but the email title did bother me a lot.  A word is a word, and a title is a title, but fact is...majority of people when reading news papers and such will only stop at the title and not keep on reading the entire article. I do believe CC or the author could have been a little more careful and better represent the subject in their email title. The article's title is alright, there is no problem there...but to receive an email saying ''it is o.k. to purge'', is a little confusing. At least, I got confused, and I can't imagine what kind of impact that could have on someone who is just starting the road of ED recovery. 

It's not a personal attack against this article's author, nor is it to be taken as the end of the world just revisited CC. Perhaps simply many of us think it is too much ''on the fence line'' to be acceptable, on a website where the % of ED disorder and ill weight-related thoughts is higher than in the average population.



And ur mind does have control, dam people quit making excuses because its easier, thats the biggest mistake we make everything is done these days on the basis of easier. It may be easier less stressful to think that way but at the end of the day most people should want to feel like they have accomplished something and not just have gotten by with excuses, life is short u dont get that time back. Make it count!


Some of you people need to keep in mind that EVERY article posted on this website is not targeted toward you.  I find it ridiculous how people (if given the authority) would have trashed the article before it was ever posted.  And why?  Because they didn't agree with it?  Obviously there are some of us that have found some helpful ideas through this outreach...and if you aren't one of those - just use your delete button & stop trying to idealistically sensor what the rest of us would like to read.

If you don't like it - disregard it.  So freakin' simple.



Original Post by: mountain_ash

Comparing a symptom of a serious illness to the rather more mundane types of 'purging' described here is crass and trivializing, and I am shocked that Calorie Count has allowed this.

Remember that some of your readers will be trying to gain weight as part of a recovery from an eating disorder.

Not to mention that adopting this sort of adversarial and all-or-nothing approach is likely to lead to self-incrimination and further weight gain in at least some people if they should gain a few extra pounds.


I have an eating disorder and i am currently gaining trying to gain weight. I actually found this article enlightening and put a positive twist on the word i formally knew to be a negative dark place in my life. Part of the process, of over coming my anorexia deals with changing my mindset and how i see food. To change my negative feelings towards it and become positive. I found this very helpful as she made a great point using a great tactic. If we lived in a world where we had to hide from certain words or con-traversal topics then we would be hiding from the truth, no one would face their problems head on and alot of people would suffer. :-) 



Lmao two thumbs up


I signed up to this site for healthy advise on eating habits and I didn't find it in this article. I do not have an ED and yet I can see the triggers and poor advice everywhere. Putting up pictures of how you want to be - I can't see how that can be healthy for anyone. Wouldn't it just make you feel badly that you aren't at that goal? And for some those images are definately not a healthy reality for them. A good friend of mine honestly thinks that a size 2 is her fat clothes. :(

I do not ditch the title or tag line because it made me go ...whoa! What are they talking about?? and made me read the article. But I do believe the article (other than purging negativity) is full of poor advice for anyone with any type of weight issue.



I agree the title in the e-mail may have been a bit to much but this article is really great. I realize some of you struggle a-lot with ED's but this may be one of those things you need to overcome. Words are only words and they shouldn't have the power to control you or throw you into an episode. Maybe try some of the ideas in this article and it will help you?



It's in poor taste.  Just as mass media tries to sensationalize with attention getting headlines and news,I believe it obvious that this article purposefully chose the word "purge" to be controversial,   I also feel it is inappropriate for this web site and is below the charachter of what this site professes to want to be about.   CC Editors - you messed up.



I think the problem was the e-mail title... 'When Purging Is Recommended'. Although to be fair, what are the chances that CC would send an e-mail telling when you are allowed to throw up? Purging doesn't mean just one thing. I know that, and English isn't even my first language...



To all the negative postings about this article, Get over it! People take things so personal! It is very clear what kind of "purging" she means. And if you are upset and think the language is "triggering" then CC shouldn't put articles about food because that triggers me to want to eat!



Completely agree with those who disapprove of this article. I am recovering from an eating disorder myself and was absolutely shocked to see that title and the story itself. Those of you who are in the same boat with me ans are struggling with eating disorders - close this particular window on the screen and never even consider what was said here.



Get  grip everyone.  Being over sensitive is all part of addictive behavior.  So the title could have better served many here.  I for one opened the email, saw the picture of the closet and knew immediately what the message was.  I am a compulsive overeater and a sugar addict.  Do I stop watching TV because the commercials can trigger me?   Do I stop going to the grocery store because seeing boxes of cookies triggers me?  CC is a free service.  The information I have gotten here far exceeds the cost of my time to read it.  If you really do not like their approach there are lots of other website services to join.



It's getting annoying that people accuse some of us of being over-sensitive to this subject! Well, spend ten years of your life fighting with food obsession and then start accusing me (and others) in overreacting. Hell yea I am sensitive to the subject!



Ok lets look at this article from a different persective. To purge means to rid urself from impurities , i think the author here is trying to get u to understand that the problem isnt u specifically, that we as a whole have bought into the lies about ourselves that either someone else has planted in us or we have created ourselves. And those very thoughts are self destructive towards goals and is connected to who we are. Its a very good topic and should be explored in a more biblical sense. Its all connected ur spiritual life, mind,body, quality of life has to do with how u think not how much u have or dont have, u can have a great life right where u are where ever you are.


I have just "purged" some people from my life that were not good for me. I like the word purge because it means "rid yourself of something bad or impure." If this title or word triggered you, I think it may be a wake up call that you need to reach out and get more support for your illness. We do live in the real world and every article may not suit you but it does help others.



I understand where the first comment is coming from - being upset about the language of this article. I have to admit, I opened this email thinking it was going to somehow be an article about what you can safely throw up - like for food poisoning or something... (I didn't think CC would actually put a pro 'bulimia' article up here...)

But I think that those who are offended by this need to calm down a little. If you are recovering from bulimia, then facing things like these stupid little puns should be on your to-do list. The road to recovery is different for everyone, right? I'm not a doctor but I'd like to think nothing's fully healed until you can be reminded of it but not react strongly to it



If you have a negative reaction to this article does it affect ur mood for the remainder of the day? Do you use things like this as excuses for treating others poorly? Well its the dam articles fault im moody today! Sound like something you might say? Or reference back to? Negative thoughts produce negative lives, we all have negative thoughts doesnt mean we are bad people we just need to replace those thoughts with positive ones , i challenge u to find a positive in every preceived bad situation, they exist, their just not what ur main focus is on.


 

I do no t have an ED- but I have purged a small handfu of times in the past decades, just to relive that overly full feeling after eating too big a meal...

hence, I actually thought that the article would be about acceptable times to "make oneself" purge

 

 



So for people who are offended go look up a dictionary and read up on purging. Results?

  • - get rid of opponents: to remove opponents or people considered undesirable from a state or organization
  • - remove something undesirable: to get rid of something undesirable, impure, or imperfect
  • - free somebody from guilt or sin: to make somebody or something pure and free from guilt, sin, or defilement

So I'm sorry if no where do I see "CC wants you to throw up into a toliet" listed in that category. 



Original Post by: juliakaypierce

I think it was the titile of the E-MAIL that is offensive- NOT the artical itself. As stated above, the word "purge" doesn't mean "eating disorder." I think it was the title of the e-mail that triggered all this controversy, as that is what we saw initially and got us all on the eating disorder train of thought. The article has some really good points, and doesn't refer to eating disorders.

SO... bad marketing/catch phrase in the e-mail. Good title and information in the actual article itself.

Breath people, just breathe :)


I agree 100% with this comment.  But I do have to say that a sentence made at the beginning of the article was a bit disturbing I thought - "As you purge, you will gain better control over your environment and move forward with a new confidence."

Other than those two things, the article was good.  However, I do agree with some that are upset about this - but it's too late now - the emails have been sent. 

The title of the article is fine and the overall content is good.  But I do agree CC should have chosen another email Subject.  I'm sure the author may also agree the use of the word "purge" may not have been the best choice of words given the intended audience.

By the way - we all make mistakes!!!  Prior to trashing CC and removing yourself as a member, you stone-throwers should ask yourself if you've ever made a mistake. 

 



Thanks for this article. It is just what I needed and wanted to hear. I am sorry some found it offensive and I am empathetic for their concerns. For me, this was inspiring.



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