question for girls

short, sweet, and to the point. what do you girls look for in a guy.

ah I'm about to sound so cliche haha.

But above all, he has to be nice. Bad boys are actually bad, & I'm to the point where they don't even interest me anymore.
I'm talking about guys that will open the door for you, call you just to say goodnight, etc. Yes, they're few & far between these days, but I keep hope alive haha.

Also, he has to have at least a little sense of humor. yet know when to be serious. just balanced.

Obviously shared interests are a good thing too.

personally i look for someone with similar interests, or at least compatible interests. so for me the "perfect" guy has an interest in art and music. i'm not saying he has to like exactly what i like, but yeah.

i am actually into the "bad boy" thing :) i like boys with manners to an extent, but the calling to say goodnight and giving you roses thing annoys me, probably because i am a very un-romantic person hah.

i find smartness extremely hot. ;)

initially looks and weight DO matter, but i have had crushes on several boys who weren't cute and/or fit just because i liked their personalities so much.

I want respect and trust.  I would also be lying if I said that looks were not important.  But not like they are to a guy.  I am willing to overlook alot for the right personality... Just not bad teeth.. I have a thing about teeth.. they have to be clean!  Also I wanna laugh, but not with embarrassment.  I just want to be trusted when I go out with the girls, and to be respected.  Treat me the way I want to be treated. 

Original Post by ewwxroflzz:

i find smartness extremely hot. ;)

Oh hell yeah!  I've always been a sucker for really smart guys.

In addition to that, I need a guy to have a sense of humor. 

All I require is that he isn't a blatant you-know-what.

Hmm.. Considering I wasn't looking for a guy when I found one, I'm having a hard time thinking of this.  I look for a guy who can pay attention to little details.  Not necessarily one that can tell me the colour of my eyes or something, but one that can remember a minute thing, like the only time I ever mentioned my middle name even if it was weeks ago.

I look for someone with:

-manners, politeness

-an interest in learning new things/curiosity about the world

-goals and dreams of his own

-a sense of loyalty

I have to admit, looks are what first attracts me to a guy. After that, he just has to be nice and funny. Very cliche, I know, but I find that one doesn't work without the other and those are the only two qualities that are a definite must for me.

There has to be some sort of initial physical attraction first (usually). For me, I like a guy who, like ewwxrolfzz said, has at lieast similar/compatible interests. I'm really into art/music/travel so finding someone interested in those things as well helps. Personality is really important and I need a guy who has goals in life because I'm not going to be supporting him... he has to pull his weight (if it gets to the point of marriage) haha.

In terms of looks, I'm pretty open minded and like a wide range of guys from Asian to Moroccan, etc.

There has to be an initial attraction, but beyond that it's brains that are more sexy than looks. Also he's got to have his life together (career, emotionally stable, financially stable) and be outgoing, confident and active with a positive attitude. Weight isn't an issue as long as he has a drive to be active outdoors. And he's gotta seem like he would be a good dad who would actually want to be involved with his kids.

Original Post by alibuch:

There has to be some sort of initial physical attraction first (usually). For me, I like a guy who, like ewwxrolfzz said, has at lieast similar/compatible interests. I'm really into art/music/travel so finding someone interested in those things as well helps. Personality is really important and I need a guy who has goals in life because I'm not going to be supporting him... he has to pull his weight (if it gets to the point of marriage) haha.

I agree with all of that. I also love men who dress well, ratty looking guys are usually a turn-off unless its like Johnny Depp-esque. But one of the most important things for me is finding someone that I just click with, which isn't something guys can teach themselves. I have friends that I'm just not as compatible with, whereas with other good friends I could just talk and talk and talk, we're pretty much never bored when we're together.

Aside from the usual, smart, nice, loyal, honest, etc. qualities that you usually hear, humor is really important also. Nothing is more attractive than a guy who can make me laugh.

VITAL ORGANS

First and foremost, someone on a level playing field with me, intellectually speaking.  This leads to lots of clever and interesting conversation.  Which is hot.  Similar interests are good, but it's also just really great when a guy has interests that they are passionate about, or are maybe a little different than average (read: a subscription to motor trend seems boring, in my mind).  And of course, they have to be able to get my out-of-left field sense of humour. 

as far as looks are concerned, I like clean, healthy types.  No Adonis required, but some attempt at being healthy.  Bonus if they are strong enough to pick me up. 

I agree with starcrossdlovex. Guys act like being nice is going out of style or something. Being nice doesn't mean having no testosterone or being walked on by other people. It just means treating a girl with respect. Calling a girl up doesn't mean that you are weak or sound desperate--it means you sound interested. This one kills me.

Otherwise, I need a guy who has confidence. I'm not very confident in myself, so I need someone who is comfortable in their own shoes. Humor and intelligence are good factors. As far as the looks department goes, just take care of themself. This means basic hygeine (brushed teeth, showered, washed hair, decently clean clothes, somewhat in shape).

LOL@ Schnooder :)

Intelligence, things in common (i.e music is a biggie), whether we get along/can talk easily, 'niceness', ability to make me laugh, etc!

if i like a guy it doesn't really matter what he looks like.. but eyes and a nice smile are a definite winner. oh yeah and a tiny bit of stubble doesn't hurt sometimes :D

Its funny to consider what a female was attracted by as a girl versus as a woman.

Chemistry and physical attraction are undeniable but can be short lived without compatibility. 

Self confidence is definitely in the running at almost age.  This can range from almost arrogance to an introverted self respect and different females are attracted to it at different levels. 

*jots down notes*

You wanted Short and to the point:

* Likes to read.

* Funny, Not That depressed.

* Isn't obsessed about talking about "How sexy a girl Is"  But rather just acts in a comfortable way with me or anyone.

* Long Hair looks really awesome just by the way.

*Oh ya like Rock/ Israeli music  =)

Someone who is fun, likes being outdoors, has goals, and is tall.

I also hate it when a guy wants to be around you 24/7 and relies on you to make him happy.  I have a life, my guy should have one too!