quick I need advice right away!!!!

Here's the deal I met a really really great guy. The first time I saw him I knew I was in trouble. He is my cousines friend and I met him when I was visiting them. The thing is now I'm back home and he will be leaving on monday back home to europe. I cannot stop thinking about him. I don't know what is wrong with me. When I would talk with him the whole world melted away two hours felt like nothing there was never enough time. We have been e-mailing and I know he likes me just I don't know to what extent. Because I was shy and well maybe sort of put it that I was not pining after him. The night before I left I did not have sex with hime but we kissed and he sort of got very friendly with me. The next day on the plane I cryed soo much because I felt like I gave him too much and now he would think I'm easy adn never want to see me again. But we e-mailed each other and everythings on friendly terms. I don't want to scare him and have him think I'm some psycho But somehow I have to hear his voice and want him to know how much I really do care for him. This e-mail I want to send tonight but is it worth it?

I like you way more than I let on . And I would really like to see you again soon. I know we are friends and do not want to make anything weird out of this...But a year really does seem way to long to wait. It's really okay with me if you don't feel the same way but I just want to know for sure. You know I do tend too get a little over emotional but I also get over things pretty quickly. Sorry I had to be such a **** about this but well better late than never. I feel so stupid.

Ages?

19 and 21

please someone!!!

I wouldn't be so straight forward, at least not like that...but that is just me.

I would keep the emails going, and the more you get to know each other, the more you can let on that you like him more and more.

Also, if you do send it....leave out the getting emotional part, and the sorry I had to be such a **** (whatever that was, it isn't good) and dont say you feel stupid!!!

Agreed.  Take it easy.  You don't want to spook him.  Be subtle, it's sexy.

okay so I should just keep the friendship correspondence up right just chat and kind of see where everything goes?

Yes.  In a few weeks time you can say something like, "so, when am I gonna see you again."

Right what your saying sounds really good thank you but maybe I already ruined it.....

Okay I'll never say neber
Hmmm than maybe you should call me now boy
But guess what I did today?
I walked my ass down to the shopping center near my house
and picked up a job application.

that was the last e-mail exchanged from me. And he has not written back yet this was last night... should I be worried?

 

Don't worry. Maybe he is busy/didn't get it/tired....who knows. Don't always assume the worst, and take a deep breath!

:)

OH my gosh I know I really should relax... But I feel like a wreck kinda! This is the first guy ever that I have liked sooo much. Gosh I wish I had said something when the time was right I had chances too... but I guess I'm stupid. And now I have such a deep regret that it aches!

And he does not reply again? Should I just write him anyways?

Maybe you should give it a couple of days just to let him respond.

I agree with okidoll. Give it time.

Oh yes thats what I mean like a few days and no response so then I should write. I hope I did'nt scare him off already, I have to be more patient but it's so hard!

Yesterday you said you wrote it "last night" - it's only been a little over a day, not a couple of days.  I know it seems like AGES but the worst thing you can do is bombard him with emails before he responds.

If he's interested and just hasn't had a chance to check his email, when he logs on he'll get like 4 emails from you saying something like "omg I'm so sorry I scared you off didn't I?" and he's going to get a worst impression of you.

If he's not interested in you, there is NOTHING that you can write in an email that will change his mind.  All you can do is make it worse if you keep writing before he responds.

Take a deep breath, relax, and although I know it's hard to not think about it, get yourself out of the house and stay out all day.  Go shopping, go for lunch with a friend, go to a movie, and don't check your email again until the evening.

The more obsessed you become about it, the more that's going to show up in your email, and the more warning bells are going to go off in his head.

Why do you need to know how he feels right away?  Let it evolve, keep chatting.  There's no rush to make things official right away.  If he likes you, he's not going to stop liking you just cuz you didn't ask him how he feels one day after you're apart.

I hope I don't sound too harsh, but trust me, I've been in your same position, and have completly ruined more then one possible relationship by my overzealousness lol.

Oh my God thank you soo much for that! That is exsactly what I needed to hear! Thank the gods I did NOT send that e-mail! You know I do not want to become obsessed. I really like this guy and will not scare him off. Jeeze how desperate am I? Thanks so much everyone for the advice it has really helped me out!