rant city!!

right so a very close relation of mine was helping me pick some clothes for my holiday....so im trying on different stuff i bought last summer...blah blah....and im changing and she says i really dont know how u got them stretch marks with a disgusted face......(have them on like my sides where hips are....i figure i got then cos hips grew super fast...i have never lost a drastic amount of weight to get them so......thats what i guess there from)......dunno that kinda pissed me off......

Aaaanyway...so i carried on trying stuff on.....and the next thing i try on is one of her tops....and she sez ooo i dnt think that suites u....dnt get me wrong but i think ud have to be thin to wear it......

then she puts it on and shes like.....ooo its actually ok on me.....

anyway the thing that pissed me off was pointing out things that i cant do anything about like the stretch marks.....like i  know there **** there u dont have to point it out....and to be honest kinda never thought of them that much....but now thats she sed im so conscious now.....

is it weird that im upset about it....??.....feel like crap....now im thinking im just a bit sensitive...

Your close relation is obviously a dope who has no sense about what is appropriate to say when someone is trying on clothes, especially for an upcoming holiday.

Possibly she is jealous of you so she wanted to make you feel bad, thereby making herself feel good.  

I don't think you're being oversensitive but I also would advise you not to dwell on what she said.  

I've got stretch marks on my hips too. I don't know where they came from, I think just from a growth spurt or something. I have weighed probably up to 25lbs more than I do now at some point over the past 8 years but I've had them for as long as I can remember. Other than my bf, no one has commented, and he was only asking out of curiosity, but this is only because I haven't worn anything that shows them off. They don't bother me, but after I've lost some more weight and be a bit more confident with clothes, if they start to bother me, I'm going to try that Bio Oil stuff. It's supposed to be good but I don't know how long it takes to notice a fade.

But no, I don't think you should feel weird to be upset, I would have been! I'm sure she would have been upset if the tables were turned and you had made a comment about her.

Ignore her, get your favourite summer clothes packed and enjoy your holiday :) If she says anything again, tell her that her comments aren't appriciated and to keep them to herself in future.

id be pissed too. what a beeyatch.

so i was ignoring her today and  she asked why and i told her.....

she was just like it was just an observation....yeh so im just gonna keep on ignoring her!....

thanks guys for the reassurance...i was doing the second guessing myself thing,thinking i was just being sensitive........

haha glad shes not on holiday with me!

just an observation????? thats rather flip.

I don't think a friend would try and act that way.

Well, this is another perspective. I came across some pictures a couple of years back when I didn't care that much and I couldn't believe what I wore. Unflattering, muffintopping tight stuffs. In retrospect, I wish someone around me had told me that "hey, you are wearing a size too small" or "I don't think that looks flattering."

Your friend wasn't exactly tactful and I myself can't think of any smart tactful way to tell that to a friend of mine if it wasn't flattering on her. I just tell them something else is cute on her, so that I don't have to directly tell her that it's not great on her..

She sounds like she's trying to be competitive and hurtful.

Or she's incredibly dense to other's feelings.