Rant!!

Why is it that as soon as anyone here mentions eating disorders that the thread is instantly closed without giving the op a chance to defend themselves.

Eating disorders a mental illnesses, for those of us who are struggeling, trying very hard to recover but finding that process very hard, sometimes we post questions that may seem stupid or frustating to others. I am so sick of being silenced when i need support just as much as anyone else here.

I have constantly in my posts made it clear that i am receiving treatment, that i am actively trying to recover but its not something that happens overnight. So when i post something and get told by another member that i need to be eating such and such, and i say why doing so is hard for me, why is it the post is automatically closed.

I posted here becuase i needed support, i am struggeling with a restrictive eating disorder and have been diagnosed as such. I get told by someone who is not a professional that i have binge eating disorder and must follow these steps to get better. Unhelpful.

I imagine that this post will be closed right away, however i feel that i should have been given the chance to defend myself. I did not post anything promoting my behaviour in fact i made it clear that i know i am sick, that my behaviours are dangerous, that i am getting treatment, that i am doing my best to survive and recover. My psot gets closed. Where is it exactly that someone is supposed to go and get support when every other site is geared towards promoting eating disorders, something that i am against, something that is unhelpful.

I need support just as anyone else here does, just because i cant reply to statements such as "you need to eat 12oo cals" with ok im guna go do that right now. Thats not realistic, so why do other here expect it to be.

When someone has struggeled for a long time with restrictive eating behaviour, when someone is diagnosed with anorexia, how is it that mods here expect immediate action to there posts.

Im so angry at this, but you know what go ahead and close this post too because its clear you dont want to read anything that goes against your beliefs, views whatever. How can what i posted be viewed as promoting a mental illness, when i made it clear that i wasnt.

I don't really have anything to say but...

*supportive e-hug* =)

Try posting in your journal which is subject to your moderation.

As I posted previously on your other thread which has a lot of resources for you to read through should you choose to:

While we have offered you lots of advice already you are posting that you cannot take that advice.  There is clearly a limit to how this website can help. You need to listen to your treatment team.  CC cannot help you on this matter if you actively continue to restrict your calories or continue to binge/purge.

I do understand how frustrating it is to read a post that seems as though the op isnt taking advice. I did take the advice posted yesterday. I am making small goals for myself, sometimes i just need reasurance. I know that online isnt the best place to be seeking that however right now thats all i have.

I did reach out for help IRL yesterday after reading the replys, isnt that positive?

Im not actively trying to restrict calories, i am trying very hard to increase them but im constantly fighting the ed voice in my head to allow myself to do that. Thats why i posted yesterday, i needed to hear that it was ok to do something the voice didnt want.

I understand that CC isnt equiped to really help, i understand there is a limit, but sometimes jsut reading what was written to me yesterday is enough to help me make that step. Its all small steps.

I wasnt given a chance to add anything more to my post that i wrote yesterday before it was closed to say that i had in fact late in the day been able to take some positive steps and take some of the advice given to me.

So thank you for those who did reply. You know change doesnt happen right away.

kayeanne,

we do understand your frustrations.  We really do.  Please believe that it's nothing against you, personally.  CC is, first and foremost, a site that supports healthy eating habits.  We have to stick to guidelines that support only those behaviors.

smwhipple brought up an excellent point.  If you slip, or need to post about the udereating or any other ED habits, please feel free to post it in your journal.  Journals are not moderated by anyone but you, and you can feel free to discuss anything you want there with your friends here without worrying about having it locked.

Please still feel free to post on the forums as long as you keep it within the posting guidelines, and I promise that the people here will help you in any way they can.

I understand your frustrations as well. If you ever need someone to talk to, post in your journal... I'll add you as a buddy and keep an eye out. Kudos for getting treatment for your ed! It takes a strong person to realize they have a problem and admit it.