*RANT* Sometimes, I just want to hit people...

Grrr...

My sister has been losing weight since the beginning of this year, before I was really ready to take my weight loss journey. And I am happy for her, but she can be so insensitive sometimes...

Today, she says she's lost a total of 50 pounds, I didn't ask or anything, she was just happy and excited. I told her congrats, good job, and all that, but she kept going on and on and on. She then said that she lost 8 pounds last night while she was working. Yeah, ok... I told her that it was water weight, but she didn't believe me (or care).

Every time she saw me after that was "I lost 50 pounds! I lost 50 pounds!", until I had to tell her "Yeah, you told me that five times already." We write our weights on the calender, so she knows where I am at, and she watches me measure and weight out all my food. She starts telling me how she's not watching her diet, eating potato chips all the time, and I'm getting pretty irritated about this. I'm working my tail off, sticking single-mindedly to the task of eating healthy and losing weight, and she's telling me I don't have to. I can eat what I want to, you know? I should go eat pizza with her to celebrate her weight loss.

WTH? She knows I won't do it. I swear she's trying to sabotage my efforts, and it wouldn't be the first time. My sister is very competitive with me, and she's been known to play some pretty underhanded moves on me to get the upper hand before.

Now I am truly happy for her. She deserves to be happy with herself. But I am only human, and her incessant talking about it is getting on my nerves. And 8 pounds in a single night? Please.

Sorry, I had to get it out of my system.

I think we all know she's talking BS but just let it go in one ear and straight out the other and concentrate on yourself.

If she is so adamant she can eat what she likes just offer her junkfood all the time and wait and see how long it takes for her to start putting the weight back on.

Hi Skaiya, just relax, its clear that ur sister is trying to sabotage ur weight loss plan , well, if u allow her to have her way( i mean if u eat pizza and junk food as she wants u to eat) trust me she will be first one to say how people should have will power, how loosing weight requires lot of determination,blah, blah............

just ignore her and carry on with ur plan, once u have reached ur goal weight u too can give ur sister  piece of  ur mind by saying how easy ur weight loss journey was, how u never felt like giving up anything, i m sure it will be a perfect reply on her face. Till then just relax and ignore her, we all r with u ,we all know giivng up the food we love is not easy, finally  we all know how hard u r trying .Best of luck.Just stay focussed.

That is so effin' annoying. Why can't anyone support each other? Why are there always those few that wanna sabotage someone else's efforts? That just irks me. Especially since she is your sister... that's all the more reason to be SUPPORTING you instead of flaunting *false* success. I totally wouldn't doubt that the weight she writes on the calendar is a lie. Are you there with her when she weighs-in?

How frustrating!  My sis is pretty unsupportive as well, but that's because she doesn't want to lose weight and knows she should.

I don't get how your sister has lost 50lbs if she's not really doing anything.  I mean, has she reeally lost all that weight or is it BS?  And if its for real, are you sure she's not throwing up in the bathroom after meals?? (I'm only half-joking about that :-/ Unfortunately bulemia is all-too-common in our society as I found out this year with a friend).

Hope you have better luck.  If its really hindering your progress, I would get your own private calender for writing down your weigh-ins.  I mean, a little healthy competition can be a good thing, but not if the other person has a huge headstart and no qualms about rubbing that in your face.

Wow...your sister sounds like a character...

Take her aside and have a "fierce" conversation with her! Tell her,

LOOK HER IN THE EYE and SAY:

"I really am happy with your weight lost and I want to continue to support you. All I ask is that you reciprocate. For example, when you ask me out to pizza, I feel like you are sabotaging me. You may not mean it that way (even though we know that's what she means but give her the benefit of the doubt) but that's how I take it. Is there another way we can celebrate your accomplishment? Also, when you constantly tell me how much you lost and that you are able to eat junk food and still lose, what exactly are you trying to accomplish? Are you trying to say I am less than because I HAVE TO WATCH what I eat? If so, that really hurts my feelings. And if that's not the case then please explain why you say these things. I am glad we were able to have this discussion and remember I do love you.

Hug her and then walk away....

What do you think? Kill em' with kindness!

Whatever you do, at all costs avoid saying the phrase, "I'm trying to be the bigger person here..."

She will snicker and sneer endlessly.

LOL! Thanks for the replies, it really does make me feel better! I don't know what she's doing to lose weight, but she has lost quite a bit. It's been over a fairly long period of time, so I don't think it's an ed. I just think she's eating less junk food than what she says she is.

I have my own calender that I've been logging my weight on. As sad as it sounds, my dad has been paying us $5 per pound lost, given at 10 pound intervals. It's his idea of positive reinforcement, but he wants us to write it down on the calender we all use. I'm going to ask him if my calender would work alright; I think it will help alleviate some of the competitiveness, or at least make me feel more secure.

And this only makes me want to work harder to lose this extra weight!

Are you sure you're not overreacting a bit?  Your sister hit a major weightloss milestone.  Put yourself in her shoes for a minute.  She is excited about it and wants to celebrate.  She tells you.  You say "yeah, that's great" but she's looking for a bit more support than that.  So she tries again.  Now you're annoyed and she's still not getting the support/celebration she was hoping for.  So, she gives up and suggests it herself.  Instead of redirecting her with a comment along the lines of "how about we find you a great new pair of jeans instead" (or whatever), you blow off her celebration idea.  If the roles were reversed, would you now be posting here about how unsupportive she is in not celebrating your weightloss?

I'm not saying you have to eat pizza (though I suspect half a slice wouldn't exactly kill your diet), but I think it's reasonable for her to want to mark the event somehow.  A special trip?  A great new outfit?  Going out for drinks?  (You can have club soda with lime, if you like)  Anything really.

sometimes I feel like I'm acting like your sister. My mother is quite over weight. I'm on my journey and she isn focusing on eating healthy but not losing weight. I feel bad sometimes when I sahre a goal with her, because I feel like saying "I'm so happy, i'm confident, and have a healthy relationship with food and i've now lost 38 pounds" sounds like i'm gloating. But I'm not, and it seems your sister really is. Maybe you should stop writing your weights on the calendar. You can't lose 8 pounds over night.

Hugs for you. You sister is being a saboteur. A lot of siblings are that way. I understand the desire to smack her, but you handled the situation well enough.