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RaWR!!! dumb stupid fricking butthead stupid...

OH MY GOODNESS I'M SO MAD RIGHT NOW!!! I mean, what the heck is with all these people throwing around the term 'anorexic' like it means nothing???? Prime example: My sister is largish. Like she's not fat or chubby or anything, but she's 5'6 and 150 of muscle with a little bit of fat over it, like a girl is naturally. But in movies and when she sees what she terms as 'popular girls,' she gets all disgusted and is like, 'omg shes SO anorexic.' Then proceeds to pick out that girls most skinny features. RAWR! THIS MAKES ME SO MAD!! Anorexia is a serious mental illness. Just because you are skinny, as in skinny skinny, and watch your weight, DOES NOT MEAN YOURE ANOREXIC. Anorexia is a mental illness, the skinnyness is just a symptom of it. And then when I try to explain that to her, she starts going off at me, infront of friends mind you, about how I don't know what I'm talking about. I KNOW SO MUCH MORE ABOUT HEALTH THAN SHE DOES AND SHE STARTS SAYING THAT I'M UNHEALTHY, AND IF THATS SO THAN WHY AM I SO UNHEALTHY. OMGOMGOMGOMGOMG!!! I'M SO MAD. RAWR!!!!!!!! And another thing. I WAS anorexic; I was hospitalized for it when I was ten. I experienced it FIRST HAND and she's telling me I don't know what I'm talking about??? AHHH I COULDA SLAPPED HER!

sorry for the rant.

You rant a lot.  Is everything okay?  Why do you let other people affect your mood so intensely?

Chill B

I have to agree with jewel.  I generally don't post a lot for various reasons, but when I do see one of your threads they are either extremely negative or you are looking for validation for something related to an on going ED.

Maybe this is the time that you should sit down and actually read everything that you have written over time and digest it.  Read it as if you weren't the author; just some random person on CC who just happened to come across it. 

Or if you are unable to do that objectively, perhaps you have someone in your life, a teacher, pastor, or counselor you can speak with that can help you deal with some of these issues that are obviously hurting you very deeply.

Good luck.

When I want to rant, I like to post it in my journal where only the folks who know me at least a bit are likely to see it.  Those folks will either pass it by, commiserate, or give me advice.

I know what you mean.  There are a lot of people who confuse anorexia with being skinny.  Ive just come to accept the fact that some people will just never get it.  People dont realize its an addiction, you cant just start eating junk all day and get better.  It just doesnt work like that. My brother has never commented about my anorexia, but he talks about people with other mental illnesses like depression and calls it a "made up" condition and calls people with depression "crazy." Many people simply dont know how to react to people with mental issues.  I guess the best advice I can give is to calm down first of all, and be the mature person and move on, Try to forget the ignorance of others because the only person you can really control is yourself.

You can't educate people who don't want to learn. If you give someone valid truthful information and they refuse to listen and learn, it is a reflection on them and not you. At some point in their life they may realize what you were saying is true. They may never be able to hear it.

While it is frustrating to watch people actively ignore truthful information, there's not much you can do about it. It is even more frustrating when the ignorant try to make it seem as if the educator is the ignorant person. The best thing to do is to just move on. It isn't worth your time or serenity.

You rant a lot.  Is everything okay?  Why do you let other people affect your mood so intensely?


I agree. You need to learn that you can't control other people. You've had 3-5 threads in the last week or show ranting about specific people. Don't get stressed out over things you can't control... it's not worth it.

Original Post by jewelsmcblah:

You rant a lot.  Is everything okay?  Why do you let other people affect your mood so intensely?

Chill B

 Totally....

Not to split hairs, but FYI:

Anorexia (n) - A medical term that signifies a loss of appetite. A person with anorexia nervosa, however, may not have any loss of appetite and often is preoccupied with food and eating in order to control his or her eating.

Anorexia nervosa (n) - An eating disorder marked by dramatic weight loss coupled with an intense fear of obesity.

Anorexic (adj.) - refers to a person who has lost weight due to a lack of appetite or due to the eating disorder anorexia nervosa

people who get chemotherapy often have anorexia (lack of appetite) but they don't have an eating disorder

words do matter - it's important to use them correctly

You just called your sister 'largish' and she is 5'6" and weighing in at 150lbs.  Check that on the BMI...

Sounds like your sister has a good idea of what a healthy woman should look like, and maybe a tinge of jealousy.  However that is most likely because she has a sister who obsesses about weight/food and calls her 'largish'.

Original Post by r6riderchick:

You just called your sister 'largish' and she is 5'6" and weighing in at 150lbs.  Check that on the BMI...

Sounds like your sister has a good idea of what a healthy woman should look like, and maybe a tinge of jealousy.

I was thinking the same thing. She sounds about perfect to me.

You seem to have the need to control what other people think, say and do.

That's not possible. The only person you can control is YOU. So stop trying to control other people, stop taking things other people say personally, and live your life in a way you can be proud of.

You sister may be 'largish' to you, but why do you feel the need to judge her? Sure, she might be judgmental of others, but why do you need to sink to that level?

It sounds like it goes both ways.  I'm sure her sister is online in a different forum saying the same thing about the poster.  I think it has nothing to do with sinking to 'that' level, they both do it.  Truth is in the post.

Original Post by r6riderchick:

It sounds like it goes both ways. I'm sure her sister is online in a different forum saying the same thing about the poster. I think it has nothing to do with sinking to 'that' level, they both do it. Truth is in the post.

Hence my saying "why would you want to sink to that level?"

They BOTH do it, but she should be able to rise above it. She can't control her sister, but she can control herself.

Agreed.

Sounds very immature on both ends.

 

Let the girl vent in peace.

If she wanted to vent in peace she would have wrote it in a journal.  However she wanted feedback (negative and positive). When writing in an open forum that means you are opening yourself up to ridicule.  Also, if I don't agree with her so called vent then I have the choice to state my opinion or leave it.  My choice is obvious, only because I think she needs to see that their are two sides of the coin.

This thread+her profile+her profile pic make me sorta :/

Educate the ignorant, leave the stupid alone, and learn move on. 

I do not think she is ignorant or stupid.

 

No one said she is.

I'm with Spiro. :/