So I just realized I get paid to have sex

I start work at 6am every day by waking my boss up (as he's apparently incapable of doing this on his own). Now, we're both attracted to each other but can't actually date because of the inevitable opposition all the other folks at work would have to this (did I mention he's the CEO?). So about once a week we end up having sex after I wake him up, and it just occurred to me that since I'm on the clock starting when I get to his place I'm technically being paid to sleep with him.

So... while this pretty clearly makes the both of us just a touch unethical, I don't feel like I'm a prostitute because I'm enjoying it just as much as him and there's certainly no requirement (spoken or implied) that I do this.

Any thoughts? Should I just take my act to the streetcorner? I figured an anonymous internet forum was the way to go due to the nature of this topic.

Inara (hehe love it), as long as you're okay with it, then there's nothing anyone else should be able to say to shake that foundation.

I wouldn't do it, unless I really loved the guy, simply because it would just feel strange to me. I honestly thought this thread was about a husband/wife team who works from home at first!

 (psssst...it's just not a good idea for the long run...)

I do agree with this statement...on a professional side. For the simple reason if you're looking to move up or around in the company this isn't a good situation to be in.

Edited to add: But the damage is already done :)

Original Post by killerqueen215:

Oh my God...this is why I <3 the internet.

I have nothing to contribute, carry on.

 ditto..

Original Post by inara_jade:

Okay, I guess I didn't really phrase that right.

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with our particular situation. No one's being used or hurt; good times for all. But I know that most people would (and clearly do) see things in a different light, and certainly in many similar situations they would be right. So I know that on paper it looks bad and was just trying to say that my boss really is a decent person. =)

 You are hurting yourself. You will realize this later. I feel bad for you.

Sounds like you are enjoying yourself! However in this age of "sue happy America," I hope you are not one of those ladies setting up your boss for a harassment suite (sp?) to get rich quick. That, to me, is tasteless and awful (unless of course you get fired for refusing to sleep with him anymore, then go sue crazzzzy.)

Have you discussed the possible repercussions of your interations? What if he started dating someone else? How would you feel? Spiteful? How about if you started dating someone? Then what?

 

I'm not worried about the professional side of things. We haven't had any trouble separating it from the personal stuff, and in a few years when I'm done with school I'll be moving on to another line of work entirely.

Nasuoni - haha, wow, I somehow missed how my screen name fit with this topic till just now

Original Post by inara_jade:

I'm not sure where I indicated I don't respect myself, because respect is pretty important to me. I used to be a terrible pushover who couldn't stand up for myself for fear of upsetting people. I eventually realized this behavior only made me feel worse about myself and have actively moved away from that. I also choose to sleep only with people who respect me, because I've met a lot of guys who were interested in sex but would have thought less of me as a person if I actually did sleep with them (and how does that make sense?).

 Listen I don't want to come across as trying to start an argument, but you don't have respect for yourself. Neither does your boss. Neither will anyone else you tell this to (if they understand what it is to respect).

Original Post by rdgatewood:


What does respect have to do with it? This is basically just casual sex...what's wrong with casual sex? 

Nothing is wrong with casual sex. But if you're getting paid for it it's prostitution. 

What's there to say? you're screwing your boss!

Hope you still have a job when if it all ends..............

Not the first gal Friday to sweat the sheets with the company big guy.

*yawns*

Mostly, a boring and predictable 'look at me, I'm so naughty' post.

Original Post by inara_jade:

I'm not worried about the professional side of things. We haven't had any trouble separating it from the personal stuff, and in a few years when I'm done with school I'll be moving on to another line of work entirely.

 A few years?! That's a long time to think that this kind of relationship can sustain or if not sustain, be amicable after it's over. Good luck is all I can write, you'll need it.

Original Post by zimcassy:

Sounds like you are enjoying yourself! However in this age of "sue happy America," I hope you are not one of those ladies setting up your boss for a harassment suite (sp?) to get rich quick. That, to me, is tasteless and awful (unless of course you get fired for refusing to sleep with him anymore, then go sue crazzzzy.)

Have you discussed the possible repercussions of your interations? What if he started dating someone else? How would you feel? Spiteful? How about if you started dating someone? Then what?

 

 Oh I completely agree about those evil, litigious people. Not something I would ever do.

And yes, we've discussed our situation pretty extensively. All I require is that he let me know if he's sleeping with anyone else (safety and all). We've joked about him being my "mistress" (or mr? Is there even an equivalent word for that?) if I got a boyfriend.  Which, just fyi, I would never actually do. I'm into that whole fidelity thing when it comes to relationships

Mmm... everyone is different. If you can screw somebody, knowing that he couldn't care less about you, and still feel good about yourself, then go for it. I personally couldn't do it.

I think some people will understand what I was trying to say in my last post, and others just won't, so there's no need for me to elaborate.

You wanted opinions, and mine are usually wrong, so...

I get paid to have sex with my boss.  LOL  Of course we are married and my job is raising our 6 children and making sure his clothes are washed and supper is on the table.   I have always believed that anytime a woman takes money from a man for whatever reason it may be and has sex with him shes a prostitute.  Marrage just makes us legal prostitutes, regardless of what state you live in.  ;)

 

i'm sorry, inara, but you are really, dangerously naive.

you will find out how much he respects you when you ask something of him, or when you start to infringe on his personal freedom, or when he gets tired of you.

meantime, don't get dishwater hands, okay?

edit: any 36 year old man who needs a sweet young thing to come to his house, wake him up in the morning, make his breakfast and do his laundry, and service him is either on a serious power trip or is trying to compensate for something.  probably both.

Nothing is wrong with casual sex. But if you're getting paid for it it's prostitution. 

I don't think she's getting paid to have sex with him. There's a physical relationship and there's a professional one.

The question is...what would happen if you went to him and said "no more sex"...would you still have a job? If yes, it's not prostitution. 

If you could still DO your job and be professional with him is another matter, and the iffy side to things. He is your boss and I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with your boss....but if you're okay with it, who are we to judge?

*shrug* I guess I just see it differently and am suprised at the prudish attitudes here on cc.

I'm sure if you decide to look for another job; he'll be sure to give you outstanding references.....

rdgatewood, we are people that she asked to judge. She asked quite plainly what we think.

you will find out how much he respects you when you ask something of him, or when you start to infringe on his personal freedom, or when he gets tired of you.

you're assuming that he is taking advantage of her...but what if he isn't? What is your basis that he is taking advantage of her? age? the fact that he's her boss?

What if it really is a consenting relationship between two people?

Now, don't get me wrong...I would never sleep with my boss, but it's because I wouldn't want to jepordize my career. But she's already said that's not a concern to her.

Take out that professional factor and you can discount the fact he's her boss...so now, it's just two people enjoying each other...unless it's the age difference?

so if you don't engage in casual s3x or if you think it's unwise to have s3x with your boss, you're a prude?

*scratches head*