did he reject her?

guys, this is for one of my friends. she knows a guy through one of the dating websites. their first date was great. she told me she is already in love with the man. she likes him very much and feels the attraction. during their first date, he kept holding her hands, he was super nice. they had tea then he asked her if she wanted to go for a walk. he kept touching and kissing and it was very romantic. at the end of the night, he asked her for her number. sounds great right?? she is a very honest person and she is in the US on a short vacation, she told him that she doesn't have enough minutes to talk over the phone ( she has an international number - she is not from the US). so he asked her to email him if she wants.

the following day, she emailed him but he never replied. two days later, she got a very short email from him. here is what he wrote:  

( hope you are well. it was nice meeting you Monday night. have a great Thursday).

what does that mean? she is crying hard. what should she do or say? should she write an email or just delete that guy and forget about him?

I'm a little confused - she's on a short vacation in the US, and in that time, she went on a date with a guy from a dating site.

Is it possible that he hadn't realized she was only going to be around for a short time til she explained about the phone, and so he decided that he'd rather not get any more involved? Some people aren't good at long distance relationships.

yes she went on a date with guy during her vacation. she is in Canada so it is not that far. her online profile says she lives in Canada so he already knows that before the first date.

but what does his email mean? did he reject her?

Nope, he didnt reject her... he is probably just trying to not come on too strong. I would guess he thinks she isnt that interested in him.

Email him back and ask if he wants to do something.

Original Post by safina1:

yes she went on a date with guy during her vacation. she is in Canada so it is not that far. her online profile says she lives in Canada so he already knows that before the first date.

but what does his email mean? did he reject her?

Oh, ok - I was picturing Europe.

I actually agree with lorik - no harm in emailing back and seeing if he's free this weekend.

some people REALLY SUCK at writing emails and don't know what to say.  I wouldn't read that as a definite rejection.  Wait and see how it plays out.  If possible she could try talking by phone to hear his tone and see if it goes better.

but why did he wait two days then he wrote that **** short email? in her email she wrote some nice things like " I miss you". and all what he wrote was " have a nice day".

I don't know. that sounds like a rejection.

Original Post by safina1:

but why did he wait two days then he wrote that **** short email? in her email she wrote some nice things like " I miss you". and all what he wrote was " have a nice day".

I don't know. that sounds like a rejection.

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

Original Post by safina1:

guys, this is for one of my friends. she knows a guy through one of the dating websites. their first date was great. she told me she is already in love with the man. she likes him very much and feels the attraction. during their first date, he kept holding her hands, he was super nice. they had tea then he asked her if she wanted to go for a walk. he kept touching and kissing and it was very romantic. at the end of the night, he asked her for her number. sounds great right?? she is a very honest person and she is in the US on a short vacation, she told him that she doesn't have enough minutes to talk over the phone ( she has an international number - she is not from the US). so he asked her to email him if she wants.

the following day, she emailed him but he never replied. two days later, she got a very short email from him. here is what he wrote:  

( hope you are well. it was nice meeting you Monday night. have a great Thursday).

what does that mean? she is crying hard. what should she do or say? should she write an email or just delete that guy and forget about him?

 She's had one date and she's in "love".

No need to go any further on that one. She lives in fantasy land.

As for his email, it means what it says. "Hope you are well." What more can that mean? It means..Hope you are well.

"It was nice meeting you Monday night." He had a good time on his DATE, not his engagement. One date and she's looking for committment cause she's IN LOVE after all.

"Have a great Thursday." Ummm it was Thursday when he wrote it and wants her to have a good day? Simple.

She gives him her email and says you can email me IF YOU WANT. Well, he did. So what if it were a few days later. "If you want" implies someone has a choice to email you or not. If he had chosen not to email her at all, is she going to be all heartbroken over him making the choice not to email? She is expecting way too much from a total stranger.

His email says that he has a life and she should get one too.

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

 Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once?  She is coming on way too strong.  You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

Original Post by yogagirl6853:

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

 Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once?  She is coming on way too strong.  You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

 sounds to me like she scared the living crap out of the guy. what else did she say in the e-mail? what type of ring she likes and that she picked out names for their first born? she can't be in love with a man she went on one date with. she needs to come on a LOT less strongly if she wants a chance with this guy.

to be honest, it sounds to me like he is just trying to be polite without encouraging her.

Original Post by yogagirl6853:

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

 Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once?  She is coming on way too strong.  You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

 yogagirl. that is what SHE wrote to him. she wrote" miss you already."

:))

I know. she is crazy. I just need to know what to tell her to do now?

Original Post by safina1:

Original Post by yogagirl6853:

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

 Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once?  She is coming on way too strong.  You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

 yogagirl. that is what SHE wrote to him. she wrote" miss you already."

:))

I know. she is crazy. I just need to know what to tell her to do now?

Tell her he's long gone.

Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by yogagirl6853:

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once? She is coming on way too strong. You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

sounds to me like she scared the living crap out of the guy. what else did she say in the e-mail? what type of ring she likes and that she picked out names for their first born? she can't be in love with a man she went on one date with. she needs to come on a LOT less strongly if she wants a chance with this guy.

to be honest, it sounds to me like he is just trying to be polite without encouraging her.

Agreed.  Sounds to me like he didn't want to be totally rude and not reply, but he's not interested.  Whether that's because he didn't have as much fun as she thinks on the date, or she's freaked him out since then is pretty much irrelevant.  In the future, she may want to try not to come on so strong so quickly though.

Original Post by lilsammi23:

Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by yogagirl6853:

Original Post by rosieblue:

 

If someone I'd only been on one date with wrote me an email and said they missed me, I'd be totally freaked out.

Yeah - how can you miss someone if you only met the person once? She is coming on way too strong. You didn't write what SHE wrote to him, but that is what may have scared him.

sounds to me like she scared the living crap out of the guy. what else did she say in the e-mail? what type of ring she likes and that she picked out names for their first born? she can't be in love with a man she went on one date with. she needs to come on a LOT less strongly if she wants a chance with this guy.

to be honest, it sounds to me like he is just trying to be polite without encouraging her.

Agreed.  Sounds to me like he didn't want to be totally rude and not reply, but he's not interested.  Whether that's because he didn't have as much fun as she thinks on the date, or she's freaked him out since then is pretty much irrelevant.  In the future, she may want to try not to come on so strong so quickly though.

Mhm. " He's just not that into you. "  The harsh truth is he probably started out into her though. :)  Try try again differently. That would be my advice to your dear friend. The initial interest was set aside when she acted strangely,imo. It sounds like she made things awkward all on her own... She's rejected herself by trying to sell herself to him too soon. Some women do not attempt to hook a man in one date. She needs to learn to contain her emotions much better. It sounds like she's prone to overreacting,imho. She may have been flattered by someone reacting that way towards her. However: Some people do not see it as flattery at all. It can come off as desperate/clingy/weird instead.

The way she's reacting towards his email is equally disturbing/off setting.imo

I'm female...However: I'd run/distance myself from your friend too.

btw: Kissing/holding hands/sex/exchange of numbers-info/etc doesn't equal love for everyone. It doesn't even mean that they have long-term interest.

Or:  Even date two interest for that matter. :(

the thing is she is out of a bad divorce and I think her emotions are not stable. I don't believe she is in love with that man but I don't really know what to say to her now. his email is not really clear. like some ccers said what he wrote does NOT mean a rejection.

the way I see it. he should be straight forward with her. his email is really confusing.  

did he reject her?

Um, Yes.

Original Post by safina1:

the thing is she is out of a bad divorce and I think her emotions are not stable. I don't believe she is in love with that man but I don't really know what to say to her now. his email is not really clear. like some ccers said what he wrote does NOT mean a rejection.

the way I see it. he should be straight forward with her. his email is really confusing.  

His email is pretty straightforward.  She ain't gonna hear from him again.

Oh, Bagga. I feel sorry for her. poor girl.

Original Post by rosieblue:

Original Post by safina1:

the thing is she is out of a bad divorce and I think her emotions are not stable. I don't believe she is in love with that man but I don't really know what to say to her now. his email is not really clear. like some ccers said what he wrote does NOT mean a rejection.

the way I see it. he should be straight forward with her. his email is really confusing.  

His email is pretty straightforward.  She ain't gonna hear from him again.

 but they are friends on facebook. ?? and oh I forgot to mention that he GAVE HER his cell number at the end of their first date ( I don't really remember maybe in one of his emails). what does that mean really??

Well, he probably had a nice time, and was willing to see her again at the end of the date, but after receiving an email that says "I miss you already" after one date probably scared the crap out of him freaked him out a little bit.