the relationship demotivator

I've become guilty of slumping into a "content in a relationship" frame of mind and lost all signs of motivation.

I still exercise (walk 5 miles a day and run 20 mins 2x a week ish) but when I run these days, I just dont seem to have the same gusto, pace and stamina as before when singledom was spurring me on like a mad woman!

Some might criticise that as a motive but, yeah, I'll admit, I was running like mad because it was what I felt I needed to do to be more attractive etc and to feel better about myself to find someone.

The running filled a big gap in my life...

But the question now is:

how do I regain some get up and grrr if my main source of motivation no longer works?

What else can I use to help me get my ass up and off the sofa?

I thought about entering another 10km as I'm quite competitive and like to do things for charities but I just cant be bothered! Ha ha.

Sometimes if I'm angry at myself or stressed at work, I find I can put in a good run, but I'm not going to make myself stressed just to get a good workout.

What else do people use to help motivate themselves?

I have jokingly told my BF he has to remind me my ass will get bigger and wobbly or else I wont do anything about it but he said he would probably like me if I had more fat on me!! No help whatsoever LOL.

any way you and your partner could go to the gym together & motivate each other, not to lose weight, but to be healthy & something you could do together? does your partner run? could u train for a race together?

i got "comfy" in my relationship and gained all sorts of weight due to that and other reasons. Trust me, it sucks to get to the point where you go "o crap, I hate how i look" and now have a lot of work to do to get back to wehre you were before. Definitely make sure you maintain your fitness. It's easier to maintain it than to get back to where you were.

Your BF sounds really sweet. :)  But... yeah, I don't have any fool proof methods for staying motivated, other than to get on the scale every day and just monitor my habits so I never have to go through any big weight loss again. It's so easy to lapse into complacency. Could it be that you're just bored and sick of the kinds of activity you are doing? Maybe the two of you could go ice skating together or something? I recently started doing that and it's so much fun. Maybe you can take a belly dance or an Irish step dancing class or something like that. Maybe you're just sick and tired of running.

Thank you all for your inputs : )

My bf works abroad so when he's back (every 3 months) we both probably treat it as an excuse to indulge.  He's very fit and I really enjoy having someone to keep up with when he is home.  We hill walk, go to the gym and run sometimes.  I get very competitive with him but he is just a machine and will go all day!

Having said all of that, yesterday I had a really good run. 

I may not have the drive to run 5-6 times a week any more, but perhaps 2-3 a week will mean quality not quantity.

ktcort13 - yeah, I'm going to try to maintain my fitness, but I do miss the single days of being able to run up hill or for a good 3-4 miles without even raising a sweat!

But then again, during that phase of my life I was a running bore and would have rather gone for a run than spend time with my friends and they noticed!  So maybe I can try and find the best of both worlds.  Compromise on OTT fitness and have a life.
 thanks again