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You've got basically two choices.  You can stop the behaviour or you can carry on as you are.... 

You can't really blame your parents for being concerned or not saying absolutely the 'right thing' any more than you can blame them for the inital problem.   They're only human and, fundamentally, that over-protection is the price you pay for 6 years of an eating disorder.  You can't keep blaming them for you carrying on in the same vein... that's just making excuses.  Neither can you blame your lack of social life on the idea that others talk about food and weight.... normal people talk about food.   Gaining or losing weight to spite your family is only shooting yourself in the foot.  They're not dying... you are.

Just because you didn't hit it off with one health professional doesn't mean that all health professionals would be the same.  They certainly wouldn't think you were 'disgusting' any more than they'd think someone with paranoid schizophrenia was 'crazy' or someone with clinical depression was 'a bit down in the dumps'.  'Disgusting' is your own description, not theirs.

Carrying on as you are is not an option and, at 19, you're an adult and should be able to take charge of your own health in a mature and responsible way.  So see a different doctor, see more therapists, see dieticians or be admitted to a hospital if that's appropriate.  But own the problem, accept you need help, or you'll end up more and more sick..... or worse.

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Hey! Im a 19 year old girl who has gone though the same thing down to spending almost 1000 dollars in one month on food. Finally Im on the up hill. You cant blame anyone, its the disease talking and controlling you. Bulimia and Anorexia is an addiction and a disease. I was dealing with mine since i was 14 it would be an occasional thing then my sr year in high school it elevated by my freshman year in college it was out of control. This is my second year of college and I finally admitted that i have this disease and finally am taking steps to get over it. THat is what you have to do .... admit that you have this problem. I never realized how much weight came off my shoulder when i did. THen i Admitted it to my family.( which btw back in june when i was my smallest at 120lb,which i was bones, made me eat or i would get kicked out. that was the worst thing in my life bc i was not ready to give it up yet)

One thing you can do is go to your family doctor after you admit it to yourself that you have this problem and try to get on an antidepressant. they actually help with anorxic and bulimic  suffers. I finally went on one last week and i notice a big difference. Also the medication that im on also helps you lose weight and helps so your not consumed by thinking about food 24/7. it has not gone away but it allows me to think about school instead of how im not in the gym.

as for me the binging is still something i think about BUT i feel like i can eat and not HAVE to do it. Lets jsut say it makes you feel different. This may sound silly to anyone who doesnt have this problem but last night i ate a piece of pizza and a salad and kept it down. it was a big thing for me.

Please feel free to contact me. I would love to help you though this ...maybe we can help each other.

btw my profile pic was right before my bulimia got out of control.

Terrymayy, I agree with gi-jane. You have to take control of your life. People will always say something you don't like and they will go away blissfully unaware of the damage they cause. It remains entirely up to you to see that you rise above such thoughtless comments, whether you will let it affect you or let it roll over. Don't engage in battles that don't have any spoils. At 19, you ought to be living your life to the full not running around being upset about what people say or don't say. You got absolutely nothing to prove to anyone except to yourself; that you love yourself that much, you are willing to do what it takes to keep yourself healthy. You can't pray for discipline, it is exercised and you have to be willing to do what it takes. Its only one life you got... and if you value it, you have to be a better steward. For as long as you are blaming someone for the mess you are in, you won't make any progress and are living in denial. They are not the ones eating that food, they don't shove it down your throat. You do that by yourself and for that matter, the resolution to live better is still individual.

You become what you *decide* to be treated like.

From 19 to about 25 there is a lot that changes: you move away from "I reject my family and it's their fault." towards "I am me. My family is what it is. I accept their limitations and needs but I don't cater to them when it could harm me."

Not to brush away the toxic ball of interactions you have, but it could give you a focal point for defining yourself as distinct from the family you grew up in.

Draw a line -- that was then this is now. Seeing a professional of your own choosing at 19 is night and day from your experience before.  To get to that separation of family without outright rebellion, or toxic co-dependent, never-ending circular phone conversations you want a professional partner to guide you through the process.

Do our families of origin (as they are called) trigger our dysfunctions? Oh, sure -- a huge chunk of it. But once we're adult we end up having to own it otherwise we can never change it.