Rest and relaxtion is key to weight loss for Mom's too.

Future Mom's need to rest and relax too!
Living healthy before, during and after..it is an easy habit to adopt over a  period of time.  Just take your time.

Start a diary, recording your current status, weight, cravings, exercise routine, problems you are experiencing and I would strongly recommend you get a Blood Pressure Monitor and take your BP and record the systolic, diastolic and beats per minute.(FYI: take three readings in 10 minutes and use the average, any questions contact me).  Do this BP when you think it needs to be done...ie: before and after exercise, before and after eating junk foods etc. etc.   Record baby responses too especially when the baby is starting to kick.  Also record if you are regular..do not allow yourself to become constipated.  Take psyllium husks, if this happens...2 tablespoons before each meal until you get moving again.   If this goes past 35 hours, take a table spoon of castor oil and that will get things moving.  Constipation is bad for your baby because you are recycling toxic poisons thru your blood stream and the baby’s.  This can cause major problems with the developing baby.
Make sure you check your BMI weekly.. go to tools on the home window of caloriecounter.com.  Work with this website and see all the neat things it has.
A pregnant Mom if over 35 will find having babies does not get any easier.  However what you put in your mouth will determine how much weight you will gain. 
Theoretically dieting is easy if it was not for your taste buds you changed as you aged.  Your parents set your taste buds in motion and that could include liking fat, sugar and salt.
But did you that if you ate only small amounts of high nutrient, low fat, low sugar and low salt foods with drinking only water, you would not gain any weight, even without exercise other than walking. 
However many people believe walking is all they need to do. WRONG!!..if they are eating fatty, sugar and salt,  low nutrient foods, they will need to do a lot more.
Most of us know when we are consuming bad things...  So I say..stop it! 
Look for alternatives, low in fat, salt, sugar...take a table spoon of oat meal, psyllium or eat some carrots before each meal with some water..this will help fill you up so you eat less. 
Drink water most of the time..just sipping all day long. Add lemon juice or other sugar free healthy powders.(google for the variety you can find).  Use herbal teas that are recommended for pregnant women...( google this too).
You can maintain a good weight but it requires discipline to retraining of your taste buds...see my journal on retaining taste buds. 
The high nutrient foods you should include are, broccoli, spinach, legumes, celery, lettuce, carrots, turnip, beets, beans....want more: (google good eating habits for pregnant women).

Calorie Counting is a pain when all you want to do is check caloric content of foods.    I joined Jan 2008 and did not start doing the daily menu listing until this year 2009.  It was a lot of work to enter each food item to find out the calorie amounts.  You eat salmon, you have to enter mayo amount separately. So many times a combo of foods will require more than 2 entries for that one item.  Yes it is a pain!  But “no pain no gain” does apply here!
I have done this for over a month and now I can go back and click on days gone by for ideas of what to eat and also make sure I am eating high nutrient rich foods.  I have on several occasions taken out a food, did the calorie count on it and found I cut the serving in half but had a tablespoon of oat meal, psyllium or ate some carrots to kill that hungry feeling and fill my stomach so I do not over eat.  You can do the same...to control that hunger. 

Important: eat slowly, chew each bite at least 5 to 10 times...digestion starts in the mouth and your stomach will not be over worked when it receives the food.  You maybe the last one to finish but your not in a race!!  It is your body, do what is right for it!!
Shrink the stomach:
Have cut veggies and fruits ready to eat when you feel the hunger pains hit.  The stomach will stretch when your over weight and it will take more and more food...proper dieting is “shrinking the stomach”, so you do not need to eat as much to fill up.  When pregnant you will be eating all day long, as many as 6 times..small quantities..high nutrient foods..raw veggies, fruits and sipping water all the time.

Program your brain: stay away from the negative, “accentuate the positive”..start saying "I will", "I can".  Dieting is a mental exercise too.  Consider booking into a yoga course, they have excellent course for pregnant women.  Teach meditation too.   Try it then you know what to do at home...the comfort of having other pregnant women around you is a bonus too.  You will see you are not alone..all women face the same things.  Sometimes baby sitting services are there too.
It is of course your choice..a lot of this is just common sense. 
Feed the hungry habits:
When your hungry do the psyllium, oat meal, eating veggies, fruits, work on a pomegranate, eat a banana, grapes and green apples ...use alternative sweeteners, use mostly honey and some maple syrup for that sweet tooth.
Learn to Relax:
Listen to low volume music.  You may not like it but your  baby loves it!  The baby inside and outside the womb will rest far better.  Avoid the loud modern music..learn to listen to Mozart type music, have it playing in the back ground, when you rest..this also helps the baby develop mentally...I am told, women have smarter babies with this kind of environment, for the baby when in the womb.  Learn how to meditate, connect to your inner self.  You are a great person so communicate with you, via meditation.
There you go..there is so much more too.  So start doing things slowly.  Get out and get some for fresh air each day.  Open your windows in your home and air it out when weather permits.  Try turning off the TV and get your house work done so you can really relax.  This is so important for the baby...remember if your stressed, your baby will too.  Learn how to relax, be around positive people...negative people will drain you and your baby.
March 13th 2009    themassageguy

That is the most patronising thing I've ever read.  Tell you what.... when you've gone through a 9 month pregnancy, watched your feet swell,  had tits blow up like Zeppelins, felt depressed for no reason, thrown up continuously, had chronic heartburn,  been unable to get your hulking form out of the bath-tub, been kept awake by a kicking baby that wants to treat your bladder like a football, fallen asleep in a carpark because you're so exhausted, experienced bouts of thrush, blood-tests, urine tests, doctors shoving their hands where the sun don't shine and been talked down to by 'experts' like you that think they can do the whole thing a WHOLE LOT BETTER.... then you come back Sonny Jim and you let me know.

But until that day, leave us women to manage our own bodies and shove babies out into the world like we've done for the last few millennia.... You'll find we're quite good at it.

"Work on a pomegranate...."  Pathetic.

Original Post by gi-jane:

That is the most patronising thing I've ever read. 

Thanks for saying what we were all thinking.

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And just because I'm feeling really annoyed about this.... It's 'Pregnant Moms Relax'.  Pregnant Mom's Relax means 'the relax belonging to one individual pregnant mom'.... illiterate as well as irritating. 

I am not sure what you found so offensive...the title, "Pregnant Mom's relax"...or what? 

But to me I think there is good sound advice here...I am very sympathetic to the female status before during and after pregnancy.  I try very hard to give new ideas for the women who have to deal with this amazing miracle of new life.

I think if you reread what I say slowly.  Not as an angry women...

You will see I am really concerned and am just trying to help.  I can not please everyone all of the time and I guess your one of those people who will look at things negatively even when they are positive.

The baby inside will only be as good as the Mom outside...it is a hell of responsibility...the Mom must eat right, exercise right and take care of herself. Her husband must also participate and help, give massages, do things with her and the new baby.  It is wonderful being a Father, I cherished that experience with my 4 children and only wish I had more,  but she could not and that was fine with me. 

Women need to relax and remove stress on the baby..relaxing is just not happening enough for everyone.  This world environment does not help either.  So I suggest, prayer or meditation, Yoga, soft music, less TV, socializing with other women in the same position, eating properly etc. etc.

...it is all good common sense.  

Maybe your one of these stressed women who has a very angry streak in her and who does not know, how to relax! 

Try it you will like it. 

I am still annoyed ..... I'm very relaxed, don't worry about that.

One of the worst parts of being pregnant is that every man Jack thinks it's their business to tell you what to do.   First thing we all get from the doctor is a big list of foods we can't eat, drinks we can't drink .... and then we get all kinds of other people that want to interfere and poke their noses in.  Women stop being individuals at this stage and are merely treated by society as 'host incubators' for their unborn child.  We dare sip a glass of champagne in public and suddenly we're getting looks normally reserved for murderers.  Your note was saying we "MUST eat right, exercise right and take care of herself"  Must we?....  Sounds like a threat rather than a suggestion.. Bullying, even.    You were telling us to ignore the fact that we don't like low volume music... our babies love it!!!!  They will be smarter!!!   And so when junior arrives and isn't an intellectual that's our fault of course for not listening to Mozart.

So your little well-meaning instruction manual was just another example of self-appointed experts heaping on the pressure that we women aren't doing it right.   Someone right now, heavily pregnant and enjoying a bar of chocolate reads the part about psyllium husks and feels guilty for not being a good mom.   And that really, really irritates me.

Well, you are giving unsolicited, and (to many of us) irrelevant, advice to a weight loss forum (I mean, couldn't you have at least posted it in Pregnancy and Parenting?)

You include your email address, which implies you would love it if we contacted you and perhaps bought whatever you are selling.

You state that calorie counting is "a pain".... on a calorie counting website??

And everything jane said.

Freedom of speech and opinion is yours.  And what advice you accept is yours too.  

If I can help one person do better, be healthier then I am happy.  I can not please everyone..but this advice in this posting your commenting about was not to you anyway.  

I think you would find me a very considerate man and understand this advice was not directed at you.    I was answering a request made of me by email....that lady appreciated the advice, so much, I thought I would share it.

You take out of it what you want, nothing more..that is what a forum s all about.  I think my 30 plus years of experience gives me an edge.  Many women listen your one who won't..your choice!

BTW: My position is to give advice and support; I am sell nothing...

I just ask "how the health ru"...and then try to help!

Warner

Warren, Please check your mailbox.

Dude....seriously? You gotta be kiddin me.

Gi-jane RULES!

Pregnant Mom's is gone...

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I wish men were capable of carrying a baby for 40 weeks so they'd know what it's really like before they dole out this garbage in the guise of 'advice' to women.  I'm sorry, but most of this is common sense, and we're not so dense that we need a reminder.     

Original Post by gi-jane:

And just because I'm feeling really annoyed about this.... It's 'Pregnant Moms Relax'.  Pregnant Mom's Relax means 'the relax belonging to one individual pregnant mom'.... illiterate as well as irritating. 

 

Note that I somewhat agree the post was a bit ridiculous, but probably well-intended in this guys' mind. I am however gonna point out that GI Jane referred to it as patronising rather than patronizing. LOL! Just had to give in to the urge to point out a "pot and kettle" situation.

My first thought on this post is "Why is this GUY trolling a pregnancy forum and posting this anywho??". Is someone you know pregnant: wife, friend, family... Just odd, I guess.

Original Post by shill:

Original Post by gi-jane:

And just because I'm feeling really annoyed about this.... It's 'Pregnant Moms Relax'.  Pregnant Mom's Relax means 'the relax belonging to one individual pregnant mom'.... illiterate as well as irritating. 

 

Note that I somewhat agree the post was a bit ridiculous, but probably well-intended in this guys' mind. I am however gonna point out that GI Jane referred to it as patronising rather than patronizing. LOL! Just had to give in to the urge to point out a "pot and kettle" situation.

My first thought on this post is "Why is this GUY trolling a pregnancy forum and posting this anywho??". Is someone you know pregnant: wife, friend, family... Just odd, I guess.

Not to go off topic, but I believe GI Jane may not be in the US?  Patronising is the accepted British spelling, so it's not a spelling error.  :)

Hi,

I am that guy, who feels pregnant women need to be careful.  I fathered four children and worked and helped my wife raise these children.  It was wonderful.

When pregnant she did not drink coffee, she stayed away from junk foods, ate high nutrietion foods etc. etc.

But I see a trend in heavy children nowsdays, high increases in asthma, diabetes and heart disease in our youth. And I think some of this starts in the womb.

I check out the parents and it is not hard to see where some of the problems these kids have, is coming from with weight.  The parents are terrible health roll models in many cases...not all mind you...but it is becoming a trend that worries me. 

Now I did post this in the wrong location and it has been transferred to Pregnancy Health section  by the moderator...my mistake.  Sorry.

Yes my intentions were real and I truly respect and care about women.  None of my 4 children are over weight, thank God!  But when I walk through the malls nowadays and see all the over weight children and Mom's too.

..it worries me. 

This is a Forum and I simply put in my thoughts in hopes someone will get there children back on a healthy track in and out of the womb.

Warner

i'm really hoping that in my next pregnancy; I'll be craving physillium husks and beets instead of coleslaw, watermelon, chocolate and pizza...

and...

never take castor oil during pregnancy unless your doc OK's that!!!