Revenge Weight Loss?

Is there anyone who you are looking forward to showing off your "New You" to and rub their nose in it?

Sure, I'm primarily motivated to lose weight for health, longevity, quality of life, yada, yada, yada, but my secret, nasty motivation is that I recently had a falling out with my vain, overweight (but my same old weight) sister and I know that sending her a pic of me all skinny and looking good would KILL her with jealousy!

So, as psychologically messed up as it is, sometimes when I feel like falling off the wagon, I just think of her...LOL!

"Skinny isn't easy; if it would be, my (insert my sister-in-laws name here) would be"

That is my mantra whenever I get tired on the treadmill and want to stop. Aren't I horrible?

I can't help but laugh and feel great about myself because its my sister-in-laws wedding that we have, she joined Weight Watchers, I am doing this.  Since she started in Oct she has lost 20lbs or so and then gained it all back because she quit. Since I started in January, I have lost 34lbs and still going.

Her face is what makes me run 5 more minutes.

I'm horrible.  :)

LMAO!!! I'm so glad I'm not alone!!

I never did it on purpose, but circumstances just led to it.  It was way before I gained all this weight (gained it all after menopause.)  I was going through a terrible divorce, with an extended court battle in another country.  I'd put on about 24 pounds and my ex continually referred to me as a fat slob to anybody in earshot. 

Well, the stress of the situation, having to travel overseas to get my kids back and everything, I just stopped eating.  When I turned up in court he made a total fool of himself because he'd told the judge that I was a lazy, fat pig and was ugly, mean tempered and cruel. 

I showed up looking the best I've ever looked in my life. His jaw dropped and the panel of judges completely changed their minds and decided he was a liar and threatened to charge him with character assination and perjury.  It was really funny and it was one reason I won the fight.  I shot him down, baby!

right now I have no axe to grind - I'm just trying to regain my health.

Definitely!I want to rub my hot bod in those fit, stuck up girls at the gym who can wear sport bras in public. Sigh.... one day... no seriously, I will acually have a jogging competition with them. no lie :)

YES. One of hubbys friends made a comment that I cannot get out of my head and it gets me up in the morning and gets me into the gym.

I am doing it right this time to keep it off, because I was not going to a good place.

But I can't wait to be where I want to be, so he can't say what he said ever ever again.

*hug* crazydiamond Maybe he'll get gangrene of the scrotum....

LMAO "gangrene of the scrotum" That made my day.

The old man at the gym that told me i "run pretty good for a fat girl" keeps me going back for more.  I havent seen him though since i replied that "he was doing pretty good for being this side of the ground.

if this witch's curse works he will MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.....

I accidentally returned the favor during guys night - they bring guys night to my house I am going to fit right in and start drinking & razzing just like I was one of them.

Well he ended up yelling at me and leaving after I teased him about something that it turns out he's pretty sensitive about. He still isn't speaking to me. ROFL

It's in my top 100 reasons for getting fit? I can't put it in my top 10 or even top 20, but it's there, definitely.

My ex-husband loved my body when I was younger and thinner, and then I had two kids and lived with him (the guy who had to eat more than average to avoid losing weight) and I put on a lot of weight. Add in post-split depression and I didn't feel good about myself or my body.

Now I can tell myself, "See what he's missing out on while you're enjoying life?" and it feels goooood.

Revenge wasn't my reason for beginning my weight loss but it has certainly spurred me on! A few years ago my husband had an affair with a semi-psychotic woman who went out of her way to make my life hell once he came to his senses and called things off with her. The list of things she's done to me and my family is long and horrible but one of the more petty things she used to do was to give me a slow look up and down followed by a smirk/snigger every time she saw me. I was around 265lbs at the time so there's no denying that I was big, but she was far from a healthy weight herself. I changed my eating habits for the usual reasons - health, for the sake of my children etc. but also because my self-confidence had been more or less obliterrated by what happened and all the subsequent abuse and I needed to do something to stop feeling so awful about myself. Now i'm around 180lbs and while i've still got a way to go before i'm at a healthy weight, i'm proud of what i've achieved and as petty as it may sound, it feels fantastic to know that i'm significantly smaller than she is, and she knows it. Cue smugness!

Oh I hear ya!  An ex friend of mine told me that I was no longer "fun" because I had gained weight.  She said that I wasn't confident enough, and that my calorie counting was "annoying."   I also would only have one or two drinks at parties when we went out because they were so high in calories and that was just about the lamest thing I could do in her eyes.  Whatever, she'll be wishing she had followed in my foot steps when she sees me looking great!

Devious, but I totally get what you're going through.

I just ended things with my boyfriend of four years. Our unhealthy eating habits only added fuel to my emotional eating as well. I've since got off the emotional terror ride, but I've got the 'baggage' to deal with. I am sooo looking forward to flaunting a sexy frame again. His jaw is going to drop and that tongue is going to roll out the door and around the corner.

Although that defies every law of physics, that thought always has me cranking up the incline on the treadmill.

Original Post by ginwithtonic:

LMAO "gangrene of the scrotum" That made my day.

The old man at the gym that told me i "run pretty good for a fat girl" keeps me going back for more.  I havent seen him though since i replied that "he was doing pretty good for being this side of the ground.

 

 Omg - you should have told him "you would be a lot more handsome if you kept your mouth shut"

I'm already trying to plot some way to 'accidentally' run into my ex-boyfriend. He didn't like that I was overweight and was kind of a jerk about it, can't wait til I'm down enough to show off my new without-him body : )

I thought it was just me! There are a number of people I will be pleased to see once I'm slim, although my main reason is so I can look really good in clothes (or undressed, I guess!). Sometimes I feel as if some guys don't look at me because I'm overweight and they would if I was slim.  To be fair, if a guy is really fit, I tend to look at him when I might not otherwise do so, so it's not like guys have a monopoly on looks mattering.

There is one guy who never went out with me - we were close for about six months, spending most weekends and a couple of nights a week together - and he said he didn't feel romantically toward me - except we slept next to each other most of the time & were intimate as well.  I know, I know, I wouldn't do that now - if someone wants to be intimate, we would have to be going out together, but I think we didn't go out because he was scared that I knew him very well and somehow only wants a relationships where someone can't see through him (feels safer). He's very much an alpha male ... and we may see each other in August. I'd like to be fitter than he's ever seen me by then and see his eyes drop out of his head, as I've done nothing but put on weight in the past three years - only been losing since late last year. I am sure he won't do anything about it, but I would just like him to see what he's missing.

There is also someone on the edge of my circle of friends who always has to outdo others & likes to be the centre of attention.  If you have been to see a show, she has been to a bigger one with better seats, etc. She can't just be happy for you.  Once I worked that out about her, I started to see less of her. She started working out seriously with a personal trainer and diet about 18 months ago and was going on and on on a forum we both have been on for years about her regime & encouraging others to talk about how fat they were.  She slimmed down a lot, but was still a very large woman. She now seems to have put much of the weight back on, so it would be fun for her to see me as well. 

And when I go dancing tango, being slim would mean I have many more partners asking me to dance!

I'm sorting out my finances and being a fit woman would be another part of the jigsaw slotting into place.

What a fabulous thread that you started.....LOL

So is this the best reason to lose weight? Heavens no. Is it enough to keep me motivated in losing weight? Probably not.  But I need about a million different things in mind to keep me motivated.  Somedays its for me. Somedays its for my kids. Somedays its for my husband.  But somedays, its definitely to rub it in anothers face.  I'll take whatever reason, regardless of how petty it may be, to keep my butt running on that treadmill.....

It's kind of funny. My sister used to love picking on me for being overweight. Now I can't help but smirk every time she comes to me asking for diet help because her youthful metabolism is not what it used to be.

She's switched to calling me an alien, but as she'll admit, a fit alien.

My father was diagnosed with diabetes, and my grandfather died from complications from it.  Essentially I'm doing this because my family history + being obese (per BMI measurement when I started CC,) told me I had to do something to get things under control.

Not exactly revenge, but one of my favorite thoughts to help motivate me will be my dad's face when he sees me in ~6-10 months.

clairelaine THAT IS AN AMAZING STORY! It makes me so happy for you.

Anyhow, I sometimes just feel like, HEY, this is for all the boys who called me fat and wanted to date my twin (who I am now skinnier than). I just really like seeing people who used to call me fat and put me down.

Hey y'all, I had to comment, lol!

I lie to myself everyday - saying that my weight loss solely has to do with how I perceive myself, but in truth it's about proving a point to almost everyone I've ever known. I also am dealing with the reprocussions of an ex-best friend, and all that drama it entails two years after the fact. I hated being the fat cousin, having the fat mom, being the fat wing-man at a bar, having almost exclusively fat friends because I hated the thought of someone comparing my body to a skinney chick's. ..

Anyhow, y'all are pretty funny. .. I like the scrotum comment, lol. . . I hope he went home and cried.