Revenge Weight Loss?

Is there anyone who you are looking forward to showing off your "New You" to and rub their nose in it?

Sure, I'm primarily motivated to lose weight for health, longevity, quality of life, yada, yada, yada, but my secret, nasty motivation is that I recently had a falling out with my vain, overweight (but my same old weight) sister and I know that sending her a pic of me all skinny and looking good would KILL her with jealousy!

So, as psychologically messed up as it is, sometimes when I feel like falling off the wagon, I just think of her...LOL!

DEFINITELY! My parents, who are both overweight, always bug me about what I eat and what I do. You have no idea how much I want to get all fit and toned and rub their faces in it.

I am doing it for myself, but I'd be lying if I said I not excited to run into select people in my life that have made comments about my weight. Or a former friend that always posts stuff on face book like "wow, my trainer totally kicked my butt today". She is annoying, and has been seeing this trainer for 2 years and she still hasn't lost weight. Yet she still tells everyone that she is so healthy, and better then them.

The other person in my life in my Brother-in-law. He's a jerk, and thinks he knows everything about nutrition, and working out. Except that he was anorexic at one point, and eats like 5 cans of fat-free soup a day, and snacks on frozen broccoli, and thinks he's healthy. After asking me if I "know how many calories are in what I'm eating" I wanted to ask him if he has any idea how much salt he eats a day. Freaking annoying. How rude to make comments like that while someone is eating! I want to prove that you can lose weight without starving, or cutting out anything that tastes good.

Original Post by megnaay:

DEFINITELY! My parents, who are both overweight, always bug me about what I eat and what I do. You have no idea how much I want to get all fit and toned and rub their faces in it.

Me too!  My whole family is overweight, from my grandparents to aunts and uncles all the way to cousins and siblings.  I was always the thin one.  Now, thanks to genetics and poor eating habits, I've truely become a member of the fat family and they never let me hear the end of it. 

The other day I allowed room in my daily calories to have a small bowl of icecream.  My father walks in the room, sees me with it and makes a comment on how thats why I got so fat.  Well I'll show them! 

You ladies are scary!! Note to self: hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!! LOL I do have a question though...what if the person changes during the time you girls lose the weight....will they be able to find their way on your good side? Just curious in case I need to make some calls lol. Hope everyone gets their satisfaction, be it weight-loss and/or stunned colleague/friend or family member. Enjoy the dessert of revenge, it actually does taste good. ROFL...

Solar...

I did it bc I was honestly sick of being fat, but I am 28, single and no kids and some people act so weirded out by me not in a rush to get married and pop out kids. I guess every time someone wants to judge me for not joining the "mommy/wife club", they can take a look at my curves, my social life and hot bf and suck it. LOL. Okay, I don't really think that all the time, but for some people it feels good.

More than anything, I want to be the envy of my obese friend and mother.  I keep telling them how easy losing weight is with weighing/measuring food and being even just a little active. Every time I hear "oh I don't want to be that obsessive about it" or "I don't have time for that" I drop another 5 pounds while they stay fat and miserable. My friend is not very close, so her life is whatever she makes of it, but I worry about having to visit my mom in the hospital bc of obese related diseases and I hope this lights a fire under her butt to avoid those fears of mine (and hers if she'd only get a clue).

HAHAHAHA. This thread made me laugh. Although my main reason for my weight loss is for me, I secretly can't wait to see my sister in a couple of weeks to see how much weight she's lost. I think we both had roughly the same amount of weight to lose ~30 lbs. She said during Easter dinner that she had been working out for 5 weeks. I had been already working out for 7. She's solely using the Bowflex. I'm watching my calorie intake, doing heavy cardio, and weights. It will be interesting to see what she looks like now. 

I wouldn't necessarily call this "revenge," exactly, but I am motivated by one of my exes.  I saw him awhile back and he looked gorgeous.  I mean, my first thought was, "Holy ****, I dated that guy!" and I felt quite proud of the fact that I used to be with him.

Then I thought about what he would think of me.  Instead of a "Wow, I used to date that hot chick," I would have more likely warranted a, "God, she's let herself go!  Thank God I'm not with that mess anymore." 

Granted, he's a good guy and probably wasn't really thinking that.  But it was still a big kick in the butt... and it definitely gets me through the hardest parts of my workouts and makes me think twice about overindulging on treats!  Hopefully next time I see him, I'll be looking somewhat like my former hot self.

This is funny, glad to see I'm not the only one here who has crazy thoughts!  My main reason that I am doing this is for health.  I have a 2 year old son and want to be a good example to him.  However, I used to be extremely skinny in high school, then my metabolism caught up and the weight piled on.  I was in a bad relationship that lasted way to long and was an emotional eater.  My ex always made me feel fat and the more nasty comments he made the worse I felt and less I cared about trying.  Then I broke FREE :)  So that is one person I would like to show off to.  Also recently my step sister and her husband both lost 20-25 lbs. each.  They weren't fat before but it was still an amazing difference in both of them, I don't really want to rub it in their faces or anything, I just know that if they can do it then I can too.....also I used to be skinnier than my step-sister....so that was a bit depressing for me. 

Also I had a friend in HS that was always trying to one up me....then we had a falling out and I hadn't seen her in years...I wanted to look way better than her if I ever saw her again....well that happened last weekend but it made me realize how shallow I was being.  She was still skinnier than me, but all due to drugs and she looked horrible.  I ended up just feeling sorry for her in the long run because I am doing this the correct way and to try to be healthy and she obviously needs help. 

My ex-husband said just a few months before we split.." I could never picture you skinny."

When I feel unmotivated, I just let that play over in my head.  And he now lives in a different state, but I dream of casually running into him looking HAWT.

I will get there.

Ohhhhh YEAHHHH!!!  My boyfriend left me 2 1/2 yrs. ago and I was so pissed off, I lost 82 lbs!  Started doing Pilates every day and now I'm in better shape than I have been in 20 YEARS!  So I guess SOMETHING good came out of the whole sordid mess. And when I wasn't SURE that he saw my pics on MySpace, I freakin' EMAILED them to him! LOL!

Original Post by tomatotomata:

LMAO!!! I'm so glad I'm not alone!!

You're definitely not alone... It's always fun to see the ex-boyfriends wheels turning as if he's thinking about what he's missing. Also, last time I was thin I remember how good it felt to NOT be part of those "I'm so fat" conversations and feeling just a little bit better than those fatties :)... of course, I'm fat again so the shoe is on the other foot. But remembering that feeling is motivating.

Revenge is not a good reason or motivation to lose weight...

...but DARN, DOES IT FEEL GOOD. Hahaha!

I'm new to this site and don't post much but when I saw this thread, I had to chime in.

I was around 185 pounds when I met my husband, and at 5'2", that's a lot. My husband, being the polar opposite of me, was and is a fit 6'3" 190 pounds... and a part-time model (but who isn't in LA?). But typical of models, he's about as insecure as a plastic lock on a diary, and while I am/was overweight, I still have a very attractive face, a brain, and somewhat of a "charming" personality... enough to get plenty of dates. Knowing this and my dating history of socioeconomically superior men (to him), he said [several] something[s] to me that I will never, ever forget when we first started dating:

"I showed my roommates your pictures. Some older," (I was skinny a few years ago) "face pictures." Knowing what that meant, I said, "Older face pictures?" He said, "Yeah. I mean, you don't look like the typical girlfriends I usually have." And I won't lie: I punched him in the face. Repeatedly. Before and after that, he would make subtle jibes about my weight, try to control what I ate, my habits, etc.

Now, a few months later (after a thousand "I'm sorries" and "please forgive mes" and "please don't leave me, I'll pay for your college tuition") after I've started eating right and swimming a mile to two miles a week, I've lost about 20 pounds, gained some of my old muscle back, and am basking in the joy of his irateness whenever someone hits on me in front of him. Now he gets super possessive & jealous whenever we go to bars or clubs, whenever my more successful & better-looking male schoolmates/ex-boyfriends/guy friends call me or email me. Oh, and he certainly doesn't like it at all when I look at other (possibly better looking) guys, too.

So anytime I get tired in the pool or am half-tempted to eat something junky (but oh-so-sweet), I think of the black eye I gave him many months ago and why I gave it to him.

Is revenge a good reason to lose weight? No. Does it feel awesome? YES.

(P.s. I don't condone violence. Let's be honest: some of you ladies would have had the same reaction)

That's funny, but would never work for me. If I imagine trying to show up some one, i will eventually lose the desire when faced with a delicious bar of milk chocolate.

Good luck!

In that case, consider the whole lactose-intolerance thing and throw the milk chocolate bar out! LOL! J/K :)

This isn't really revenge. But I had to add this. My Dad told me that if my Mother looked the way I do, he would have never married her. I have forgiven my Dad for saying that. He ended up passing away suddenly a few months after that comment.  But of course, never forgot it. When I now get the urge to binge, I remember that comment.

That is sad that your father said that. My mother is the same way, and so are my older sisters. Whatever happened to encouraging your children?

Original Post by thebirnbaums:

Revenge is not a good reason or motivation to lose weight...

...but DARN, DOES IT FEEL GOOD. Hahaha!

I'm new to this site and don't post much but when I saw this thread, I had to chime in.

I was around 185 pounds when I met my husband, and at 5'2", that's a lot. My husband, being the polar opposite of me, was and is a fit 6'3" 190 pounds... and a part-time model (but who isn't in LA?). But typical of models, he's about as insecure as a plastic lock on a diary, and while I am/was overweight, I still have a very attractive face, a brain, and somewhat of a "charming" personality... enough to get plenty of dates. Knowing this and my dating history of socioeconomically superior men (to him), he said [several] something[s] to me that I will never, ever forget when we first started dating:

"I showed my roommates your pictures. Some older," (I was skinny a few years ago) "face pictures." Knowing what that meant, I said, "Older face pictures?" He said, "Yeah. I mean, you don't look like the typical girlfriends I usually have." And I won't lie: I punched him in the face. Repeatedly. Before and after that, he would make subtle jibes about my weight, try to control what I ate, my habits, etc.

Now, a few months later (after a thousand "I'm sorries" and "please forgive mes" and "please don't leave me, I'll pay for your college tuition") after I've started eating right and swimming a mile to two miles a week, I've lost about 20 pounds, gained some of my old muscle back, and am basking in the joy of his irateness whenever someone hits on me in front of him. Now he gets super possessive & jealous whenever we go to bars or clubs, whenever my more successful & better-looking male schoolmates/ex-boyfriends/guy friends call me or email me. Oh, and he certainly doesn't like it at all when I look at other (possibly better looking) guys, too.

So anytime I get tired in the pool or am half-tempted to eat something junky (but oh-so-sweet), I think of the black eye I gave him many months ago and why I gave it to him.

Is revenge a good reason to lose weight? No. Does it feel awesome? YES.

(P.s. I don't condone violence. Let's be honest: some of you ladies would have had the same reaction)

 I LOVE your STORY!  Good for YOU!  I know it isn't a good "reason"...but it WORKED for me.  I DID, however, gain back 25 lbs., which I am in the process of losing. (10.3 lbs. off so far.) THIS time, though, it's because I FELT so much better (and better about myself) when I was smaller/lighter. I just don't feel comfortable in my body with this much weight on. And THAT is the transformation that I NEEDED. Now I'm doing this totally for ME. And I feel GREAT about it!

Actually revenge IS an ok reason to lose weight and it IS motivating. It probably wouldn't take me all the way to my goal (unless I only had a few pounds to lose) but there's absolutely nothing wrong with finding motivation in it.

Original Post by pizza_lover:

This isn't really revenge. But I had to add this. My Dad told me that if my Mother looked the way I do, he would have never married her. I have forgiven my Dad for saying that. He ended up passing away suddenly a few months after that comment.  But of course, never forgot it. When I now get the urge to binge, I remember that comment.

 A father's negative comments on our weight can screw a girl up for a long time ....and you don't ever forget it.... unfortunately I know this all to well... As hard as it is to forgive him it's the best thing that you can do for yourself.

Lol. It's most certianly my #2 reason. :)

I've had some friends that have been pretty nasty (and are fat themselves.>:( !)

Once I was in the library and I said, "I think I'm going to walk home today," and one of my friends replied, "Why?" and another "friend" then replied, "Because she needs it."

I can't wait to walk into her and seriously go, "I need to do what? Look fabulous? I thought so. :) "

And I live in a small town, so I would just LOVE to walk into some old high school acquaintances and just rub it in their faces and show them there was no reason to treat me like second best because under all my fat I'm just as great as they are, if not better. 

That, and I have some friends that pity me like I'm a beached whale. I'm so over that.