Revenge Weight Loss?

Is there anyone who you are looking forward to showing off your "New You" to and rub their nose in it?

Sure, I'm primarily motivated to lose weight for health, longevity, quality of life, yada, yada, yada, but my secret, nasty motivation is that I recently had a falling out with my vain, overweight (but my same old weight) sister and I know that sending her a pic of me all skinny and looking good would KILL her with jealousy!

So, as psychologically messed up as it is, sometimes when I feel like falling off the wagon, I just think of her...LOL!

I've been fantasizing about losing weight in response to my father's insulting comments and attitude for ages, but I was never able to get the ball rolling.

After a really tough time in my life, I lost some weight accidentally so I decided to just keep going and take advantage of my accidental momentum, but I wasn't really dieting much. By the time I started my official "diet" and lost most of my weight, my father and I had become officially estranged and I no longer speak with him.

So he hasn't seen me since I lost any of my weight, and I probably won't ever see him again (so there's no chance to get my revenge).  :( But I admit I still daydream about running into him and completely acting like I'm way too good for him. I'll wear something gorgeous, casually mention that I'm a BioChem major at a prestigious university with a perfect GPA, and tell him all about the financial success I've had as a professional painter.

Oh man, would that feel great...

revenge is a super motivator for me. When i was sixteen i the feeling was so strong that i could eat very little (that was not good and i would not do that again). I find it much harder to lose weight without men to impress but i'm doing good. I know it is shallow. My Bf always tells me i am pretty at any weight so i'm really blessed with him

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Ohhhhh YEAHHHH!!!  My boyfriend left me 2 1/2 yrs. ago and I was so pissed off, I lost 82 lbs!  Started doing Pilates every day and now I'm in better shape than I have been in 20 YEARS!  So I guess SOMETHING good came out of the whole sordid mess. And when I wasn't SURE that he saw my pics on MySpace, I freakin' EMAILED them to him! LOL!

 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!! I loved that last bit ROTFL

My story consists of many:

#1: My dad once told me and my brother we were 'obese'. I was only 9 at the time and had a bit of puppy fat. My BMI was still within the norm. And even last summer he commented that "I'd look good with 6lbs off". My BMI was 21.8. And my step-dragon told me I was a 'tiny bit overweight round the belly'. I'm no longer speaking to them but I know I will see them again one day.

#2: I was always picked on at school for being a tad on the heavier size but the new me they can all see on Facebook is a massive middle-finger in their faces x2.

#3: Some **** left me heartbroken last year after he ditched me via email for another girl. Since I have lost a considerable amount of weight, dropped 2 dress sizes and really toned up. I have ditched the goth image and cut my hair into a cute pixie blonde crop. And maaan the attention just keeps rollin' in. 

I'm seriously considering emailing him some pictures now once I get my body absolutely perfect - and they'd be like professional portfolio ones as well. How does a sexy male model kissing me vampire style sound? ;)  

yummy_kitty wrote:

"After a really tough time in my life, I lost some weight accidentally so I decided to just keep going and take advantage of my accidental momentum"

That's EXACTLY what happened with ME! I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and every time I had tried to lose weight I failed.  But when the @%$#&! left me, I couldn't eat for a MONTH...and I'd lost 30 lbs!  Soooooo....I just decided to keep it going!  Yep...I think revenge is a GREAT motivator, the more I think about it!

Original Post by blondiecath:

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Ohhhhh YEAHHHH!!!  My boyfriend left me 2 1/2 yrs. ago and I was so pissed off, I lost 82 lbs!  Started doing Pilates every day and now I'm in better shape than I have been in 20 YEARS!  So I guess SOMETHING good came out of the whole sordid mess. And when I wasn't SURE that he saw my pics on MySpace, I freakin' EMAILED them to him! LOL!

 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!! I loved that last bit ROTFL

My story consists of many:

#1: My dad once told me and my brother we were 'obese'. I was only 9 at the time and had a bit of puppy fat. My BMI was still within the norm. And even last summer he commented that "I'd look good with 6lbs off". My BMI was 21.8. And my step-dragon told me I was a 'tiny bit overweight round the belly'. I'm no longer speaking to them but I know I will see them again one day.

#2: I was always picked on at school for being a tad on the heavier size but the new me they can all see on Facebook is a massive middle-finger in their faces x2.

#3: Some **** left me heartbroken last year after he ditched me via email for another girl. Since I have lost a considerable amount of weight, dropped 2 dress sizes and really toned up. I have ditched the goth image and cut my hair into a cute pixie blonde crop. And maaan the attention just keeps rollin' in. 

I'm seriously considering emailing him some pictures now once I get my body absolutely perfect - and they'd be like professional portfolio ones as well. How does a sexy male model kissing me vampire style sound? ;)  

 I think that sounds simply FABULOUS, blondie!  I wish I had thought of it!  For me, there was zero chance of just "running into him" (except online), since he moved clear across the country.  So I felt it was necessary to send him pics...to remove all doubt.  I didn't have the satisfaction of looking into his face, though.  But I DO have personal satisfaction from all the attention I get now!

And I think your image change was a GREAT MOVE! Would LOVE to see a pic of the new you.

Original Post by tomatotomata:

*hug* crazydiamond Maybe he'll get gangrene of the scrotum....

 

LMAO omg, thats the funniest thing I've read in a long time. 

not necessarily show anything off, i dont want anyone to reconize me so i can walk right past them and not have to say a word to them

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Original Post by blondiecath:

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Ohhhhh YEAHHHH!!!  My boyfriend left me 2 1/2 yrs. ago and I was so pissed off, I lost 82 lbs!  Started doing Pilates every day and now I'm in better shape than I have been in 20 YEARS!  So I guess SOMETHING good came out of the whole sordid mess. And when I wasn't SURE that he saw my pics on MySpace, I freakin' EMAILED them to him! LOL!

 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!! I loved that last bit ROTFL

My story consists of many:

#1: My dad once told me and my brother we were 'obese'. I was only 9 at the time and had a bit of puppy fat. My BMI was still within the norm. And even last summer he commented that "I'd look good with 6lbs off". My BMI was 21.8. And my step-dragon told me I was a 'tiny bit overweight round the belly'. I'm no longer speaking to them but I know I will see them again one day.

#2: I was always picked on at school for being a tad on the heavier size but the new me they can all see on Facebook is a massive middle-finger in their faces x2.

#3: Some **** left me heartbroken last year after he ditched me via email for another girl. Since I have lost a considerable amount of weight, dropped 2 dress sizes and really toned up. I have ditched the goth image and cut my hair into a cute pixie blonde crop. And maaan the attention just keeps rollin' in. 

I'm seriously considering emailing him some pictures now once I get my body absolutely perfect - and they'd be like professional portfolio ones as well. How does a sexy male model kissing me vampire style sound? ;)  

 I think that sounds simply FABULOUS, blondie!  I wish I had thought of it!  For me, there was zero chance of just "running into him" (except online), since he moved clear across the country.  So I felt it was necessary to send him pics...to remove all doubt.  I didn't have the satisfaction of looking into his face, though.  But I DO have personal satisfaction from all the attention I get now!

And I think your image change was a GREAT MOVE! Would LOVE to see a pic of the new you.

 Well I'm kinda in the same situation - the coward doesn't live locally (thank God). Yeah I thought having a hottie included would just twist the knife a little bit more to emphasise the lamentment of his loss >:)

You can see my new pics in my gallery :P

hahaha these are some really funny things:)

Hell yeah!! I was going out with this guy for a couple of years and he was a good build, alright body and great arms, only he was ashamed of me. He hated me seeing his mates and after we fell pregnant, I was strongly ...urged to terminate.

After the termination, I suffered depression and some days couldn't get out of bed and he grew distant. I gained some weight and his (FAT!) mother (who was a piece of work!) TOLD him to leave me. So he did. We went out in high school, so heaps of are friends are mutual friends and we stayed together after we left school.

I'm still mates with my buddies and saw him a while back, when he asked me if "I was interested in becoming friends with benefits, since I looked like I never "get any" only no-one could know. HELL NO! ****!

I can't wait till I lose this weight and watch his jaw drop as I flirt with his mates who I know will be clamoring over me.

Ahahaha revenge...love it.

When I was in university there was this group of guys who would come to parties that my friends and I threw. Basically, they were all jerks, making sexual comments about girls and the like. At one party I was sitting on some steps outside and one of them was talking to me. He got a text message from his friend who had left the party a little while ago and I caught a glance of it and it said "If you don't **** fatso, come to so-and-so club."

Absolutely vulgar, disgusting, disrespectful...not only calling me "fatso", but implying that I was someone who would sleep with one of these jerks.

I can't wait until I return back to my university town and show these guys up. And they won't get any acknowledgement from me as I am WAY above them!!

52.7 lbs down since the time that happened!! I'm sooo close to my goal!

Original Post by blondiecath:

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Original Post by blondiecath:

Original Post by alphawordsmith:

Ohhhhh YEAHHHH!!!  My boyfriend left me 2 1/2 yrs. ago and I was so pissed off, I lost 82 lbs!  Started doing Pilates every day and now I'm in better shape than I have been in 20 YEARS!  So I guess SOMETHING good came out of the whole sordid mess. And when I wasn't SURE that he saw my pics on MySpace, I freakin' EMAILED them to him! LOL!

 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!! I loved that last bit ROTFL

My story consists of many:

#1: My dad once told me and my brother we were 'obese'. I was only 9 at the time and had a bit of puppy fat. My BMI was still within the norm. And even last summer he commented that "I'd look good with 6lbs off". My BMI was 21.8. And my step-dragon told me I was a 'tiny bit overweight round the belly'. I'm no longer speaking to them but I know I will see them again one day.

#2: I was always picked on at school for being a tad on the heavier size but the new me they can all see on Facebook is a massive middle-finger in their faces x2.

#3: Some **** left me heartbroken last year after he ditched me via email for another girl. Since I have lost a considerable amount of weight, dropped 2 dress sizes and really toned up. I have ditched the goth image and cut my hair into a cute pixie blonde crop. And maaan the attention just keeps rollin' in. 

I'm seriously considering emailing him some pictures now once I get my body absolutely perfect - and they'd be like professional portfolio ones as well. How does a sexy male model kissing me vampire style sound? ;)  

 I think that sounds simply FABULOUS, blondie!  I wish I had thought of it!  For me, there was zero chance of just "running into him" (except online), since he moved clear across the country.  So I felt it was necessary to send him pics...to remove all doubt.  I didn't have the satisfaction of looking into his face, though.  But I DO have personal satisfaction from all the attention I get now!

And I think your image change was a GREAT MOVE! Would LOVE to see a pic of the new you.

 Well I'm kinda in the same situation - the coward doesn't live locally (thank God). Yeah I thought having a hottie included would just twist the knife a little bit more to emphasise the lamentment of his loss >:)

You can see my new pics in my gallery :P

 Ohhhhh GURRRRRRL!  You as fine as you WANNA BE!!!  WOW!  And you are a FOX in that blonde pixie cut!  I don't think you need to lose any more weight, though.  In my book, you have accomplished it ALLLLL!  KUDOS!!

First of all, I'm a guy, but I'm losing weight partly so I can rub it in the noses of all the girls who have turned me down solely for being overweight.  Not that I blame them or anything, but that's gonna be nice to have a six pack and be like "take a look at what you missed out on", and to be healthy, etc.

I've never really been extremely overweight and always pretty healthy, but before my last pregnacy I had an obese "friend" who asked me to help her stay motivated. She just would not do anything. So, eventually we went our own fitness ways. Well, about 6 months after that I got pregnant with my youngest and she kept gaining weight. After I had the baby and started losing weight, she had gastric bypass surgery. She's lost alot of weight...mainly just because she's not eating anything hardly. Right now, I'm getting back in shape and my goal is to be one of those girls who can only wear a sports bra, but I'd love to see her and show her how to naturally weight, be fit, and look great!

A year ago, when I was 13, I was probably at my chubbiest. Probably verging on overweight, but not quite there. It was some family celebration. One of my aunts, my Godmother actually, called me fat, right when I was getting my food. Needless to say, I could barely eat after that. My mother was so angry at her.

Now that I think about it, its pretty funny, since she's the shortest and the fattest out of all my aunts.

Anyways, I'm a lot taller now, I've lost weight, I'm fit, I'm healthy, and you can't call me fat anymore! Seriously, my self confidence was lost because of her, and now its back. Her daughters wedding is coming up in September, and I can't wait for her to see me. She lives in Calgary, so we don't see each other often. Whenever I start feeling bad about myself, I just think of her, and how happy I am to be healthy.

Yes!

My ex, he always told me that I got more beautiful every day. (He doesn't sound so bad, but he would always say some random girls were retarded hot, and I felt like he never thought that about me). We're taking a two month break and I want him to be speechless when he sees me next! 

Also my roommate, whom I absolutely adore, but when I was losing weight before, she said that I "wouldn't look good skinny anyway". And I definitely want to prove her wrong (Like I wouldn't look hotter with a flatter stomach?!) 

Original Post by clairelaine:

I never did it on purpose, but circumstances just led to it.  It was way before I gained all this weight (gained it all after menopause.)  I was going through a terrible divorce, with an extended court battle in another country.  I'd put on about 24 pounds and my ex continually referred to me as a fat slob to anybody in earshot. 

Well, the stress of the situation, having to travel overseas to get my kids back and everything, I just stopped eating.  When I turned up in court he made a total fool of himself because he'd told the judge that I was a lazy, fat pig and was ugly, mean tempered and cruel. 

I showed up looking the best I've ever looked in my life. His jaw dropped and the panel of judges completely changed their minds and decided he was a liar and threatened to charge him with character assination and perjury.  It was really funny and it was one reason I won the fight.  I shot him down, baby!

right now I have no axe to grind - I'm just trying to regain my health.

First off, Clairelaine I am so sorry you went through such a horrific experience, what a ____ ~!!! What kind of court would listen to someone name calling and use that as judgement againist them???? that's horrible, I'm glad you triumphed over that! you go sister!!!!! 

It's not revenge per se, but I made a bet with my older brother a few months ago. I had recently taken up running after needing to spice up my exercise routine, because I was sick to death of the elliptical, and I kind of secretly decided to begin training for a marathon. Anywho, my brother challenged me to a bet (he's always been the fit one, the atheltic one) to see who could be the first to run a thousand miles in 2009. We both got those Nike/ipod things that keep track of your miles. It got really heated, and I have no problem admitting that I was driven mostly by spite. It got to the point that we were both running like seven miles a day, seven days a week. I was exhausted, and it made me hate running, but I was sure as h*** not going to let him win again--mostly because he really didn't even think it was going to be a competition. We made it about four months, and about 400 miles each (WELL, to be exact, 380 for him 395 for me!) when he called me up and said he wanted to call off the bet. Oh, it felt great. Probably not as great as if we'd made it all the way to the 1000 miles, but it was still pretty sweet.

Now that the bet is over, I've actually fallen off the wagon a bit. I tried to keep it up, and I did run a 15k soon after, but my running regime has gone to pot as of late. The marathon is still in my mind--I think I'm going to sign up for DC in March!, but I'll need something to snap back into it now that the spite is gone. I miss the spite.

Original Post by violet18:

Definitely!I want to rub my hot bod in those fit, stuck up girls at the gym who can wear sport bras in public. Sigh.... one day... no seriously, I will acually have a jogging competition with them. no lie :)

I'm seeing a lot of "Sports bra" comments... so  I'm just going to generally put out there that I really dislike seeing women running in sports bras.  It seems completely inappropriate to me, I guess because the 3 years I ran crosscountry none of the girls on my team wore them, and we all thought it was weird.

But then, we also agreed that wearing tights like pants was creepy and look how that's come into style....

Joined about.com just to chime in on this.

My husband dumped me the day before Valentine's Day.  Just in time for Mother's Day, I found out that he is dating the first person I called to cry to when he walked out.  One of my closest friends, can you believe?!  She has been fanatic about Weight Watchers for the past year, and has lost a significant amount of weight.  It's really hyper-inflated her sense of self worth, though.  Nothing short of surgery will make her as hot as she thinks she is.  She's still pudgy and dumpy looking.

I had always thought that she was beautiful inside, but now I know she's ugly there, too.  This girl...  She makes 80k/year because she's an RN.  The main reason she was able to get into that program was because I tutored her every day for two semesters so she could pass the math requirement to get accepted.  And this is how she repays me!  The two of them didn't even have the courage to tell me.  By sheer chance, one of my friends caught them holding hands at a fancy resort in Waikiki.

A combination of pregnancy, quitting smoking and what I suspect was dysthymia caused me to gain nearly 90 lbs during the course of my marriage.  (Well, those things plus I was lazy as #@*%.)  Even before he left, I was already feeling despair over the way I looked.  Then realizing that he left me for an ugly girl who I had always assumed was a lesbian...  it made me physically ill.  I had begun losing weight from the day he left because I had sunk into a major depression and had lost most of my appetite for a month.  Then after I found out about them, I didn't eat anything at all for a week.

Eventually I realized I was killing myself slowly.  Did some soul searching and vowed that I would lose weight but more importantly, I would become fit.  It is my life's plan to exercise, take my vitamins and eat my veggies because I am determined to outlive the both of them.  Then I will spit and pass other bodily excretions on their graves.  When I'm too lazy to work out, I think of the two of them, and rage and revenge get me up off the couch.  And when I am tempted to overindulge... the image of my ex-friend standing in my place next to my soon-to-be-ex-husband is the strongest appetite suppressant I have ever known.