Revenge Weight Loss?

Is there anyone who you are looking forward to showing off your "New You" to and rub their nose in it?

Sure, I'm primarily motivated to lose weight for health, longevity, quality of life, yada, yada, yada, but my secret, nasty motivation is that I recently had a falling out with my vain, overweight (but my same old weight) sister and I know that sending her a pic of me all skinny and looking good would KILL her with jealousy!

So, as psychologically messed up as it is, sometimes when I feel like falling off the wagon, I just think of her...LOL!

Oofberry, I hope you get your satisfaction & also find happiness along the way.

 Well my journey didn’t begin out of revenge. I was simply tired of being fat & ran out of excuses. we have this big event coming up at the end of the year & it seems like everyone I have ever met will be there. ALso My sister & I started out together but she was always critical of my success. Like she would say that I was losing because I was starving myself which is soooo not true. Well we had a fight about something else & haven’t spoken in a couple of weeks. She goes to her gym & I go to mine so the next time I see her I want to at least be better off then the last time she seen me. And third my BF lost a lot of weight like a year ago & was always way heavier then me, I’m extremely happy for her but don’t want to be HER fat friend LOL.

Revenge/spite isn't a huge reason of mine, but it definitely helps me keep going when "longer life!!" isn't working for my jogging legs. I just think of the girls who regard me as inferior, the boys who regard me as a target, how excellent I'll look in 10, 20, 30 lbs, and how surprised everyone will be. I don't need their approval, but I do want to screw with their perception.

It is absolutely my sole reason for getting back into shape lol.  When I met my wife, I was a muscular 200 lbs (6'1").  Not long after we started dating, I basically quit working out alltogether (who has time for the gym when all you want to do is spend every minute with her, am I right?).  So, after seven years I ballooned up to about 240-245, and lost all that muscle I once had.  She was always asking me why I didn't go back to the gym, maybe get back in shape.  I had all the wrong thought patterns by this point though.  "I got the girl, why do I need to be in shape now?" I told myself.  Well, that was a stupid thing to believe lol. 

Then the day comes when she's gone.  After the depression diet ended, I was down about 10 lbs.  We have two children so we see eachother often.  About a month after the seperation, at one kid-swap she remarked, "you losing weight? you look good".  I thought, "why hell would she say that?  I look and feel terrible, I haven't eaten right in a month, my stomach feels like the size of a walnut, and I have no energy."

So that's when I made the decision to go all out.  "She thought I looked good after losing 10 pounds, she's going to freak when I lose 40, or even 50!"  And to clarify a point, I'm not doing it to win her back.  I'm very well aware of the painful repurcussions that could have.  That is not my intention at all.  It's the classic, "look what you're missing" and nothing more. 

What gives me the greatest satisfaction is when I see her stealing glances...everytime we see eachother.  We're not particularly friendly, but we swap the kids several times a week, so we have to see eachother.  The last time she commented on my body, it something along the lines of, "you're looking good Mike".  I simply replied, "I know."  The look on her face, I'll never forget.

I'm sure I'll reep all the other benefits of a healthy lifestyle later, and I know I will appreciate them more some day, but for now that's what keeps me going.  I'm down to 208 (more importantly, I cut out 8% bodyfat) and only eight little pounds away from my initial goal. 

My husband's ex stops in with her mom usually around the holidays.  He said she resembled a bobble head last time but I'm afraid that if I don't turn it around she'll start to look pretty good.  He loves me regardless but when the butt reaches epic proportions and blows out a pair of jeans, at BOTH butt pocket inner seams (yeah was not fun) you kinda have to wonder how much you're pushing things.

I was always skinny and don't want to look like I just was that way from being military and it all went out the window on me.  So I guess that's my revenge..looking even better all these years later and still having him when she can't.

My wake up call right now is wearing my best friend's fat clothes and wishing I had about 5# off so they fit better.  I was the skinny one that could never hand down clothing to her... things kinda changed for the worst with my knee injury.  Past that it's just being lazy and I've got to knock it off.

Sweet revenge. I was an athlete in college until I severely injured my back and gained weight. I overheard some of my guy and girlfriends talking about it. I shouldn't have let it bother me but it did. Stupid jerks! When I hit my goal weight I am planning a trip to visit them.

My revenge is a bit different....my ex was into big girls, and liked me that way. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative, I was pretty much a wreck by the end of that relationship and the only thing that got me out was ANGER. I lost weight partially as a big f-u to him, partially it was just a side-effect of having no appetite and going for walks to smoke and think during our incredibly long break-up. Eventually I started walked faster and longer and dropped the smoking, joined a gym when it got too cold to walk, and started eating right because it felt good. I was still SO angry, and spent many hours on the treadmill power-walking and glaring at the plant in the corner, I am sure everyone at my gym thought I was nuts.

I gained most of the weight I lost back, after I lost the anger. But now I am happier than I have ever been and losing for all the right reasons...but I still think how sweet it will be to run into my ex and he will see that it was NOT my fate to be his fat, neglected partner, that it was his influence that was holding me back from being the thin, healthy person I deserve to be, and can achieve it now that he's not messing with my head.

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I had to get rid of this post because I got paranoid and cant figure out how to delete it.

Im doing this for myself because i want to feel good about myself but my revenge would be after i loose the weight and see my old ex girlfriend that i have not seen in years. When we started going out i knew that i was bigger and tried to lose some wait but had the mentality that i have the girl and she loves me why bother we ended up going to different schools after highschool but within the city. by the time our graduations were comming up i had planned a weekend getaway but before that happened she broke up with me because she doesnt feel the same way as she use to.. at first i accepted it but then when i found out that she was seeing another guy soon after me that was in her class because he was more fit and muscular, it almost killed me. The worst was when i called her on being shallow for going out because he is only fit.

Thinking back on it now my life would have been so different if i lost the weight originally but at the same time. But i know now im doing this for myself because im tired of being looked at as the fat guy in the group.

But if i do ever bump into her again.. i do kind of want to make her feel a little guilty on what she has missed out on... after i have lost the rest of the weight of course.

I know this is old, but I had to reply.

I went to college with this one chick. I used to teach fitness then, but I gained about 35-40 lbs by the time I saw her again. We were in the middle of Wal Mart and she asked me very loudly, "What happened?! You used to be soooo..."

I was so heated. But she is not the only one. There are a couple others who did this as well. Like the short muscular twerp @ the gym who told me I was one cheeseburger away. And the people who gave me dumb advuce as if I forgot everything I knew after I got fat. I was in better shape than them, and I will be again I actually told this lady @ the gym that cause she was smirking @ me. Like I was some pathetic fatso cause I was having trouble getting on the bike in cycle class. She never looks my way anymore now.

But neways, I am at peace most times. I use whatever I can to challenge myself when I want to quit. And sometimes it is statements like the ones I mentioned.

Yes, i had a HORRIBLE ex (no exaggeration i swear) who would constantly tell me i was fat that i needed to go exercise and i wasn't even over weight! soo i did lose weight and he always told me well you would look beter 5 lbs ligher :/ and that whole revenge thing never worked on him til i had an ed where i was wayy too skinny. and even then he told me i looked fine..wow lol all that work and all i get is oh u look fine. so now.. my motivation is just for me. and my current boyfriend is very happy w/ the way i look so no pressure from him, which makes me happy :) but in a sick n twisted way revenge weightloss is quite fun, especially when i saw ppl who made fun of me at school who are now heavier than me.