How I ruined my Life(And my diet) in 30 mins.HELP!

I came home and just NEEDED a half cup of ice cream. I could fit it in my calories and figure di deserved a treat. I did that but then felt HORRIBLE. I had alreayd eaten today more than usual and tonight is my father's birthday and we will be going out to eat at an itlaian restaurant( bread and pasta galore). i felt so bad that i eat an oz. of cheese and some crackers and a twizzler. it's only 4:30 and i'm alreayd at 738 calories!!! i feel full and awful and in an hour i won't be full and we won't be eating for another 2, 2 1/2 hours. how will i restrain my hunger, especially sicne tonight i'll be eating more for dinner than usual?? I feel like i've ruin all my progress, my "start new and fresh and healthy" attitude.EVERYTHING. it feels like everyday i make a mistake and have to start over! i'm doing jm 30-day shred and i bike almsot everyday for 20 mins but those ar enot that much. i feel horrible!!!HELP!

Try not to think of starting over the next day but try to get in the habit of staring over there and now and go easy on yourself when yo make a mistake you are human just don't go overboard then it takes so long to correct that mistake, small mistakes are easier to adjust to then a whole day of them. Try not to beso perfect I am speaking from experince here and a whole lot of hard knox here. I have learned to go easy when  make a mistake and correct it right away not all the time but most of the time and then go from there. I hope that helps.

We beat ourselves up sometimes because we seek some sort of perfection.  I think we figure, "If I can't solve the problem, I'll shoot to NEVER repeat it."  This is a scary way to think, and here's why: when we realize we messed up (again and again) and that perfection is a cruel mistress, then we get depressed.  So we eat, thinking "why not" or "I already screwed up today" but that's just an excuse.  What we need to stop doing is over-dramatizing the fact that you had a bowl of ice cream.  Probably 400 calories, some fat, some carbs, but you know what?  The human body is a diligent animal, we need to show it (and ourselves) a little more respect and say "it was just an ice cream".  One bowl, one bump in the road to us feeling better, looking better, being all-around healthier from the inside out.  That's what you need to focus on.  Everything else is our bad habit trying to trick you into continually making wrong choices.  And you know what they say about doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different outcome?  Only crazy people do that.  So ask yourself if you want to continue living like the insane, or focus on your goals and take steps toward them, even if they are smaller steps one day than the next.  You're doing good- keep going. 

Thank you Poppyfire. I'm pretty good at eating healthy but not very good. i eat fruit everyday, try to eat veggies most days, but my snacks are crackers and cheese or granola bars usually and I'm not sure if that's healthy. and dinner(with my parents) isn't always healthy. But they DESPISE it when i don't eat their meals so usually i have to find a way to fit in their 300-calories tortellini or something.

I understand how you feel. I'll eat very well all day and then at night, watch out. I have an added problem with having Diabetes type 2, my glucose often drops at night to very low levels, then I eat to feel physically better.

The dinner with your parents is always a tough one. My situation was with my in-laws. They are great people and mean well. The ironic thing is that my father in law has Type 2 also, but for the longest time didn't care what he ate. I had to travel on business in their town, so i would stay at their house. My mother in law would always cook extra food for me to eat. One night I decide to not be "polite", I refused the extra food, I said, "No Thank You, I have had enough." The response was "We're not going to eat it and if you don't then the dog will have it". I said, "The will dog will have a good meal tonight." My point is that you are in control of what you eat, you are worried about over eating when you are with your parents, because "they will despise it". I have learned that I can't worry about what others want me to do, I do what I want to do, when it comes to eating. Your actions may also lead your parents to look at their own eating habits. My in-laws saw what I was doing and how I felt better. My father in law final decided to take better care of himself. Now, less food is prepared, better foods are prepared and we are all healthier. Your parents will still love you and when they see the changes in you,  for the better, they will understand.

Thank you, i will try portion control but sometimes even the smallest portions of their foods just aren't healthy.

This will most likely really insult your parents, you can bring your food. I friend of my mother-in law has lost over 100 pounds. For the first year of her new lifestyle, she brought all of her own food. She would explain to people that she had started to lose weight and felt really good for the first time in a long time. She enjoyed everyones company, but she always wanted to make sure she ate properly. No one really took offense to her actions, we enjoyed having her at our parties. She know feels in control and understands how to eat at a restaurant, parties etc., so she has what is served in proper portions.

I know it sounds drastic, but remember you are doing this for you.

They'll never let me do that. I couldn't do that.

crazyperson01, you didn't ruin your whole life in 30 minutes! You just went over your calorie count for the day. That's all you did. Went over your calorie count for ONE DAY. Isn't that good news? If you gain weight from it, it will be temporary, not permanent.

So, now what do you do about that? You look at what triggered your desire to eat. Where you over-hungry because you had been restricting calories for a few days? Are you worried about your dinner out with your family? Are you a little mad at your parents because maybe they are not supportive of your efforts? Whatever the reason, sit down and think about it. (Even if you sit down with a cup of ice cream!) Think about it and decide what action, other than eating, you can take to help yourself with your feelings. That will stop your freefall with food. Write, journal, read the forums, read a good book on emotional eating. Take a bike ride and reflect on what is going on in your heart and mind. After you feel full, do something other than eat. Choose an activity that reinforces what you really want - to gain control of the eating. You will find that your stress will lessen.

Also, change your perspective. You are not a failure because one day you went over your desired calorie intake. Some days, you just gotta go with it and then get back on the ole wagon the next day in order to move forward. That is ok to do. The all or nothing thinking will keep you trapped for the rest of your life. Its not all or nothing. Its one day that you needed food to comfort you. That's all it is.

One thing you should NOT do is cut your calories drastically the following day. Do not go below your target to make up for the extra today. You'll get hungry again and feel a need to overeat. Stick to a healthy target and carry forward.