SAHM looking for friends/advice

I am 5'1" and 160 pounds. My goal is 119, but should probably be less given my height. Trying to reach my goal by my 33rd b-day which is 9/17. How did I get this way? Well...two and a half years ago we moved to a new city (dead town, nothing to do, not like the city we moved from). I had just had my second child and we decided to budget everything on my husband's salary so I could stay home. So, the move coupled with the life-style change equaled a 30-pound weight gain. Over the last couple of years I have started down the weight-loss road a half dozen times, but somehow things just fall by the wayside. I need help staying motivated. I would love to have friends out there going through the same thing (all my friends are healthy and are at their ideal weight, but complain that they need to lose...you know the type). This weight has turned me into a hermit. I don't want to socialize because I am fat. I don't want to meet new people, I don't want to go back to my old city and visit with those friends (just two hours away) because I have gained all this weight since seeing them last. They have the skinny me in their minds, they have no idea that I have gained so much weight. I make decisions about EVERYTHING based on how embarassed I am about my weight gain. I don't shop for my new size. I am a stay-at-home mom so why do I need to go throught the anxioty of trying on clothes and trying to make something look good? So I just wear t-shirts and athletic pants (ha! the irony) all the time (or jeans if going out to run errands). When I do go out to dinner, I have nothing to wear. It is like I have never had a body like this to dress and I simply don't know how to look my best, so why try? Why spend the money on "fat clothes" ?It is only temporary, right? I'll get back to my skinny self, right? For the last two weeks I have been wearing a step counter and getting 10,000 steps in a day (anyone know how I can log that in under exersice on this site???) and going on a two-mile walk when it is nice enough out and doing the treadmill when it isn't. I am also trying to up the amount of time I can run. I started out only able to run for one minute intervals. Now I do three. I want to be a runner. I was as a teenager and through college. Last night I went to the Y and did the circuit training. I want to do that twice a week. I also want to get into lifting weights. I just ordered the book The New Rules for Women: Lift Like a Guy, Look Like a Goddess and I plan to incorporate that into my routine. I am, of course, counting calries and eating better. This is difficult. I usually do pretty well for a while, then have a bad day. They bad day trips me up and I have difficulty not beating myself up about it and just moving on eating healthy again.

I to am a SAHM. I have 2 sons and have already lost 13 or 14 lbs. Good Luck!!!

Hi!! SAHM here as well! I have quite a bit more than 30lbs to lose, but I motivation is something I also need a lot of! I tend to get overwhelmed, mess up once & give up entirely. I am working hard to break that pattern. So far so good since I started on Tuesday! Best of luck to you!

what is SAHM?

It means stay at home mom loves.  I am one too.  I also live in jeans and T-shirts.   I don't want to spend the money for something that hopefully will be too big.  Too bad I didn't know I would be this big for so long.  I gained weight after my first child 10 years ago.  I finally got my s@*$  together and started working out at the Y 5 years ago.  I didn't have the food stuff together though so I lost a bit at first and then stayed the same.   Finally this year I got it.  I have lost about 20 pounds with more to go.  My first mini goal is to get below 200. 

WOOHOO....IM a SAHM too! YAY. Right now I am 5'9 220 with a goal of 180, maybe 170. Im large framed.

I too wont buy clothes. My hubby sometimes gets upset because I complain that I have nothing to wear. He wants me to just go buy clothes. Anyway.

I too am following the New rules for women book. Me and hubby bought a complete home gym for the both of us to get into shape. I started lifting 2 weeks ago, I do it 5 days a week alternating between upper and lower body. Its pretty intense, but I love the feeling.  When I am done my A$$ hits the floor!! LOL.

Hi. This is my first time posting. I'm also a SAHM with 4 kids, ranging in age from 2 to 8 yrs old. Constantly running around and looking after 4 kids, you'd think I'd be skinny. Well I'm not. I've been working out since last Jan and watching what I eat. I initially lost about 10 lbs but have been stuck at 155 since last May. I work out 5-6 days/week doing step level 3, power yoga, and advanced body sculpting classes. I work out so hard and watch what I eat and I still can't lose so I'm going to try the "eat more to lose more" approach that everyone is talking about. I'm 5' tall and am also 33. My goal is to get down to 150 by my bday(4/27). Good luck with everything!

Stay At Home Mom

I am also a SAHM of 4 kids ages 3-10.  I am 5' 6 and have been 160 lbs since my fourth child was born.  I have lost 10 lbs since the beginning of this year.  What motivates me is simply wanting to do something for myself.  As a SAHM it seems I spend all my time catering to everyone else's needs so I decided it was time to do something for myself.  I was 140 before I started having kids and that is where I want to be.  I take an hour a day to get on the elliptical and do some light weights.  I tell my 3 and 5 year old to go play.  I deserve the time to help myself and so do you!!  Good luck. 

rock on, SAHM's!  i have noticed it is easy to get sucked into college drama, so it's nice to hear from people like us!  i've got about 45 pounds to lose, last kid is 18 months old and it is time!  i actually got certified as a trainer during that pregnancy to help stay fit, but principles into practice is another story!  i workout HARD 3-5 days a week and i'm just starting to realize i don't get enough calories to lose (concept against my grain!).  my doctor also just informed me my thyroid function was low and put me on meds, but i don't feel anything "kicking in" yet.  i don't want to use that as a crutch and i don't eat JUNK by any stretch, but i do like a good plate of nachos and a cold beer every now and then!

i don't know how the "groups" or "friends" thing works, this is the first bunch of post that seem relatable, but i'd love to be in on whatever the in thing to do is!(not sure that makes sense, but the boys are wrestling under my feet!)

You should use your pedometer steps as an unlogged buffer, and use your 2 mile walks as logged activity.  This will give you a 10,000 step buffer each day, but remember to eat enough calories or your body will hang on to calories you do eat in the form of fat.

WOW!  Thank you for the responses.  It is so inspiring to see that other people can and do relate to what I am going through.  I took special notice of that SAHM who says she finally needed to do something for herself.  That is where I am.  I need to do this for ME!  Thank you!!!!