Same thing, new day

Kelly

I wouldn't beat myself up over it hun. Your doing it for you, not them. Right? I think your doing awesome! Keep up the good work!

Tsk! Tsk! That's just awful. Well, hold your head up high and be proud of YOURSELF! That's what I do. I notice that people sure DON'T seem to ever give any compliements. I do all the time. I also notice that people DON'T know how to simply say "thank you." They either go on to discredit what you just told them or they say nothing. Isn't that the craziest thing? 

Kelly,

You keep on hanging in there.  What do you really expect from the ole in-laws anyway?  Do not let them get you down.  Your beyond that.

You being an Army wife tells volumes.  You are heads beyond where they can only dream of being.  You have experienced more good and bad in a year than they could ever experience in three lifetimes.  It is lonely at the top and you are making your lifestyle changes for you and not for the in-laws. 

Remember this ole saying "If your not the lead dog in a sled dog race team the view is always the same."  Take pride that your are the lead dog and you are blazing the trail.

Keep on Blazing

Roy

U.S. Army Retired

 Kelly

ooohhhh... how fun In-Laws can be!!  Hang in there!!  And Congrats on the weight you have lost!!!

Hang in there!!  Power walk a mile or 2 just to get away for awhile.  Congrats on the loss and keep going with the mini goals!!  You go girl!!

Congratulations, and don't mind them! You're doing this for yourself. Keep your chin up and continue on. :)

maybe they are not saying anything cause they never took that much notice in the first place? that is shit. You just keep going, don't worry about them!

Well done on your weight loss! They're just ignorant - have satisfaction in the fact that you know that you've lost weight :D

grrrr how irritating.
you can reassure yourself with a couple of things:

1. they are getting old and eye-sight is going backwards :P

2. they feel they need to dote upon their son. maybe they can't really tell - they're just saying it to be ego-building parents!?

3. i'm pretty sure OTHER people tell you how great you look and...

4. YOU'RE the one who knows you're 20lbs lighter. that's what counts!

congrats and keep it up!

Is your husband aware of this?  If so, ask him to point out your weight loss to them the next time you all are together.  For instance he could say that his own weight loss pales in comparison to yours.   You need his support in this.  If they are anything like my mother, they resent you for taking away their precious boy.  Mom simply can't pay a compliment to my very lovely sister in law, and she talks behind her back too.  Luckily, my brother knows how to stand up to her.  My own ex mother in law was a vicious woman and my ex husband would side with her to humiliate me.  I know how much it hurts!

Yes, he's aware of it.  He's very supportive of me, and reminds me that she has a huge self-confidence problem, and at times, he just calls it as it is... being a b****. Sigh, I feel bad for him though, after all, she is his mother.   My mil is also a "talk behind their back" person, and is negative about anyone other than her kids.  It just erks me that she is so superficial, and that everything has to be a competition.  For example, we were all at the mall (me, 2 sil, 2 neices and mil), and I found a winter coat on sale for $30 (Ann Taylor even).  It was my size.  Just as I picked it up and was really weighing whether or not I wanted it, she told me she was thinking about buying it for my sil.  "After all, she hasn't had a new coat in years."  Whatever... I know I can get really trivial about it all.  And, in my heart, I know why she does it.  Because I'm so great and she can't stand it!  LOL UGH

My mil and sil act the same way with me.  I think that they want me to stay fat...It makes them feel better about themselves. 

Just know the best revenge will be when you have reached your next goal!  Congrats on your weight loss!

(((HUGS)))

Wow...she is a bitch. Is it ok to say that word? Anyway, dont let it bother you Kelly. You know, hubby knows, and thats all the important people covered. Some people cant stand to see anyone do better, be better or any other better than their own. They see their children as an extension of themselves so its a "me me" situation. Hold your head high and be proud, youre doing great!

You are not missing anything. I hate when people "complement" me on how I've lost weight. It's my body - whether it's fat or skinny - who are they to judge it? I usually accurately and dispassionately describe how my weight has been changing the last few weeks or so and then ask them if their weight has changed.