Self Esteem

For the last two days I have been eating healthy and feel better already.  I put lotion on my feet, legs, and arms and I realized that when I eat less I treat myself good in other ways.  I don't smoke quit three and a half years ago.  I don't drink haven't for five years.  We won't even discuss sex its nonexistent but when I weighed less I had plenty.  I looked at pretty clothes today and it didn't depress me it just reminded me of how much fun it use to be to shop for pretty clothes especially lingerie(X sizes not comfortable or sexy to me).  I bought a power bar today and the lady at the check stand said that the one I bought is really good and helps her with the cravings.  I looked at her and she was thin, and the cravings well I know what those are so I bought a few.  The energy bar did help with the carvings when I was out shopping but I don't want to get into the habit of replacing food with the bar.  I am rambling I hope everybody had a successful day.  I am thankful for this site it is fun to count out everything more fun than writing on paper.  I love the letter grade. I quit smoking and quit drinking with a support system and I hope I get some support here and I will also try to give support. 

MAR

Good for you looking at so many positive things in your day. We all know how important the little things are to remember when the bad days come back. Keep up the good work!

marilynlg ::Giant hug::  

This is one of the most positive things I have read this week.  I have been very sick and I have not even logged my food.  I still have what I learned rolling around in my head but I am only half arse applying it.  But if someone can give up so much for so long, certainly I can too once I get healthy again?    Count me as a friend.  I feel like chimp pooh at the moment so I think I am going to ride your coat tails for a bit, if thats ok?  ~ Lost Artist
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That is great,  marilynlg.

One of the things I've noticed is I'm focusing more on me. Might sound very selfish, but after trying to hide myself behind my weight, I'm now putting myself front and center. Taking more time on making myself both look and feel good.

I treat myself to manicures, mudmasks, sexy boots, curling my hair. I strut more, smile more, engage in harmless flirting. And as I open up to everyone around me, the more they give me in return.

So feel good about yourself, marilynlg. You're doing this for YOU. Get out there and strut your stuff.

Love your attitude. Don't forget to use your journal and if you fill in your profile friends can get to know you better.  It really helps when you find you thoughts are rambling or you want to make note of all your successes, and sometimes there will be set backs. You can track all of these with your journal, which will help in developing you healthier lifestyle and making new friends. 

Yes,  I need to start journaling but its been a task to log and post in the forum but it will come.  There is alot to do and look at on this website.

I hope your feeling better lost_artist. 

wrrly you said you were focusing more on yourself heck no not selfish.  My attitude is time to focus on myself and start working on the outside because the inside feelings pretty good.

I went out to lunch today to buffet and it was interesting a place that is so easy to binge but I didn't.  My attitude is so different this time.  When I see high calorie foods I imagine a skull with cross bones and it works.  So I had sushi, piece of pork, and cabbage oh and a little fruit. 

We are all in this together and its so great to be able to post and read others posts.

Hug

Marilyn      &n bsp;

Oh! must tell, Slim Fast has a Banana Nut Muffin Bar. Its little BUT it really replaces my big muffin that I use to have with my coffee.  I just eat really small pieces and the biggest thing I heat it up 15sec in microwave so it really seems bad. lol BUT IT ISN'T

Thats a great way to look at life Mar. You continue thinking of whats right for you and just how important you are and it will happen. So many things change when we feel happy with who we are. Loving ourselves is the first and biggest step to true happiness.

Thanks! tinav hope your doing well.

Marilyn

I found a good way to lower self-esteem start eating like a pig again.  I wish I could just quit beating up on myself its done, over and doesn't have to repeated.  A new day a new start.  I love the twenty-four hour concept.  I can do anything for twenty-four hours and those twenty-four hours add up and weight is lost. I feel like I'm back on track.  I've made no New Years resolution I don't do that.  My weight is a problem and has been all my life.  I have to working on my weight no matter what.  I have a personal trainer now, and she is going to help me be accountable to her and that will increase my self-esteem.  So off I go hope everyone is having a good day.

 

Marilyn

Here's something I have been staring at as I work on my treadmill: Nourish yourself.  Love yourself enough to nourish yourself.  Sit down to a hot meal every day and take care of you- we women tend to give to every one else and then forget ourselves.  Reading over and over again little articles keeps me from staring at the numbers when I am on the treadmill- I only went that far??  Dang.  Instead I look and read little motivational blurbs.  Otherwise I would not go into our cold cold car port garage and get on the treadmill.  I am for sure working on losing flab but am also on the path to better health.  Have a marvelous day!  You can do it.

Thank you for the suggestion.  

Original Post by poetnw:

we women tend to give to every one else and then forget ourselves. 

You said it!  I think that's the #1 way to improve self esteem!  As a mom to 3 young kids I often forget to take care of myself.  And the unfortunately thing is that now my family comes to expect me to put myself last.  When I try to take care of me...exercise, read a book, cook a healthy meal I either get interupted or completely derailed because someone needs something.  It's frustrating, but I suppose sooner or later they'll get used to it if I stick with it.

I totally understand being side tracked with children.  My children are adults and between them and there father it was rough.  You do need to take care of you and you said that, your no good to them sick.  My daughter has teenagers and she sets aside time for herself getting a pedicure, or a manicure.  I never did that when my children were little wished I would have.  I'd take them shopping buy them clothes and go without.   I have no children or anyone else but my cat and myself and its wonderful.  I do have to be careful not to emotional eat I did alot of that threw the holidays.  Well I'm getting wordy.

Take Care

Marilyn

Marilyn,  not wordy...just right!  I tried to teach my 6 year old today about New Years Resolutions.  He's going to work on being kind and using a quietier voice and I told him I was going to resolve to take care of myself better.  And wouldn't you know it first thing he said was "when you exercise you have less time for me".  So I pointed out that if I don't exercise I could get sick and then I wouldn't even be here to spend time with him.  I think he finally got the point

No, you are not being wordy.  You are just saying what you feel you need to say.  I just found this thread again- glad I did.  I promise to head back to the treadmill now!  A funny incident happened to my family many years back- we lived in a down at heels trailer park and a neighbor lady kept borrowing toilet paper- her daughter hid it in a paper bag!  We said that we could only give so much or we would be out and be borrowing back!!  It is hard to draw the line but so very needed.  In the case of a child, it is good for them to know that there are limits and some times they need to just be- somewhere else.  Just BE.  They can find something to do that does not involve Parent Entertainment.  Ha ha.  Mommys and Daddys are not robots.  Maybe this is mean love.  Anyway, keep on finding ways to love you.  I'll do the same- here I go into the very cold garage to exercise. 

Poet, thanks for the story.  It does make sense!  My treadmill is in the room over my garage and it's so cold in there in the winter...about 50 to 55 degrees so I hear you!  Of course, I still haven't made it to the treadmill this week, but I'm hoping once the kids go back to school tomorrow that I can spare at least 30 minutes and get in a little walking.