Self Sabotage?

OK...I know this is going to sound ridiculous. But why so I sabotage myself? I have always struggled with my weight and I have a strong desire to get in shape. I find myself getting super pumped about it, going to the gym, eating right, drinking tons of water...then I make that one exception. "I guess I can have one coke". Then it's, "Well I'll go to the gym tomorrow". Before I know it, I am feeling defeated and stop trying all together. The strange thing is that I realize I am making the wrong choice, and in that moment I rationalize it. Then I am guilt ridden and in order to forget about it, I just stop trying all together. I am so frustrated with myself! :(

I totally understand, I do the same exact thing.  Except for me I'll plan on eating healthy, even bring food to work and end up ordering a big mac at mcd's.  Its hard but you just have to accept your slip up and get back on the horse.  Sometimes (at least for me) getting back up can take some time, just make sure u get back up. 

Over the years I have figured out 2 things about my 'self sabotage' one its a lot worse when i'm depressed or stress...its like f* it, it's not like anything make a difference.  And two my trigger food, well in this case drink, is soda.  I could have been going good for months and bam one glass of soda and then I crave a seconded and then something else evil and you get the point.

Don't give up!!!  Forgive ur slip up and believe u are with these changes u are making in yourself.

Good luck

Well, I think it is about giving ourselves permission.  I am pretty tired so this might not make much sense. 

But what would happen if you just gave yourself permission to have a coke?  Without guilt or remorse?  just simply - "I am going to have a coke."

I bet you would not feel as inclined to stiff yourself on your work outs. 

I had to really talk to myself about this stuff.  I am no paragon of clean eating.  But when life became all about avoiding guilt it became unbearable.  Everything I did seemed to be frought with the possibility that it would create guilt.  After a while you cant do anything.

So I had to shake myself a bit.  I am an adult.  Adults can have 1 coke, 1 cookie, 1 day off and not totally lose it.  I am an adult.

Oh I know - does not make much sense.  But just telling myself that as an adult I can do things without feeling guilty helped me a lot.  Without the guilt hanging over my head I dont even want to do or eat half the stuff that is so bad for me anyway.  All pressure is off.  I feel liberated. 

Ok...laugh if you want to.  But it might be worth a shot.  It worked for me.

I'm with madamq on this, I'm allowed what ever I want or a day off, I just know I either won't loose as much that week or I have to compensate buy upping exercise another day. I just look at a brownie and thing OK so that is x less dinner or y more elliptical or I might not loose a whole pound this week..... do I still want it? If I decide yes I stop thinking about it after that I haven't done anything wrong I made a decision to 'pay' for my food. The problem only come if you eat unknowingly.... ie heavier me just put food in her mouth and didn't think about consequences.

I am guilty of sabotage too! Just last night I sat down with some popcorn and my measuring cup. All I wanted to do was eat popcorn "like a normal person". Asking myself "Why am I cursed with having to measure popcorn? Will I really do this for the rest of my life??" I felt ridiculous but I took a deep breath and grabbed my cup and measured it out. Then, I ate some more without measuring....in a matter of minutes I had gone off plan. I'm still shaking my head over it. My mistake was having the popcorn nearby. But today is another day and I'm back; smarter and with a plan for the next bag! :) Sooner or later that little voice that says "If you eat it, you'll have the craving out of the way and you can move on." or "Accept yourself the way you are...after all genetics are genetics." or "You're older now, why do you care?" will SHUT UP, move out, and leave me in peace! LOL

Thanks, guys. The silly thing is I am just going to have to stop doing it! Every since writing this post I have been finding it easier, haha. I guess writing it out made me realize that I am really making the wrong choices. I'll keep you guys posted. I need to drop about 30lbs...