Serious upheaval in my personal life and unable to exercise...

Just three days ago, my boyfriend and I of broke up. We've been together for almost 7 years-I am distraught. He and I would go to the gym 5 days a week together. I am so emotionally exhausted that I find myself unable to get myself to the gym, especially since its a place that he and I used to go to all the time. My mother told me to count this week as a loss, and to try again next week.

I just need some inspiration to get myself back to the gym and back on the right (healthy) track.

Ouch.  I'm sorry.  I like your mother's advice though.  Be kind to yourself, baby yourself, feel sorry for yourself for a few days, then start again next week.  One week off won't kill you.  I'm taking a week off starting Mon just because I am feeling burnt out.  Good luck to you. 

If you change your exercise habits...........at least on that level he wins , you lose!  If there is a chance that this relationship might be revived be ready for it!

Awww shoot! I'm sorry that it didn't work out.

You could use some distractions in your life right about now. Hang out with the girls. Do some window shopping. Go for a hike. Getting yourself right emotionally is all a part of being a healthy person. It's no big deal if you take a little time to mope around. Just make sure you come back around and live life as you normally would...if you need some counseling at some point, that's ok too but it sounds like it's just the normal, crappy breakup emotions that you're going through right now. Stay strong!

Get back to it.  The longer you wait the harder it will be starting back up.  Some things you could do to get you motivated:

- Find a new training partner

- Schedule for a class (Yoga, Spinning, etc.)

- Put your workout clothes on. (Just being in workout clothes gets my mind focused on actually doing it.)

- Just do it for a few minutes. (Something is better than nothing and you may end up going longer.)

So sorry.  7 years is a big chunk of your life so give yourself a little time to morn.  Mom is right.  Next week will be the start of you new life and although change can be hard, it can also be the best thing that ever happens!  You are a beautiful young woman with a bright future.  I say his loss and best of luck to you!

Don't be too hard on yourself right now. Your dealing with a serious loss and taking time to deal with your feelings is good. You'll get your energy back soon and you'll be all ready to go again. Good luck and i hope you feel better soon!

I'm so sorry, I know how hard this is for you.

How about taking some walks?  That would get you outside and at least keep you in the mindset of being active, but not forcing yourself to do something you don't feel like doing right now.  And walking is a great way to be alone and think things through, figure out where you want to go from here.

I know it's probably cold where you are, but bundle up and go.  Sometimes cold weather walks are really good for clearing your head. 

I agree with shandy cat. At least get outside--the sun and fresh air wherever you are will help enormously. Don't hibernate and isolate too much. My best..

Thanks for the advice everyone. Part of my fear about going back to the gym is the fact that he was my gym partner-we would go to the gym together almost every single day and he was my biggest motivator and supporter when it came to losing weight and exercising. So while I know that I need to get back there, to go alone feels weird and I know will be really painful. I guess I'm just going to have to suck it up and try to get through it. I guess Monday will be my first day on my own at the gym...we'll see how it goes.  

Thanks again everyone.

Hey girl maybe it won't be as bad as you think, also consider not going alone. Ask a friend to join you and if the two of you use to hit the machines then take a class, meet some new people. Remember right now it's all about feeling good so you can get through this and it just doesn't feel too good when you stop taking care of yourself physically. If your in the NYC area I workout in NYSC wouldn't mind meeting you to workout together. Also if you dress a wee bit warmer running around the reservoir in Central Park is not only GREAT physically but the scenery is gorgeous! I'm rooting for you babe!

thank you so much for the offer! That's very sweet of you. I am actually in Albany, but if I were in NYC I would def hit up the gym with you :) I'm trying to stay strong. Thank you for the support!!

Jetlee1222, I am sorry to hear about  this and wish you all the best.  I just would like to know if you are feeling bad because the gym reminds you with him or you are just afraid you might run into him there? as you said he works out there too. 

by the way, I am in NYC too so if you feel like you need some change, come to the city and we will hang out together:) Also, I will give you a  guest pass so you can work out in my gym , one of the best places in the city. Maybe feelfit2day can would like to join us.

Safina- Thats so sweet of you. I know I won't see him there because he moved out and I know he won't go to the same gym. It's just I know I will be reminded of him every time I walk in there. I actually have thought about moving to NYC, its a mecca for lawyers :) If I end up down there, I will def let you know.

Good morning:) 

Good to hear from you. I know how you feel. It will get better. NYC is a great place. why not? think about it. Actually, I met with a sweet person who works as a lawyer in NYC through CC :)) maybe you guys will have so much to talk about