seriously depressed :'(

i dont feel like i'm getting anywhere. its been like 2 months and i've lost 3 pounds. just 3. yesterday i weighed myself and once again, i'm 122.2. so i was depressed and ate 1700 calories yesterday. and today i ate 1500. i feel so fat right now and i'm seriously considering going back to my crash-diet days. i KNOW i shouldn't and i KNOW it'll just throw me backwards, but i just want to see the numbers go lower :( i just want to be happy. and thin. i feel like i'm getting fatter. but maybe that's because i pigged out today and i'm all bloated and crap.

i need some encouragement, please :(

stats - 14 yrs, 5'8'' 122 lbs

age? height?

caallmm down darling. I was in the same boat a few months ago--I lost 4 pounds in four months--and I know how frustrating it is, feeling like you're doing everything you possibly can and not seeing results. Do you exercise? And how many calories do you intake daily? Those facts might help.

well i dont usually eat as much as i did yesterday and today. i usually eat about 1000 to 1400- sometimes i just dont have time to eat on school days. i do exercise- on top of gym class and basketball practice i've been trying to go on some runs, but not that much= ive been building up my stamina little by little.

i'm just so sick of this :(

oh, darling, you should be eating loads more. Trust me. I was exercising and not counting calories for a long while and lost about thirty pounds. When I started counting, eating very very little, I stopped losing. It wasn't until I started eating more that I started losing again. You should probably be eating as much as you did today and yesterday EVERY day. I know you've heard it a million times before, but you should NOT be eating so little! Maybe aim for 1300-1400 at least instead of 1000-1400.

but i didnt think i was eating that little! i just hate eating that much because my stomach gets all bloated and fat looking...so do you think if i just made a regular workout schedule and ate more i would lose? because i'm getting NOWHERE. whats your reccomendation for a workout schedule? if you dont mind :)

well, I started doing just cardio 3 times a week for, believe it or not, 5 minutes! But I kept adding more and more, and a few months later I was doing 30 minutes of cardio 4-5 times a week. I was losing like CRAZY--until I started counting and did the stupid thing, which was eating like 800 calories a day or less. Before that, I was probably eating at maintenance. If you eat at or a few hundred calories below maintenance and do a reasonable amount of cardio, you should lose weight steadily. [And it doesn't seem like you've got much to lose--you're already at a great weight! But, of course, it's your choice and I can't talk you down.] I think you should try to do as much cardio as you can 4-5 times a week. Do a little at a time and work up to more, like I did. You can probably aim for a small deficit because you haven't got a lot of weight to lose. SO, basically, eat at maintenance, exercise, and you'll be a loser in no time ;D

Am I the only one who thinks it's unhealthy for a 14 year old girl who is 5'8" 122 lbs to be trying to lose weight?

yeah i'm really bad with cardio- i cant go very long. but i'll just work my way up to it!!! so...maintenence, eh? ok, so 1700 it is :)

No. You're 14 years old and bordering on underweight.

STOP COUNTING! 

I started having anxiety attacks when I tried to stop counting altogether.. it's just not that easy to stop.

lighterrose--

You need to face the facts:  you are not fat, you are very thin and underweight.  I've been on this site since mid-July and I've seen many of your posts and SOOOO many people are trying to give you advice, but you don't seem to listen.  You are only 14 and if you keep this frame of mind up, you will have serious problems in the future (if you don't already do).  Take care of yourself.  Stop counting and obsessing.  There's more to life at your age than counting how many stinking calories you consume a day.  Start living you life and enjoy being a teenager.  Best of luck...I do wish you'd start listening to all the advice you are asking for.

"I started having anxiety attacks when I tried to stop counting altogether.. it's just not that easy to stop."

I'm sorry, but that means you have serious problems that need professional attention.

I was ordered to stop counting by a nutritionist. Yes I was scared but in retrospect she was right and it was something that had to be done. 

You can stop counting, as difficult as it seems at first. 

no, i cant stop. i wish i could- i wish i could be a normal teenager, but sadly enough EVERY TEENAGER counts. and i've been concerned about my weight since BEFORE 4th grade. you cant just stop doing something after it being a habit for 4 years. i'm scared if i stop i'll gain weight and thats the last thing i want right now.

stop counting...yeah i know, but it cant happen.

I wish I could drag you into the future.  I know so many who look back and think why did I think I used to think I was fat. 

I know we cant be your eyes but know that we are not all conspiring - you certainly are not overweight and it sound like you body is telling you as well that you are trying to get to a weight for your height that is underweight.  The last few pounds are always the hardest but if what you were attempting was a natural weight for your size, it wouldnt be THIS hard.

I hope you get to go out buy some clothes and see how wonderful you look in them.  Im the first to sympathize with someone struggling to lose weight but my heart goes out to you because you think  5'8'' at 122 lbs is overweight. 

You need to go to your parents right now and tell them you have an eating disorder and need help.

Your perceptions of food, weight, and eating are totally abnormal, and need to be corrected. 

 

if you think i'm totally abnormal, then every single teenage girl out there would be abnormal too. i'm NOT anorexic anymore. i'm actually eating in the DOUBLE DIGITS now. i know i have a messed up view point- but everybody does. and i'll feel better about myself soon.

"if you think i'm totally abnormal, then every single teenage girl out there would be abnormal too. i'm NOT anorexic anymore. i'm actually eating in the DOUBLE DIGITS now. i know i have a messed up view point- but everybody does. and i'll feel better about myself soon."

Right, you'll feel better about yourself soon. Because it's been 4 years at this point, and clearly nothing has changed since then.

Why are you doing this to yourself? You're ruining your life for absolutely no reason. 

You're in denial. Everything you've posted indicates you are anorexic and you need help.

You really believe every teenage girl counts calories? Most adults don't even know the definition of a calorie.

no, youre wrong. things HAVE changed in four years. i WAS anorexic- i was eating 100 calories a day. now i'm eating more than 1000-1200 calories a day- i'd say that's a GOOD CHANGE. i've gotten a healthier viewpoint on everything.

and, excuse me, i'm ruining my life? i have a good life. i'm in no way ruining it- i'm trying to make it better. i'm not in denial. i KNOW what i'm going through right now- its LOW SELF ESTEEM.

yeah every teenage girl counts calories. take a poll on the street and you'll find that 9/10 of them are unhappy with how much they weigh.

"no, youre wrong. things HAVE changed in four years. i WAS anorexic- i was eating 100 calories a day. now i'm eating more than 1000-1200 calories a day- i'd say that's a GOOD CHANGE. i've gotten a healthier viewpoint on everything. "

Healthier does not equal healthy. You are too young to be eating that little. Too young to be underweight. What you are doing is still unhealthy, whether you want to recognize it or not.

"and, excuse me, i'm ruining my life? i have a good life. i'm in no way ruining it- i'm trying to make it better. i'm not in denial. i KNOW what i'm going through right now- its LOW SELF ESTEEM."

How will this make it better? You're playing Russian Roulette with your body. 

"yeah every teenage girl counts calories. take a poll on the street and you'll find that 9/10 of them are unhappy with how much they weigh."

They may be unhappy with their weight, but that does not mean they count calories.

Counting calories is nothing but fuel for your eating disorder.

You can ignore everyone who is telling you to get help, or you could look in the mirror and realize that you're on a path towards self destruction.

The choice is yours. 

even if i did have a problem, i couldnt tell my parents. i have nobody to tell.  theres nothing i could do about it.

id have to deal with it on my own- which is what i've been doing.