Set a challenge and ask for help

Hi, If you have a problem with your weight gain and need answers and help to overcome these problems. Then need people to be on your case asking how you are doing with your problems that you are tackling. Maybe we could post it here?

Right now I am having trouble with

the last half stone gaining

eating fats (ed saying not to)

exercising more

not wanting snacks

My alternative answers are

I will try to

remind myself i need to eat 3 meals and snacks if gaining or maintaining and i need to gain more weight, so

eat fats

find distractions

eat snacks that i want (cause i need to to gain and maintain)

illusion it really is the ed talking dont listen , think hard what do you want ? a life plagued with illness , bones of an 80 year old a life controlled with calories and weight . i dont think you do you want a life to be healthy and to be able to go out and do all the things you want to  do . i know its not easy but please battle on , its not only your body thats starved its your mind to . this isnt about getting big or fat its about restoring your weight to the minimal it should be preparing your orhans bones everything . you feel your ok but your not . im 27 know and have had this illness for 14 my bmi is 16 know but i still feel very weak i have osteophrosis and generally feel unwell. when i was in my teens and early twentys and this bmi i felt ok to . as time goes on your more damage is done . dig hard dig deep find the strength you need to do this know for you xx

Thanks helen, your advice is always so logical and well.. good!

I think I know logically that I need to gain to be healthier but when I look in the mirror I look normal, even wanting to lose a few pounds, I don't feel "sick" enough to have to "recover" or to gain..

But screw that, that's ED talking. I think next week i'm going to talk with my psychologist about this as I have barely scratched the surface of this subject with her.

Although I'm feeling like this, on a positive note, I actually ate a substantial amount today which included fruits, ww bread, peanut butter, vegetables, muesli and cheese! :)

well done i know its hard but it will get easier , defo talk to you psychologist you will be able to help you. dont look in the mirror lol , dont mean to sound funny i used to do this all the time and it caused me so much grief you need to go with the statistics . well done in not letting this slip you bk h xx

Thanks yeah I will definitley try not to look in the mirror!

Okay i'm setting a challenge for myself tomorrow, no body checking! Mirror only allowed if I'm getting ready to go out somewhere (i.e. doing hair/makeup) but apart from that, mirrors are banned.

I wonder if I can extend this further, hopefully!